d0620 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I have tried NC before a couple months ago. He forced me after telling me not to contact him again and ignoring me 3 days straight. Then on the 30th day he called me asking to meet up and go to dinner. Then the FWB starts again. I guess my question is: if I am not strong enough to go complete NC can I work my way up to it? I use to see him 3-4 times a week and talk to him everyday. I haven't seen him in going on 3 weeks and he has asked to see me several times and I always said this is not the kind of relationship I am looking for and if I change my mind I will let you know. I stuck to that for 3 weeks straight. We also don't talk only text with these two answers. I figure in time I can just slowly get away instead of it being so drastic. It's getting easier and easier daily but when I let go completely I feel like I am having a panic attack. Before I thought about him all day and now I only think about him in the morning when I wake up and at night when I go to sleep. Before I use to ride by his house to see if a car was in his driveway and now I just get a passing thought at night and don't act upon it. I have replayed things he said in my mind that made me realize he doesn't love me or quite frankly respect me. I did this to myself. Now I need to undo it but I would like to do it at my own pace because I don't have a supportive family or close friends.
OzHeartache Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Don't you think its a bit like a band aid ? Wouldn't it hurt less to rip it off quick rather than little by little ?? I know you think you will have to do it alone as you say you have no family but..... there are plenty of people here that will support you
aisuru Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 You deserve better. Accept it's over. Stay no contact. Write his contact info on a piece of paper and tuck it in your underwear drawer. Then, you delete him from all social media, email contact lists, and your phone. If you have to, go online to your cell phone account and block his number there as well. You deserve better. Say it over and over and over until you believe it. In 3, 6, or 12 months, you may not care. Then you can decide what to do with that piece of paper in your underwear drawer. 1
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