philiip214 Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I just broke up with my girlfriend of one year, and she is so hurt, and I dont know what is best to do for her. I understand that different people go through different phases and ways of coping, but I just want to make her feel better somehow. I know that I wont make her feel better right away, and the only way to get over this is time, but I dont want to say something, do something, or not say something/do something that will make things worse for her. I broke up with her because I didn't think she was the one for me anymore. She is a great girl, and it just sucks because she didn't do anything wrong, and I don't want her thinking that she did anything wrong. I just didn't have the feeling, and I thought it would be better for us to just take a break and end it, because that wouldn't be fair to her if I faked my way through a relationship hoping that things would get better. Shes a great girl and I just want what is best for her. I was thinking about turning to some of her friends, and telling them to help me out and be with her, and talk to her, because right now, shes alone a lot more than she should be. But should i be the one talking to her about things? Or am i just making it worse by being there because i am delaying her coping by her seeing me? I dont really know what to do or what to say to her more than i already said to her. So if anyone has any advice or has gone through a break up and can tell me what they needed from ther ex boyfriend, that would be great. I could really use the help. Thanks a lot. [color=blue][/color]
polycube Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 you need to dissapear from her life, and never call her again. if you want to help her and you know shes not the one for you , you need to dissapear completely from her life. that way she can move one and meet new people. right now every time you call her or talk to her , email her you are delaying the process.
littleandy Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Ive recently split up with my gf i wanted her back an i thought we could get back together she has treated me really bad i wish she had just told me straight up instead of saying i want to be freinds, if i didnt want her back an didnt think we would of got back together i might of felt different but the way we split up really hurt me My advice ( i wouldnt listen to me tho ) would be to tell her what you want. All people act differently as u said , i think the the only thing that will help me is TIME and going out an trying to have fun.
Joyce Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Just make sure she understands why you broke up. Answer any questions she has so that her mind is not left wondering what she did wrong. It will mess with her mind if you tell her how great she is and you care about her. Don't be rude but I don't think you should tell her that. After you have answered any questions she might have then you should leave her alone. Tell her that NC is best so that you both can move on with your lives. She will turn to her friends when she is ready.
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