Estate Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 What do the good folks of LS think of this. You meet someone, you like them, they seem cool but ultimately they might be and 8 or 9 on your personal idea of a partner, not quite a 10. So while you enjoy spending time with them, they might be very attractiv and you enjoy your time with them, you kinda know... you won't be with this person forever. Do you still date them sometimes? Like maybe you like the idea of dating for a few months but have it in the back of your mind you might have to call it a day at some point? I'm like that with lots of girls I've met lately. They've been great, but I've shyed away from things after a few dates, I don't want to lead them on if I'm only 90% sold on them. I'd like a relationship though but I don't know how I feel about just giving a girl a try for a few months, it might grow into something but if I feel it might not, I don't know if I want to take the chance. Strange feeling.
curlygirl40 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Well I guess it depends on your intensions and how honest you're being. In reading your post it kind of seems like you're describing 2 different scenarios. In one, you know the person is not going to work for you for a relationship but you keep them around to have someone to date, and in the other you say maybe if you keep dating it might grow into something. I think it's completely normal for you to date someone for 2-3 months before you really know if you can be with that person. There's a bit of a honeymoon phase where everything is rosey and you need to see beyond that, see that real person before you know if you can see yourself with that person for the long term. But yet on the other hand, if after 3 dates (as an example) you know for sure that it won't work out but you keep them around just to have someone to date then that's deceptive to an extent unless you're honest with the other person about being unsure.
2sure Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I have no problem at all casually dating someone I know I have no future with. I never have. To me, it's like not taking a few classes in kayaking or not getting season tickets for a theater because I don't want to do it for the rest of my life. Live n the present. But don't lead anyone on.
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