younglove17 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 (edited) Hi everyone, I'm really confused about my recent breakup... So here's the deal, we were dating for 5 months which i know doesn't seem like long but I was his first gf and also i am older by about a year and a half (and i don't want any judgement on that) so it was surprisingly long lasting and mature. he was also my best friend and i was his. long story short, i was in an abusive relationship before him, and he kind of patched me up. But about three weeks ago, he was fine one day and the next he seemed very distant. I respectfully gave him space but when we did talk, things escalated (not a fight but he was being incredibly cold and unclear in what he wanted) so i ended things and all he said was "thank you." But no less than an hour later he texted me saying how sorry he was and how much he loved me and that he was just questioning himself lately. that should have been a major red flag but i stupidly took him back. Finally, near the end of the day we were talking again and i told him i knew he needed to figure out what he wanted and he said yes he was sorry but he was losing feelings for me and he wanted to break up. I thanked him for everything and wished him the best. Two days later I was still very unsatisfied and confronted him and he confirmed (like I thought on that first day) that he was starting to have feelings for someone else. I said good luck and left things open for friendship. He however has done nothing but be cruel - glaring at me, unfriending me on facebook etc. oh yeah and that girl? Apparently they were together a week later, that's what i heard. talk about heartbreak... speeding up a bit to now, all his guy friends are acting like we are still together although we have complete NC. Also he is apparently no longer with or never was with the other girl. All his teammates have focused their attention on me, calling me by his last name and telling him to go talk to me but he seems to be the only one who ignores me, acts like i don't exist. I just want the drama to end, and i'd like to know how he's feeling but i have no way of doing that. i know some of his buddies are slamming him for breaking up with a "hot" (that's what they say) older girl. but all i care about is if it's possible that he just does not care anymore and is trying to move on or if he is truly beginning to feel "dumper's regret." phew that was long! thanks for reading Edited May 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I think(personally) he has checked out. I don't know what else to say beyond that. Sorry..
aisuru Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Go one month no contact and see how you feel then. Right now, emotions are too high for anything reasonable to be accomplished. 1
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