Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 You have a bright future. That's a huge one. Well thanks lol I just have no idea what I am doing in the future lol I just need someone to tell me what to do?
amaysngrace Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Well thanks lol I just have no idea what I am doing in the future lol I just need someone to tell me what to do? Do what line of work interests you or else you could end up hating your job. You'll be much more successful if you truly like what you do. 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Imperfect, here are a few things about you that will make you a good AND BAD girlfriend: - you are loyal and really seem to like the guys your with. The right guy will love a girl who clearly demonstrates that they only have them on their mind - you have time to spend on a guy you like - you want to have a serious relationship that is meaningful and last a long time - plenty of men want a girl with your mind set - your pretty and will be very attractive to a lot of guys out there - you are getting your degree - a lot of guys prefer a women who is college educated and this will give you more dating options ........................... Okay, now here come the bad.......! - you seem too desperate for a 2 yr old to find the right guy NOW, when you should be focusing on how to be happy on your own without a guy - you come off as too clingy and too invested in the guys you are with, and you need to let things just happen, instead of trying to make everything work; maybe it is not SUPPOSED to work with every guy you date! ....................... Now, apart from being too desperate to find the right guy, your actually a unique girl who has a lot to offer a man. You REALLY.. SERIOUSLY need to be single until you realise that you do not NEED a guy any time soon! Once you are comfortable on your own, you will be in the right mindset to date properly! It will get easier to be alone and just remember it is NOT forever! You WILL find the right guy, once you let go of the idea completely for a while. 3
Tinie Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 You said something along the lines of wanting this guy so that you'll stop missing Andy. Well sheesh. Military man here sounds like a rebound guy.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 IIB you know you can't make someone like you. (do you re-read your posts before you post them, serious). Also, that when somebody DOES like you, that is not a thing that is going to provide you with all the happiness and fulfillment you need in life. That attitude is an enemy of a good relationship. And, if having a cute boy to date is what it takes to make you "nice," then you probably should work on your character a bit. 1
pteromom Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Rather than focusing on making him like you, you need to focus on figuring out if you like HIM. You may be intrigued by him so far, but when you date him, ask yourself... - does he seem to want the same things I want? - are his values and morals in line with mine? - do we seem to "get" each other and communicate well? - does he have a healthy outlook on life, love, relationships? - is he respectful and kind? Those are the types of things you need to be thinking about. You can't give HIM all the power by trying to make him like you, and then being devastated if he doesn't. Take it one step at a time, and stay in control of what you choose for your own life! 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 The thing I'm most worried about with him is that he is atheist... I do agree I shouldn't need a guy to be nice but when I'm with someone I get happy and it reflects in everything
zanzi Posted May 19, 2013 Posted May 19, 2013 I graduated last Saturday lol The thing is I understand there's a lot I can do and want to do but I miss having someone to talk to all the time and kiss and hug and be cute with who like really cared if I was having a good day you know? I mean what I am going to do with myself next is important for sure but idk I just miss having someone. I'm not going to trick him into getting me pregnant because I do know I want to go to grad school and that would be hard with a baby... But 22 is not getting any younger for finding a spouse, it seems young to you all but if I go to grad school next year at 23 I will graduate at 25-26 then get a job and then what? If I have no man by then then what happens to me? I will be nearly 30 with no relationship while all my friends are getting married having babes. My best friend just moved in with her bf... What am I doing? out of curiosity, what did you study in college?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 out of curiosity, what did you study in college? Justice Studies
zanzi Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 then haven't you proved to yourself that you are capable of a great deal? You may think a man will solve all your problems. That attitude is only going to put men off. If you do end up with someone who is similarly needy, that would be an even worse disaster. Now you have finished your studies and started an internship, why then are you concerned so intensely with having a "partner." You may think a partner would be your other half, this is wrong. You are your whole. Half a person has nothing to offer a sensible guy. Why do you seek validation through another person?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 20, 2013 Author Posted May 20, 2013 then haven't you proved to yourself that you are capable of a great deal? You may think a man will solve all your problems. That attitude is only going to put men off. If you do end up with someone who is similarly needy, that would be an even worse disaster. Now you have finished your studies and started an internship, why then are you concerned so intensely with having a "partner." You may think a partner would be your other half, this is wrong. You are your whole. Half a person has nothing to offer a sensible guy. Why do you seek validation through another person? I just miss having someone. I feel good about myself when I have someone. It's like this feeling of like "omg someone wants me and likes me and wants to spend their free time with me, I must be pretty cool!" Like idk I can't explain it I am just so happy when I'm with someone. Like the happiest. I think it's worse now that I am graduated and looking for jobs because at least while I was in school I felt like I had time, now I don't. I know there is time but it really needs to hurry lol it is worse now because at this point in my life (the next 2-3 years) I need to worry about that stuff. I really think if I had a guy now I would be happy all the time and stress free, I was perfectly happy with Andy, things changed when he changed and stopped spending time. I just think I don't have time anymore to keep pointlessly dating I need to meet someone and date them a year or 2 and get married and make babies... Or make babies and get married, whichever happens first
apple OR orange Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 wow, this thread is surreal... now i know where Jerry Springer and Judge Judy get there people from...
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 He asked me out again I'm pretty pumped, he doesn't seem like he is rushing though like we text everyday but he isn't major flirty, it is annoying kind of because I want him to flirt and call me pretty and stuff. Anyways I am excited, his active duty is still in the state like 45 mins away so we can hang out and he was like "maybe I can come over sometime and watch a movie" and I was like yay ok!!! I am texting like 4 other guys so if it doesn't work out I will have options which is nice. I am not someone who can just not have guy attention, I can't handle it. I like having all this attention. Whichever one closes the deal first wins
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