ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Ahh! I'm so excited! I'm going out with this cute military boy I met on OKC, we have been talking a few weeks and he seems into me, we skyped and he was adorable! I'm excited but I am super nervous because I want him to like me a lot and want to date me, the problem here is he is going away for active duty for 4 months in 2 weeks but he can talk on the phone and stuff which is ok but like if we click do I wait for him or keep going on dates? I figure I can use that 4 months to do my internship and like direct my focus to something other than a guy and then when he comes back we can figure it out (assuming all goes well on the date Saturday). So a few questions, how do I handle this situation? How do I make him like me? I usually am just myself and funny and bubbly and smile a lot and guys like me, I think out of all my dates I have been on in my 4 years of dating I have only ever not been asked out like 2 times. I just feel super nervous for this one. He is super smart and funny and nice so I am NER-VOUS!!!
anne1707 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I think you should just be your natural self. Let him get an idea of what you are really like. I am sure you will make a big impression and he won't forget you for a long time. 8
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 I think you should just be your natural self. Let him get an idea of what you are really like. I am sure you will make a big impression and he won't forget you for a long time. Hahaha I know what you mean by that no I only want him to see the best in me now until I snag him
Star Gazer Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I think you should just be your natural self. Let him get an idea of what you are really like. I am sure you will make a big impression and he won't forget you for a long time. I totally agree with this. And then yes, you should focus on your internship, as I expect you won't hear from him.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 I totally agree with this. And then yes, you should focus on your internship, as I expect you won't hear from him. Well since we already talk everyday (and he messages me everyday not the other way around) I'm not superly majorly concerned. I will focus on what I care about which is getting a boy thanks!
anne1707 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 That should work. Men really do love a desperate woman. So attractive. 3
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 (edited) That should work. Men really do love a desperate woman. So attractive. Yay good!! I'm glad they do because I'm super desperate;) Why not just wish me luck or answer the questions I asked?? Be happy for me to possibly be really happy again Edited May 16, 2013 by ImperfectionisBeauty
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Karma means action. What you act out - you get back. The difference is I am not doing anything wrong. Like meaning this is something good that could happen to me and it'll make me happy and ill be nice and happy again yay!!
veggirl Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 You guys are being mean. The passive aggressiveness is probably a tad unnecessary. IIB you know you can't make someone like you. (do you re-read your posts before you post them, serious). you guys have talked, text and skyped, he has an idea of who you are! I think him going away for 4 mos could be good for you if it works out. you won't be able to get all clingy and crazy. let us know how it goes on the date. 4
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 You guys are being mean. The passive aggressiveness is probably a tad unnecessary. IIB you know you can't make someone like you. (do you re-read your posts before you post them, serious). you guys have talked, text and skyped, he has an idea of who you are! I think him going away for 4 mos could be good for you if it works out. you won't be able to get all clingy and crazy. let us know how it goes on the date. Thanks I just feel like I have had guys who I didn't necessarily want like me and now I am hoping I can turn my charm on and make him like me. So far he seems to, we talked about eggs and pop tarts yesterday lol
SmileFace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Don't sleep with him since .... yeah don't sleep with him.
amaysngrace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Like meaning this is something good that could happen to me and it'll make me happy and ill be nice and happy again yay!! That sounds a little phony.
SmileFace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 That sounds a little phony. A little? Come on lets be serious here. haha
ThaWholigan Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 You can't make someone like you - you just have to go into it without overthinking it or stressing about it.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 That sounds a little phony. Well I know I haven't been happy since me and Andy split and now I could be and that's good, I'm sure you'll see it in my posts too when I get back to that happy place...
amaysngrace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 A little? Come on lets be serious here. haha Yeah you're right. Her being nice would be a lot phony. IisB most men prefer fake body parts to fake personalities but good luck anyway.
amaysngrace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Well I know I haven't been happy since me and Andy split and now I could be and that's good, I'm sure you'll see it in my posts too when I get back to that happy place... I hope you are right but I doubt that. Most truly happy people that I know are happy whether they are in a relationship or not. They don't make their relationship be their sole source of happiness. 3
pcplod Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 You make it all sound like you are on a big game hunt. I think it is is just as well that he never reads some of this stuff or at least know it is attributable you or I would expect it would all be over rather too soon for your liking. Personally, I am both suspicious of desperate women, well just desperate people per se and am totally alienated by them. Relax! Try to chill out and calm your excitement, which I guess is what it is. Remember, you haven't had adequate opportunity to discover the real and full him yet, so don't worry that much about him not having had the opportunity to discover the real you yet. And remember that if you try to force it, it will not be the real you that he discovers. It is best that he discovers the real you, for better or worse, rather than some contrived façade because, frankly, you can't keep that up forever. Nor should you want to. It would just be so, so wrong. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Yeah you're right. Her being nice would be a lot phony. IisB most men prefer fake body parts to fake personalities but good luck anyway. I've been blessed with nice body parts so I will just go for the fake personality. Anyways it isn't fake I can be nice and funny in my actually life just not on here
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 I hope you are right but I doubt that. Most truly happy people that I know are happy whether they are in a relationship or not. They don't make their relationship be their sole source of happiness. And most of those people are probably alone right? You get too complacent being happy alone then you're ok with it then you never strive for better. I don't want to be complacent
Star Gazer Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Thanks I just feel like I have had guys who I didn't necessarily want like me and now I am hoping I can turn my charm on and make him like me. So far he seems to, we talked about eggs and pop tarts yesterday lol Yup. Talking about eggs and pop tarts is absolute proof that he likes you. 4
veggirl Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Putting your best foot forward isn't being fake. It's being normal. That's what people do on a first date. If you are changing your whole personality then yes obviously that's fake, but my impression of you is once you relax, you are gonna be an interested and fun chick to spend some time with, so no worries. Obviously faking your personality would be exhausting and the date would suck because of that, so I can't imagine someone actually doing that. 2
Drseussgrrl Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 And most of those people are probably alone right? You get too complacent being happy alone then you're ok with it then you never strive for better. I don't want to be complacent Sure beats the hell out of chasing low-quality men around and trapping them with an "oopsie" pregnancy.
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