irc333 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I just started seeing this woman recently....we met face to face at a location, her friend dropped her off and asked that I take her home after the date. When I did this....when I dropped her off, she had me drop her off one house away from the actual place she lives. Apparently, her and her two children live with an early 60's retiree...she is 40 years old....she keeps reassuring me that "they're just friends" and she's staying with him until she gets established. She's from Europe and new to the country...apparently some some network of friends referred her to this guy. 1st red flag...she's living rent/utility free, but in return, she keeps his house clean. I make nothing of it, so we make arrangements for a 2nd date....she asked that I pick her up one house away from the place she lives....so that her "friend" doesn't find out she's seeing a guy, so it won't hurt her feelings. She tells me she'd like to keep it a secret so he doesn't find out. Okay, now the hairs on my neck start to stand up....an American hostel? LOL That being said, I told her, "Well, that's nice he's letting you stay there, however, I don't think it'd be fair to him and before I consider meeting you again....I'd rather you tell him that you're seeing someone...no secrets, okay" So we'll see where it goes from there. 1
hppr Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 LOL it does sound like some sort of mail order bride deal. That, or maybe she married him when she was 20 and he was 40 sort of thing and now that they are in the good ole USA, she heard about this thing called a Divorce Attorney and she wants out. FWIW that happened to me before, the girl had me drop her off down the street, next house, pick her up two blocks away, anything but be at her house. She was living with a very jealous GIRLFRIEND...
ascendotum Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) Having her get dropped off next door is a little shifty, but you have only been out with her once. She has her reasons. Its possible it could be her rent for sex quasi bf or it could be her uncle/older retiree from the old country and she doesn't want him to see her going out with different guys after she has only recently arrived in the country or maybe it is her arranged marriage older husband or maybe she doesn't want her kid/s seeing her out with multiple guys. I think its a bit of a cheek to tell her how to conduct her private life after you have only known her an hour or two. If a relationship looks like developing then definitely you can push things more in terms of getting invited into her house, or parking in the driveway, so you can confirm her situation. Edited May 17, 2013 by ascendotum
KungFuJoe Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm half convinced op is making up all these stories. There is no possible way that he is meeting all these weirdos. Actually, scratch that. I'm FULLY convinced. 2
Author irc333 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 Having her get dropped off next door is a little shifty, but you have only been out with her once. She has her reasons. Its possible it could be her rent for sex quasi bf or it could be her uncle/older retiree from the old country and she doesn't want him to see her going out with different guys after she has only recently arrived in the country or maybe it is her arranged marriage older husband or maybe she doesn't want her kid/s seeing her out with multiple guys. I think its a bit of a cheek to tell her how to conduct her private life after you have only known her an hour or two. If a relationship looks like developing then definitely you can push things more in terms of getting invited into her house, or parking in the driveway, so you can confirm her situation. Actually, she is widowed....she has just taken up only as a tenant, and considers him a friend and nothing more.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm half convinced op is making up all these stories. There is no possible way that he is meeting all these weirdos. Actually, scratch that. I'm FULLY convinced. No. I think this is a real story. I've met girls way weirder than this.
BluEyeL Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 If she's new to the country, this arrangement is something that I've heard before. It could be legit. I think she could also have legitimate reasons for the kids/guy not seeing her with guys dropping her off, unless she's officially/steady dating ONE person.
FitChick Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Actually, she is widowed....she has just taken up only as a tenant, and considers him a friend and nothing more. I'm willing to bet that he considers her as a girlfriend/mistress/lover.
SJC2008 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 It's because she doesn't want you to know she lives in the last house on the left!
Author irc333 Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 If she's new to the country, this arrangement is something that I've heard before. It could be legit. I think she could also have legitimate reasons for the kids/guy not seeing her with guys dropping her off, unless she's officially/steady dating ONE person. Well, this means "movie night" would probably only take place at MY place. LOL.
crederer Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 She doesn't want to hurt his feelings means that she's acting as his girlfriend in order to live rent free. Doesn't sound like a winner to me. 1
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm willing to bet that he considers her as a girlfriend/mistress/lover. Well yeah !!!
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