Giha Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I was wondering if anyone on here has any success stories he would like to share. I'm not talking about NC success stories, but rather stories about being dumped, coping and recovering and eventually moving on (and maybe ending up with a better partner) Sure these stories are all around, but I thought reading this stuff here would help some of us crushed people get a better perspective and maybe cheer up a little, reading how others went through all this pain and ended up in a better place. So, I'd love to hear it. Thanks. 1
Hockeyguy19 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I was wondering if anyone on here has any success stories he would like to share. I'm not talking about NC success stories, but rather stories about being dumped, coping and recovering and eventually moving on (and maybe ending up with a better partner) Sure these stories are all around, but I thought reading this stuff here would help some of us crushed people get a better perspective and maybe cheer up a little, reading how others went through all this pain and ended up in a better place. So, I'd love to hear it. Thanks. I have a bit of one, I lost my fiancé in December of 2008. It was one of the worst periods of my life because we lived together, worked together and shared common friends. She didnt move out until the end of February and then it really hit me, hard. I spent the next few months figuring my stuff out and made the decision to move back home, 2000 km away. It was rough, I left all my friends I had made, my job, and her. I always thought she would call or write, and it wasn't until I went back for a visit a few months after I moved back that I realized she was over me. When I seen her, she looked right through me like I wasn't even there. I knew then it was done forever. I have since got a college diploma, and just recently got my BA from university. I moved on with my life, I made something out of it and pursued my dream of getting into a career that I wanted. Although I've recently lost another woman in my life (it sucks but I know I'll pull through) I've got a whole life ahead of me to look forward to. It took me losing someone to get my ass back into school and take control of my life and I'm happy I achieved that goal. A new chapter begins again this time, hopefully in a great career and then meet the right woman for me. Life has peaks and valleys, and even though I'm in a valley right now, the peak is on the horizon. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I haven't been in a relationship for over seven years since i split with my ex,I have found peace, found my faith,met a wonderful bunch of people, my girls are coming good slowly,and I have hope in my heart.....its all me......and I am happy with how far i have come, I havent been to hospital in seven years, I am not on meds any more, and i can take the bad days with the good days.......to me this is my success story....i thank god every day for my blue skies.......and i pray when it gets rough.......and I am doing it.......i have big dreams too one day of making a difference......of helping others making life better for thsoe less fortunate than me......and that makes me smile....lots of things make me smile...this opening post made me smile...hugs..deb
Author Giha Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 I haven't been in a relationship for over seven years since i split with my ex,I have found peace, found my faith,met a wonderful bunch of people, my girls are coming good slowly,and I have hope in my heart.....its all me......and I am happy with how far i have come, I havent been to hospital in seven years, I am not on meds any more, and i can take the bad days with the good days.......to me this is my success story....i thank god every day for my blue skies.......and i pray when it gets rough.......and I am doing it.......i have big dreams too one day of making a difference......of helping others making life better for thsoe less fortunate than me......and that makes me smile....lots of things make me smile...this opening post made me smile...hugs..deb This is very inspiring. You moved me.
Sweetnothing Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Well I'm not totally over my ex we only broke up a week ago but I went no contact right away and am trying to ignore him as much as possible by not checking his Facebook or his friends' facebooks to see what he's up to. I'm focusing on how nice it is to be single and re-establishing my personal support network by calling and seeing my friends and family more. As each day passes I realize how great being single is. I can finally have time to myself, I can go out when I want, I can be as clean or as messy as I want, and the two BEST things are being able to eat healthy foods (my ex was always buying junk!) and spend lots and lots of money on myself without feeling bad. I have a much higher paying job than my ex (I work at a five star restaurant and I make over $1200 a week, he makes $8/hr at his retail job) so it's nice to go on big shopping sprees when he can barely afford to pay for gas. I know I shouldn't have to feel bad about making a lot of money, but I always try to be conscious of others and I don't like to be too flashy around people. 2
Mint Sauce Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I joined the forum about a year ago, freshly broken up (she left me for a friend of mine after they had an affair for a little while). Since then, I've been through the coping process, online-dating struggle, and with a new partner for 6 months now. All of it traceable on here, though not really as a consistent story
Author Giha Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 I joined the forum about a year ago, freshly broken up (she left me for a friend of mine after they had an affair for a little while). Since then, I've been through the coping process, online-dating struggle, and with a new partner for 6 months now. All of it traceable on here, though not really as a consistent story That's really nice to hear how did you meet her?
Mint Sauce Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 That's really nice to hear how did you meet her? OLD. Made a profile about 4 months post BU. More response than I expected, which helped my self-esteem massively. One month later first kiss with candidate number 3. Living together more or less now I went from pacing through my house at night because the pain was unbearable to really happy now in 11 months Of course I still think about my ex regularly, but without real pain, and no desire to go back. So: don't despair! I went NC after 2 months. Spent lots of time with friends and getting my single life sorted, and then finding someone new came fairly naturally, but of course with some purposeful seeking via OLD. 1
Author Giha Posted May 17, 2013 Author Posted May 17, 2013 OLD. Made a profile about 4 months post BU. More response than I expected, which helped my self-esteem massively. One month later first kiss with candidate number 3. Living together more or less now I went from pacing through my house at night because the pain was unbearable to really happy now in 11 months Of course I still think about my ex regularly, but without real pain, and no desire to go back. So: don't despair! I went NC after 2 months. Spent lots of time with friends and getting my single life sorted, and then finding someone new came fairly naturally, but of course with some purposeful seeking via OLD. Very encouraging! Thank you
california15 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm glad I found this post - I recently returned to LS after about a year and half to post an update: My story is currently on page 3 - I updated my breakup story from 2 years ago - I go into more detail there. I haven't had contact with my ex in about 2 years. I feel indifferent to him although running into him or hearing from him is not exactly something I'd want to happen. I can say I'm over him and all the pain the breakup caused me. No desire to be with him or be in his life. It's just another chapter in the book of life. Since then I've been focusing on myself, advancing in my career and going back to school for a masters. Started casually dating, although no serious relationships since him. But like I said, if you want to read my story start to finish, or just want to read my most recent updates on the last few pages about being completely healed and moved on, its on here.
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