LittleMiss Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Ok the MM I'm seeing told his wife last night to leave. She was telling him that she wanted them to buy a house and he and her started arguing and stuff and he finally told her that she could move without him. She asked him what he wanted really, and he told her he wanted her to leave. We just went out to lunch and he told me this. He also said that this morning that she told him that she did not want to leave and he said nothing. He wants to tell her that he doesn't want to be with her, but he doesn't know how. I told him I couldn't give him advice because I was biased. Should I tell him to tell her how he feels or should I keep quiet?
sami Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 you must understand that you are playing a major role in splitting this family apart.
Merin Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 It's kind of wierd that his wife is talking about buying a house... It doesn't seem that she really has any clue that he is all the unhappy, because if she did, I don't think she would be talking about buying a house together? Because of this.... YES IF he really doesn't want to be with her, then he needs to tell her, end the relationship and let go of her.
Author LittleMiss Posted September 28, 2004 Author Posted September 28, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 It doesn't seem that she really has any clue that he is all the unhappy, because if she did, I don't think she would be talking about buying a house together? Well...she put it like this "Me and the boys are going to start looking for a house" He said for her to go ahead and do that. He said she told him that she is not happy with their life right now and even asked him if he loved her and what he wanted. He said " I told you what I want, I want you to leave." She knows he is not happy because he is never home. He is always out and when he is home he isn't happy. She is always asking him "what's wrong with you?"
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 And IF he actually does decide to leave her, he needs to be alone for a while. You can't jump out a marriage and into another relationship...Either way he has to deal with his own feelings, emotions, her feelings, her emotions..And really figure himself out. Heal. Then, in time, if he loves you enough and you are willing to wait, give him time...Then be together.
Merin Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Originally posted by g_tabatha Well...she put it like this "Me and the boys are going to start looking for a house" He said for her to go ahead and do that. He said she told him that she is not happy with their life right now and even asked him if he loved her and what he wanted. He said " I told you what I want, I want you to leave." She knows he is not happy because he is never home. He is always out and when he is home he isn't happy. She is always asking him "what's wrong with you?" Crap! He has kid's? Sorry, but this is totally unfair to his little people.... When his wife ask's him what's wrong with him, he needs to find the courage to tell her he isn't happy for whatever the reasons are... He needs to either get into the marriage or get out, because this not only effects him and his wife.... it effects the most innocent... his wee peeps.
Guisi Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Tabatha I agree with Merin2. I also feel that if he didn't want to be with her he would leave. Why is he asking her to leave (so he say). There are a lot of games with a married man, please keep your feelings in check.
Author LittleMiss Posted September 28, 2004 Author Posted September 28, 2004 Originally posted by Guisi Tabatha I agree with Merin2. I also feel that if he didn't want to be with her he would leave. Why is he asking her to leave (so he say). There are a lot of games with a married man, please keep your feelings in check. He asked her to leave because she doesn't want to live there anymore. She wants to buy a new house. He said for her to do that, but without him.
Guisi Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Tabatha I have not been following your post, so I am only responding from today. The point that i am trying to make is people will give an advance notice in a indirect way. He is telling you that she wants to move, to put the information out there. "They are preparing to move". All I am saying is when he comes to you 3 months from now, telling you "We bought a house" don't be surprise, and the reason will be, the kids can't handle the separation. All people are not the same, but been there( and you know the rest) done that! I just want to save the heart ache.
Author LittleMiss Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 Well, last night he came over and was really upset. He waited for her to get home from work and then he told her everything (except about us). He told her that he hasn't been happy in their marriage for years, that he wanted to move back to west texas, he told her that he loved and appreciated her and everything she's done for him, but he wasn't in love with her anymore. So, now he's leaving to West Texas to be with his family and to clear his head. He told me last night that he is going up there at the end of the week. Once he gets a job and gets settled he asked me if I would go up there with him. He told me that he has already told some of his family members about me, and he can't wait for me to meet his whole family.
Author LittleMiss Posted September 29, 2004 Author Posted September 29, 2004 Umm...well he didn't come to work today so I'm assuming when he went home last night that things didn't go so well. Last night he said that if he went home and she kept arguing with him that he was going to leave then. He would leave back to west texas in the middle of the night. I'm thinking that might have happened. Hmmm....I know he wouldn't call me because I'm at work. I wonder if I should call and check on him....or should I wait for him to call me?
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