california15 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I usually post in the relationship section but now I had a friend issue. A friendship recently ended and I got one text as an explanation out of the blue. I tried to be respectful and not blow up their phone with questions but because I care about them and our friendship I wanted to have more than a text to go on; I did send them a fair amount (4? 5?) of what ended up being no-reply texts. This was a few days ago. In the dating world they do NC to move on, but since this was a friendship and not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship can I reach out in a few months to rekindle a friendship? I'd like to still be friends. There was no fight, no falling out, no past issue, no "big event" that would trigger this. It was literally like a "I don't want to be friends anymore" type of text. Caught me off completely guard. I'm sad - I've never had a friendship end like this!
UpwardForward Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 (edited) If I were you, I surely would want to know what triggered this. I would think there's always a reason. Still, the "I don't want to be friends anymore" is pretty final & deliberate. I would just be concerned there may have been outside sources or misunderstanding involved, that brought your friend to this conclusion. It would appear you are stuck with having to honor her wishes, at this time. Edited May 16, 2013 by UpwardForward
Author california15 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 It sucks, but you're right I am honoring their wishes at this time. I am hopeful for a text or phone call in a few months either with an explanation or rekindling but am not letting that dictate things. I've decided maybe in a few months when I'm indifferent to no response/their response whatever it may be, that I'll reach out. the friendship matters that much to me that I can't let it go so easily (don't read into that meaning I contact them) and pretend I'm okay with it.
Author california15 Posted May 19, 2013 Author Posted May 19, 2013 Ok she texted she wants to talk - pending date/time hopeful, yet cautious - don't want to get hurt again or have her tell me she doesn't want to be friends again we'll see
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