powerpak Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I may be over-thinking this since I get a bit nervous thinking about it, but... Last weekend I met a girl through a mutual friend that had been trying to set us up for a little while. We hung out for the first time on Saturday and we ended up hitting it off really well. In fact, when I dropped her off, she asked me if would like to get together again the next day (We live an hour and half away from each other so we knew we couldn't get together during the week). Of course I said yes, and again we had a really good time together. I know she likes me. We haven't kissed or anything like that, but she admitted to our mutual friend that she does like me but that scares her. We have plans to see each other again this weekend. The next weekend I have a wedding to go to and I would really like to ask her to be my date. The thing is, it's not just any wedding. It's my brother's wedding, so of course it will be my ENTIRE family there. To me, this fact is a bit more of a "big deal" because I am originally from a different state so the family there, including my parents, live hundreds of miles away. Considering that we basically just met, she admitted to me she is guarded, and is scared of the fact that she "likes me quite a bit already" and doesn't want to fall hard only to be hurt (which I absolutely would not do to her)...and that my entire family from out-of-state will be there, do you think it is too soon to ask her to be my date to the wedding, assuming that things go really with her this weekend?
DanielStone Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Hmmm... It sounds like a tricky one. Perhaps you should mention it to her but don't ask her to go straight away. Mention that you're going and you're excited for your brother and see how she reacts, if she signals that she wants to accompany you, go ahead and ask! If, however, she just quickly brushes off the subject then I wouldn't ask her to go as to me, that would be a signal she really wouldn't want to go. Having never met her either, it would be a tough call! I would just mention the Wedding and watch her reaction and see what she says before asking!
HuffmanMontana Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 After a week I asked a girl to my sisters wedding. We ended updating for a few months. If she's interested it won't matter. If she's not it won't matter.
Shepp Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I would ask her But casually. Maybe along the lines ofim really gonna miss not seeing you next week end! Im guessing she’ll saysomething like ‘me too’ and then you can be like ‘hey I’m allowed a plus one –you should come, it’ll be fun’ I would avoid using the words “will yoube my date”. Also if she comes with you your gonna have to be pretty attentive cause she wont know a sole!
HuffmanMontana Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I would ask her But casually. Maybe along the lines ofim really gonna miss not seeing you next week end! Im guessing she’ll saysomething like ‘me too’ and then you can be like ‘hey I’m allowed a plus one –you should come, it’ll be fun’ I would avoid using the words “will yoube my date”. Also if she comes with you your gonna have to be pretty attentive cause she wont know a sole! No, she will see right through this and you will look weak. Man up. Ask her with confidence.
Author powerpak Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Also if she comes with you your gonna have to be pretty attentive cause she wont know a sole! Hmmm...I didn't think of this. While that won't be a problem at all during the reception, it is my brother so I am in the wedding.
DanielStone Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Hmmm...I didn't think of this. While that won't be a problem at all during the reception, it is my brother so I am in the wedding. Well, I'm sure you must have been to a Wedding before, so you will know that during the Ceremony people aren't really focused on talking to other guests in the Church or wherever the Wedding is, they'll be focused on the Ceremony so the fact you're in the Wedding shouldn't make too much of a difference since there won't be much else to do other than watch the Ceremony!
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