Babycat123 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 My boyfriend of just under a year dumped me at the beginning of April. I was devastated and still in love with him so I decided to wait a few weeks and then call him. Well this past Friday night I drove past him as he was coming into my town - I knew had to be coming into town for a date as he would have no other reason to be there. I figured it was now or never so I called him Sat afternoon and we spoke for an hour catching up. During our chat he brought up several things we did that were fun, mentioned almost everything I'd put on Facebook since our break up, and told me the day after our break up he lost his phone and was worried I was trying to call him and might think he was ignoring me. He also said he had been thinking about calling me but wasn't sure if it would upset me...not sure what to make of that. Since our call went well I asked if he wanted to meet up and grab a drink and he said yes and we agreed on next week and he said he would call me early next week to set something up for next week. Now I know I shouldn't have but I asked if he was in my town the night before and he said yes and that he was on a date. He said he was worried about us running into each other. He told me it was a woman he knew through friends and that she started calling him a few weeks after we broke up. I know who this woman is and she is older than him and has a child. I was stunned this is what he moved on to. Before me he had dated older women with kids and he made fun of them. He always told me he didn't want to end up with a woman like that and was so happy to have met me. When I told him I was surprised he was dating her, he said he was on the rebound. He also said their date didn't go well...he hit traffic and was late and she was pissed and the date had an awkward vibe. He said he didn't even know if they would go out again, that he wasn't thrilled about the kid, and that he didn't know if they could even have a relationship because she is a nurse and has a weird schedule and goes to bed at 8 and gets up at 4 and he doesn't like getting up early. He also complained about the restaurant she picked and how it was very expensive and wasn't worth the money (he's cheap). Leaving the convo I felt good. Now of course I'm freaking myself out over analyzing things. How should I proceed? Am I wrong to think the way he spoke about this woman, she probably won't be around long? I originally planned to take things slowly in attempting to get back together with him but with the threat of this other woman looming I don't know if I need to speed things up. Help!
Leegh Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 It sounds as if he does not like the other woman and it was probably a re-bound thing. I would try to get him to pursue you again, since he was the one that broke up with you. Be available for him, but try to let him wonder about what you have been doing during the time apart, in other words, don't make it to easy for him. By all means, do not have sex with him, until you two are officially back together. In addition, I would be concerned about someone who was cheap. Let him pay for you.
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