Girl called me "beautiful", what is the next move

[KungFuJoe]

If you say so, smart guy.

 

I am a smart guy and I do say so.

 

Look at all the people calling you out in your own thread. If you're not gonna follow anyone's advice what did you start this thread for? To brag that you got some "shoulder and back" action?

[crederer]

You're over thinking it. Just call her and stop being a pansy!

 

Worst that'll happen is she'll go cold, but what's the alternative? Not doing anything? The result would be the same.

 

Good luck man, I hope it works out for you.

[Pompeii]

I am a smart guy and I do say so.

 

Look at all the people calling you out in your own thread. If you're not gonna follow anyone's advice what did you start this thread for? To brag that you got some "shoulder and back" action?

 

Why did you even come in this thread if all you're going to do is act like a holier-than-thou sarcastic wise ass?

 

I made this thread because I was trying to see if this is typical behavior of someone who is just being nice. Girls do this stuff all time, being nice to guys they have NO interest in. Or are you unaware that men overestimate the interest levels of females all the time. Do you need proof of that? Here.

 

What Sets Good Looking Men Apart | Sex & Gender Differences | LiveScience

[Pompeii]

I'll contact her or something, but she doesn't have my number because she got a new phone a while ago. I had her number from last semester because we worked on a group project. I will admit that I ****ed up in not throwing her my number again, but I'm definitely not going to text her out of the blue and give her my number. I don't want her wondering where I got it, because I know she'll forget how I got it from her, and I don't feel like explaining.

[CryForNoOne]

I'll contact her or something, but she doesn't have my number because she got a new phone a while ago. I had her number from last semester because we worked on a group project. I will admit that I ****ed up in not throwing her my number again, but I'm definitely not going to text her out of the blue and give her my number. I don't want her wondering where I got it, because I know she'll forget how I got it from her, and I don't feel like explaining.

 

Dude! Seriously stop making excuses for being a wimp! ALL of your actions are based on the assumption she isn't interested in you. If you continue to do that, it is INEVITABLE she will lose interest in you. If she likes you, she won't care how you got her number, or more likely she will remember! If she isn't interested, who cares what she thinks!!!

 

Text her or better yet, call her and ask her out already!

 

These are all your own words - no paraphrasing - and frankly KungFuJoe is doing you a huge favor by being a wisea$$, because you should be knocked silly for saying these things yet doing NOTHING...

 

"I saw this girl who I have a mega crush on."

 

"...she saw me and then instantly shouted my name. Then she hugged me tight and said "you're beautiful"."

 

"...talking to her was pretty natural and we got a good rapport going on. There was also a lot of physical contact..."

 

"I have her number but I'm not gonna ask her out unless I know that she's into me without a doubt."

 

"Also, I believe confidence is overrated."

[CryForNoOne]

BTW How do you know she DOESN'T have your number? Did she tell you she got a new phone and didn't transfer it over or are you assuming she is just not interested as usual...

[KungFuJoe]

Why did you even come in this thread if all you're going to do is act like a holier-than-thou sarcastic wise ass?

 

I made this thread because I was trying to see if this is typical behavior of someone who is just being nice. Girls do this stuff all time, being nice to guys they have NO interest in. Or are you unaware that men overestimate the interest levels of females all the time. Do you need proof of that? Here.

 

What Sets Good Looking Men Apart | Sex & Gender Differences | LiveScience

 

I'm done with this thread.

 

Enjoy letting life pass you by.

[Pompeii]

BTW How do you know she DOESN'T have your number? Did she tell you she got a new phone and didn't transfer it over or are you assuming she is just not interested as usual...

 

I know she got a new phone because she always makes Facebook statuses about how she "lost my phone last night... woops!" "just got a new phone!!! text me and send me your numberss" "lost another phone" "just got a new phone send me numbers please!" She definitely didn't "transfer it over" because she lost three phones this past year. So...

 

I'm done with this thread.

 

Enjoy letting life pass you by.

 

Good riddance.

[GravityMan]

Y'know, you could just pick up the phone, chat with her for a bit about whatever, and ask her out. Simple. Takes anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes depending on the length of the chat. Somehow I think the worst that will happen is that she'll just say "no". I don't think you need to worry about her transforming into a sorceress and hatefully zapping you through the cellular network.

 

Your posts in this thread illustrate why many women in their early 20s and up tend to prefer experienced men with at least some confidence.

 

It's like you're coming up with every imaginable excuse in the book as a reason not to make a move. Sad. You are your own worst enemy. Hopefully you'll have an epiphany...someday.

[ThaWholigan]

 

Your posts in this thread illustrate why many women in their early 20s and up tend to prefer experienced men with at least some confidence.

 

This.........

 

Don't second guess yourself OP.

[Taramere]

Frankly if you read these message boards long enough, you start to think it's a miracle the human race hasn't become extinct because it's the only species where the female gender has no interest in reproducing...

 

What about pandas? They're pretty apathetic about breeding.

 

I know she got a new phone because she always makes Facebook statuses about how she "lost my phone last night... woops!" "just got a new phone!!! text me and send me your numberss" "lost another phone" "just got a new phone send me numbers please!" She definitely didn't "transfer it over" because she lost three phones this past year. So...

 

There must be indications on Facebook of the kind of thing she's interested in. Home in on a couple of interests that you share, scout around for any local events that link in to those interests and call her up/text her (whichever you find easiest - but make it clear who you are in the message) and ask her if she fancies going along to one of those events with you.

[todreaminblue]

I'll contact her or something, but she doesn't have my number because she got a new phone a while ago. I had her number from last semester because we worked on a group project. I will admit that I ****ed up in not throwing her my number again, but I'm definitely not going to text her out of the blue and give her my number. I don't want her wondering where I got it, because I know she'll forget how I got it from her, and I don't feel like explaining.

 

 

 

if she likes you she wont care how you got the number.....she will be just glad you have it........probably happy that you asked her out......you are the one holding back on showing interest actually....

 

this is across the love shack board you know,nice guys who are to hesitant to ask a girl out, because they want 100 per cent guarantees of success, which by the way, no one can give, you have to take a risk,then you wont have to start a thread about the one that got away, and dated some more aggressive, confident guy who asked her out before you even got the chance to wave......A lot of women wait to be asked out,this one probably is waiting for you to ask her, she has given enough signs, that is as good as it gets .......ask her...or have regrets......deb

[PogoStick]

While you're trying to figure it out, she's trying to decide which are her sexiest panties for the date she's about to have with the guy who asked her out.

[Shepp]

I never said she had to do that. I'm just saying that if I don't receive any more signs of interest, then I'm not proceeding. I know that if anything is to happen between us, I will have to pull the trigger. I also know that I have a certain window in which to do all of this. Attraction isn't eternal.

 

Also, I believe confidence is overrated. I have talked about this at length various times on this forum but I believe that confidence isn't the cure-all people think it is.

 

As I said, the main thing I'm afraid of is her going cold on me. I think I might have already left it too long now.

 

Wow, so what if she's sitting there thinking the same thing "ah he didn't contact me so it was all just talk".

Girls expect guys to be the ones who take the risk and out themselves out there! What are you waiting for, her to contact you and ask you out?

Youve got to strike while the ions hot or shes gonna get it in her head your not i trested you just text her when you havent got a better option! Your blowing big time mate!

You don't have to be so serious, just text her something to make her smile or laugh or something and then ask her if she fancies a drink!

[xxoo]

I made this thread because I was trying to see if this is typical behavior of someone who is just being nice. Girls do this stuff all time, being nice to guys they have NO interest in. Or are you unaware that men overestimate the interest levels of females all the time. Do you need proof of that? Here.

 

What Sets Good Looking Men Apart | Sex & Gender Differences | LiveScience

 

So what?

 

If you ask her out, she may say no. But there is a good chance that she'll say yes. If you had this scenario with 10 different women, at least 5 would say yes to a date.

 

If you don't ask her out, well, then you miss out on 10 out of 10.

[Aerrie]

I serously hope this guy has called her during the weekend. I feel like punching him for that bull**** whimsy behaviour, he is a shame to MEN species. Poor girl.

[Pompeii]

I serously hope this guy has called her during the weekend. I feel like punching him for that bull**** whimsy behaviour, he is a shame to MEN species. Poor girl.

 

Nope. It's over, didn't call her. School is over for the summer, so there is no point. She only saw me as a friend. If she was so willing to get with me, then I don't see why she didn't contact *me*. She has my Facebook. If a girl really wants a guy, she will go out of her way to make sure she gets him. She only sees me as a friend and the "you're beautiful" comment was nothing more than empty semi-drunk banter I'm sure she'll be getting her rocks off over the summer with some ex-boyfriend or some new FWB guy.

 

As for I, I came to the conclusion that I will be rich and eyeballs deep in an awesome career by my late twenties. So I am feeling good.

[clia]

Nope. It's over, didn't call her. School is over for the summer, so there is no point. She only saw me as a friend. If she was so willing to get with me, then I don't see why she didn't contact *me*. She has my Facebook. If a girl really wants a guy, she will go out of her way to make sure she gets him. She only sees me as a friend and the "you're beautiful" comment was nothing more than empty semi-drunk banter I'm sure she'll be getting her rocks off over the summer with some ex-boyfriend or some new FWB guy.

 

As for I, I came to the conclusion that I will be rich and eyeballs deep in an awesome career by my late twenties. So I am feeling good.

 

The bolded part isn't true. Many women won't chase a man. She said you were "beautiful," for Gods sakes. Do you need a written invitation?

 

I'm honestly really confused, Pompeii. You have a history of posts on this site lamenting about your lack of success with women, and here you had a woman express clear interest in you, and you didn't jump on the opportunity and ask her out. Worse, you expected her to chase you! I mean, no wonder you haven't had any success with women. You are sitting back and assuming failure without even trying. What exactly is your strategy?

[RogerWallace111]

You made a mistake beautiful.

 

:laugh::laugh:

[Pompeii]

You made a mistake beautiful.

 

Nah. It's better this way. I reorganized my priorities and seriously sat down and thought about it and then I realize that women are not on my list. I care about in no particular order:

 

1. Family/friends

2. Becoming aesthetic/eating right (currently at 160, hope to be 180 by graduation)

3. Volunteer work

4. Becoming rich/having a large amount of disposable income

5. Music

6. Excellence in academics/getting summa cum laude at graduation

7. Learning new things

8. Being the best in my field

9. Art

10. Cycling

 

Women are not on that list.

 

The bolded part isn't true. Many women won't chase a man. She said you were "beautiful," for Gods sakes. Do you need a written invitation?

 

I'm honestly really confused, Pompeii. You have a history of posts on this site lamenting about your lack of success with women, and here you had a woman express clear interest in you, and you didn't jump on the opportunity and ask her out. Worse, you expected her to chase you! I mean, no wonder you haven't had any success with women. You are sitting back and assuming failure without even trying. What exactly is your strategy?

 

I don't believe you. I've been around and out enough to see how women act around guys they really want. If she's not trying to pursue me, then what's the point. I'm not going to jump through hoops and tests and all kinds of other crap just for me to prove to her I like her. I know that girls will always try and get guys they really want. She's a very friendly and outgoing person, so this type of behavior is sin qua non for her. She also seems slightly crazy/off-center anyway in ways that I don't feel like getting into here. Also, she has a lot of male friends, many of which I believe want to screw her. They are more aesthetic than I, so my competition was fierce.

 

Overall, I feel as if I am a better man for it.

[RogerWallace111]

You either don't really know the pleasure of intimacy with an awesome girl or you're lying to yourself.

 

And I say that as someone who has at several points in my life done the same "prioritization" and told myself "yeah, I don't need females in my life right now, there are much more important things". And there definitely are in the grand scheme of things. I too would be very reluctant to enter a real relationship right now with all the things I'm trying to achieve, but it doesn't mean female company doesn't ease my mind and make me feel good in way which has no substitute. Agreed that my personal & artistic endeavors have no substitute either, and will always come before any one girl. And of course dependence on others for one's contentment causes problems. But, it's like...

 

You can survive on just water, without food, for weeks. Doesn't mean you shouldn't accept some nourishing snacks from time to time. You don't have to be a glutton. Just some bites here and there will help balance your brain chemistry .

Edited May 24, 2013 by RogerWallace111

[tricolors]

Nah. It's better this way. I reorganized my priorities and seriously sat down and thought about it and then I realize that women are not on my list. I care about in no particular order:

 

1. Family/friends

2. Becoming aesthetic/eating right (currently at 160, hope to be 180 by graduation)

3. Volunteer work

4. Becoming rich/having a large amount of disposable income

5. Music

6. Excellence in academics/getting summa cum laude at graduation

7. Learning new things

8. Being the best in my field

9. Art

10. Cycling

 

Women are not on that list.

 

 

 

I don't believe you. I've been around and out enough to see how women act around guys they really want. If she's not trying to pursue me, then what's the point. I'm not going to jump through hoops and tests and all kinds of other crap just for me to prove to her I like her. I know that girls will always try and get guys they really want. She's a very friendly and outgoing person, so this type of behavior is sin qua non for her. She also seems slightly crazy/off-center anyway in ways that I don't feel like getting into here. Also, she has a lot of male friends, many of which I believe want to screw her. They are more aesthetic than I, so my competition was fierce.

 

Overall, I feel as if I am a better man for it.

 

Do you have any kind of social disorders, by chance?

[Pompeii]

You either don't really know the pleasure of intimacy with an awesome girl or you're lying to yourself.

 

And I say that as someone who has at several points in my life done the same "prioritization" and told myself "yeah, I don't need females in my life right now, there are much more important things". And there definitely are in the grand scheme of things. I too would be very reluctant to enter a real relationship right now with all the things I'm trying to achieve, but it doesn't mean female company doesn't ease my mind and make me feel good in way which has no substitute. Agreed that my personal & artistic endeavors have no substitute either, and will always come before any one girl. And of course dependence on others for one's contentment causes problems. But, it's like...

 

You can survive on just water, without food, for weeks. Doesn't mean you shouldn't accept some nourishing snacks from time to time. You don't have to be a glutton. Just some bites here and there will help balance your brain chemistry .

 

Some of the greatest minds of all time have remained single. Newton, TE Lawrence, Beethoven, TESLA. If the road to greatness and the top is one that must be travelled alone (romantically), so be it. I have and will make many allies on my quest and I will be a better man for it.

 

Do you have any kind of social disorders, by chance?

 

... wow. No.

[crederer]

Men are almost always the one that pursues. Women will make it known or show signs if they're interested (as this one obviously did) but it's very rare for the women to aggressively pursue the man.

[Pompeii]

Alright, this thread has run it's course, I'm requesting a lock.