Mimi99 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I'm in a bit of a situation. I met this guy at a party about 5 months ago. We hit it off. Met the next day for coffee. Unfortunately he lives out of state. So, we've been talking on the phone ever since. I felt like I really knew him, felt close to him. He wanted me to visit sooner, but I was busy so I kept postponing it. I finally went to visit him. We had sex and had a great weekend together. Only problem is that I was hoping that it would turn into something more, a relationship. This happened last weekened and all I received was a text asking if I made it back safe. I didn't get a phone call yet. Do you think I should've held off on having sex? I mean I have needs too, but I feel like he thinks he's accomplished his mission and doesn't feel the need to talk to me as much anymore. What do you think? would really appreciate your thoughts on this.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I'm in a bit of a situation. I met this guy at a party about 5 months ago. We hit it off. Met the next day for coffee. Unfortunately he lives out of state. So, we've been talking on the phone ever since. I felt like I really knew him, felt close to him. He wanted me to visit sooner, but I was busy so I kept postponing it. I finally went to visit him. We had sex and had a great weekend together. Only problem is that I was hoping that it would turn into something more, a relationship. This happened last weekened and all I received was a text asking if I made it back safe. I didn't get a phone call yet. Do you think I should've held off on having sex? I mean I have needs too, but I feel like he thinks he's accomplished his mission and doesn't feel the need to talk to me as much anymore. What do you think? would really appreciate your thoughts on this. That's generally what I do after I get my conquest. A girl seems less valuable after I've slept with her. I'll still hit her up when I'm bored or horny though.
RogerWallace111 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 goddamn these first two f*cks... it's definitely possible, as the guys above show. thing is, if having sex once is that big a thing to a guy, to where that's all he seeks as far as satisfaction from females, he's a boring turd. seriously. if this particular guy didn't see things going anywhere with you, you had sex, and that was that- things make a bit more sense. something like: she was cool, i enjoyed hanging out with her, we f*cked, sparks didn't fly, etc etc... if getting down once was enough to satiate his appetite completely as far as you're concerned then he's not in the market for something more, or he just felt you weren't specifically fit to his taste enough to proceed with. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 and i don't mean that in some "he's just not that into you" way or with any implication that you weren't enticing enough. simply that he for whatever reason wasn't feelin it. ****, i've been turned down by girls I wouldnt even consider attractive and have only wanted as a result of heavy alcohol consumption. they remain nasty hoes and I somehow keep ending up next to cool, refined beauties. no one's "better" than anyone else. it's just a matter of time/place/taste, etc
Mumbles Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 3. He was attracted to you, but didn't feel any chemistry. I reckon its probably this. I don't know about the responses saying that guys want to hit-it-and-quit-it after one nights romp. For me, if I have sex with a girl and we really click, then I want to have a whole lot more sex with her, not less. I don't reckon you can force the chemistry either ... its there or its not. 1
joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 if your sex needs are more important then your value as a person this is what you get. guys cleave less easy on a girl. so the more you wait on having sex the better. cause men lose easily interest once you have sex with them. so its up to you to take better of yourself. and give the freindship space to develop so you have enough time to see if there are res flags. There is a chance he would play the role until he got sex and did the same thing
SJC2008 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Why did you go to him? If he wanted to see you so bad he could of dragged his ass accross state lines and gone to see YOU. Even if he does call you back and things progress the groundwork is already set that you'll be going to him... Why do you want an LDR anyway?
Author Mimi99 Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Why did you go to him? If he wanted to see you so bad he could of dragged his ass accross state lines and gone to see YOU. Even if he does call you back and things progress the groundwork is already set that you'll be going to him... Why do you want an LDR anyway? Thanks everyone for the comments. I should've had him come to me instead but I was on vacation and I thought since I had time, I'd go to him. I don't really want a LDR, it's just that I really liked this guy so I was willing to give it a shot. Deep down I feel that it wouldn't have worked anyway, but was sort of hoping for him to decide that he wants more than a one time thing. Mind you, this guy is older and told me that he's only had 1 relationship in his life. So, I guess it was also a challenge for me. I'm not hurt but disappointed by the fact that he's acting like a teenager. It felt wrong, going across the country to see this guy and sleep with him, but I thought that 5 months of talking on the phone is kind of dating for an LDR. So tired of all the rules and games one has to play to have a relationship.
KungFuJoe Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I'm sorry...but WHAT?? Let's review this situation... You meet a guy once. You hit it off, blah blah. He lives across the country. You guys talk on the phone for months. You fly out there and have sex with him. You fly back, he texts you to see if you made it back ok. You don't call him and just sit by the phone wondering why he doesn't call. Uh...if I'm that guy, I probably think YOU just wanted to have sex and nothing more. 1
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