jeni45667 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I know most of you will tell me to give up on a guy when he's not responding to my interest immediately, but I think sometimes, if we were willing to work hard for our career, I'm open to putting in some efforts towards getting a guy I want. For example, Warren Buffett got his first wife by hanging around. She had a boyfriend at the time, but Buffet established a friendship with her dad and when she broke up with her boyfriend, Buffett got the opportunity and married her With me, I want this guy who's a friend and a mentor. I mentioned him in the previous posts. He helps me a lot, but doesn't flirt with me. Do you have any suggestions about developing this gradually? Right now, we meet every other weekend for coffee or lunch, but is there a way that I can increase this to once a week or more? Anything else I can do?
BluEyeL Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Friendzoned woman. Guys can do more, it's in their biology to be chasers, so that example is not graeat. You cannot do so much. I really recommend moving on, it's very hard to get out of the friendzone. Continue to hang out with him if you want. Maybe drop hints that you have other guys in your life, but that's all I can think of. 1
mortensorchid Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 There's not much hope if the other does not respond to your interests immediately, whether you're a guy or a girl. If they don't respond, they're not interested and you've been friendzoned, and there's not much you can do about it. And there's no sense in hoping or playing that "there are many who are interested in me at this moment" game that they will come around either, because they made up their minds. Move on. 2
Lani Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I haven't read your other posts about this guy, so forgive me if this doesn't work with your relationship or whatever. But I think you should suggest moving your next coffee or lunch catchup to a dinner. Just throw it around casually and say 'How about we catch up over dinner this time?' and see how he takes it. It sort of gives a hint, but not too much. Gauge his reaction and just move on if he dismisses it in any way. Evenings are generally a more 'romantic' (for lack of a better word) time to see someone. Good luck 1
bob the brave Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I haven't read your other posts about this guy, so forgive me if this doesn't work with your relationship or whatever. But I think you should suggest moving your next coffee or lunch catchup to a dinner. Just throw it around casually and say 'How about we catch up over dinner this time?' and see how he takes it. It sort of gives a hint, but not too much. Gauge his reaction and just move on if he dismisses it in any way. Evenings are generally a more 'romantic' (for lack of a better word) time to see someone. Good luck Exellent idea. If he really likes you, he won't turn this down. However, OP has already stated she knows he doesn't care at the moment. She is wanting to know how to win him over. Ever seen the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murry? His girl orginally thought he was a jerk, but he changed himself and won her over. Sounds like Buffet was just waiting to be the good guy and be there at the right time. Yea, whatever you can think of to increase face time is good. You would know the best ways to accomplish this. But, make it quality time. Try to make conversation more personal. See if you can get him to talk about personal problems, then be supportive. He may be having problems with is SO, if he has one. Hell, he my even have ED, who know? Sometimes relationships are started that way.
Sunshine87 Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I know most of you will tell me to give up on a guy when he's not responding to my interest immediately, but I think sometimes, if we were willing to work hard for our career, I'm open to putting in some efforts towards getting a guy I want. For example, Warren Buffett got his first wife by hanging around. She had a boyfriend at the time, but Buffet established a friendship with her dad and when she broke up with her boyfriend, Buffett got the opportunity and married her With me, I want this guy who's a friend and a mentor. I mentioned him in the previous posts. He helps me a lot, but doesn't flirt with me. Do you have any suggestions about developing this gradually? Right now, we meet every other weekend for coffee or lunch, but is there a way that I can increase this to once a week or more? Anything else I can do? What's his situation? Does he have a woman in his life? A girlfriend or partner? A FWB ? What sort of women does he like? Do you know what's going on in his personal life?
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