New here - 7 years after I am left with nothing but devastation.. Help!!

September 28, 2004

Before sharing my story with you, let me apologise for my English which is not my native language as I come from Cyprus, a small Greek island in the Mediterranean Sea, being Europe's Eastern end. I am a 37 year-old woman working as a PA to the MD of a travel agency firm. I am in my office right now and since my boss just went out, I had the chance to go through the "LoveShack" message boards, something I have been doing for the last 8 months, ever since my "soulmate" left me after a 6.5 years relationship.

I read everybody's message almost every day and for some reason I had the urge to contact you all today and let you know that I know exactly what you have been going through - the heartache, the dispair, the bitterness, the "why's" and "if's", the crying, the loneliness, the grief, the loss .... everything. After 8 months, my progress is slim. You see, not only do I live in the same neighbour with my ex, but 4 months after he told me that he is leaving because although he loves and treasures our relationship and the values and quality it has he is not in love with me, he is now with someone else. I was trying really hard to pick up the pieces of my heart, besides the feelings of rejection and loss I experienced, the broken dreams and the fears of facing my life without him, but when I found out in late May that he was seeing someone else only 4 months after he left me, I went back to square 1. I found out in a very bad way and I was so shocked I thought I was going to die - I felt and still feel that he raped my soul.

Now, 4 months after reality hit me so hard, I am still trying to gasp some air as I still find myself breathless realising that the man he was the world to me and more could treat me in such a cruel way and at the same time I try to find the strength to get out of the neighbourhood because just the thought that only 50 meters away there's a woman sleeping in the bed I used to sleep in, makes my stomach turning upsight down. As I have already mentioned, I am 37 years old and my ex is 52, a well-known, very reputable doctor. The woman he is now with is 30-32 max, divorsed with a baby. He says there's chemistry with her, whereas with me this chemistry was never strong enough to make him do the necessary steps to marry me and have a family with me. After 6.5 years with me and a divorce before me on his shoulders, at 52 he is infatuated with a girl 20+ years younger than him, getting himself in a problematic situation with an ex husband, someone else's baby etc., offering this girl already 2 trips abroad and weekends in luxurious hotels. I have tried to talk to him and make him realise that this "in love" situation goes away pretty soon and that there were so many special values and such compatibility in our relationship that it is ashame to just throw everything away after so many years ... but he just won't listen. He is "drunk" now and "in love" and his logic is gone. He says this relationship he is in now lacks the intimacy and compatibility he had with me but has "strong chemistry". In the meantime, although I still love him with all my heart, at the same time there's a part of me that realises that once trust and respect are gone, there's no going back - even if one day opens his eyes and realises what he has missed. I treated him like gold, put him above everybody and everything, loved him with all my heart, he was my best friend, my lover, the brother I never had .... everything. When he left a part of me died... I was in denial for months, crying and begging and bargaining but the more he saw me like that the further he moved away. I lost 10 kilos in 8 months, I often experience panick attacks and I am still so depressed by what I got in the end of this relationship and how my life has become that I wonder whether I will ever manage to get out of this mess, forget and find peace.

I sense that behind all these, the reason he left was because he is a typical commitment-phobic with major issues he should have solved with the help of a psycologist years ago and that in the small society we live in he had to marry me and have a family with me eventually - you see we both come from very well known families, everybody knew we were a couple for so long, plus he is a very well-known doctor in our town. Now, he's got himself in a situation where there's no need, at least for the time being, for a marriage or a family. His new gf is out of a bad marriage obviously, her maternal insticts have already been satisfied so she doesn't ask for a baby like I did - actually this was our only serious argument, I was so scared at the though of time passing by and our ages as I adore babies and I was diying to experience motherhood and have his baby - and she just wants fun with someone who's got the money to offer it.

I was always aware that I loved him more than he did me, I never lived in a pink cloud or in "la-la land", there were problems obviously - a 6-year relationship not leading to marriage or a family is a big, red flag, but over the years I had realised he had some phobias and psychological problems with these things although he always said he wanted kids and a family. I foolishly thought though that my love and devotion plus the fact that we had become really closed for so many years would make him overcome his fears. I had never, ever imagined not even in my worst nightmares that my relationship with this man would have this horrible end. Even now, after 8 months, the thought of everything that happened is like a thousand knives in my heart, in my soul, in my stomach - everywhere! And besides me, my family suffers as well, as they loved him and believed in him and respected him and are devastated by the fact that he practically disappeared from our life without even contacting my father once to offer an explanation, an excuse, anything.... On New Year's day he was exchanging wishes with my family and a week later he just opened the door,threw everything in the garbage and left.... No responsibilites, no commitments, no respect, nothing ...

I just wish for my old life back ... I just wish this unbearable feeling of rejection and of "less of a woman" would go away .... I just wish he would realise the damage he has done to the person she loved him most and ask for a second chance ...

Daphne02071 Before sharing my story with you, let me apologise for my English which is not my native language as I come from Cyprus, a small Greek island in the Mediterranean Sea, being Europe's Eastern end. I am a 37 year-old woman working as a PA to the MD of a travel agency firm. I am in my office right now and since my boss just went out, I had the chance to go through the "From Abandonment to Healing" message boards, something I have been doing for the last 8 months, ever since my "soulmate" left me after a 6.5 years relationship.

I read everybody's message almost every day and for some reason I had the urge to contact you all today and let you know that I know exactly what you have been going through - the heartache, the dispair, the bitterness, the "why's" and "if's", the crying, the loneliness, the grief, the loss .... everything. After 8 months, my progress is slim. You see, not only do I live in the same neighbour with my ex, but 4 months after he told me that he is leaving because although he loves and treasures our relationship and the values and quality it has he is not in love with me, he is now with someone else. I was trying really hard to pick up the pieces of my heart, besides the feelings of rejection and loss I experienced, the broken dreams and the fears of facing my life without him, but when I found out in late May that he was seeing someone else only 4 months after he left me, I went back to square 1. I found out in a very bad way and I was so shocked I thought I was going to die - I felt and still feel that he raped my soul.

Now, 4 months after reality hit me so hard, I am still trying to gasp some air as I still find myself breathless realising that the man he was the world to me and more could treat me in such a cruel way and at the same time I try to find the strength to get out of the neighbourhood because just the thought that only 50 meters away there's a woman sleeping in the bed I used to sleep in, makes my stomach turning upsight down. As I have already mentioned, I am 37 years old and my ex is 52, a well-known, very reputable doctor. The woman he is now with is 30-32 max, divorsed with a baby. He says there's chemistry with her, whereas with me this chemistry was never strong enough to make him do the necessary steps to marry me and have a family with me. After 6.5 years with me and a divorce before me on his shoulders, at 52 he is infatuated with a girl 20+ years younger than him, getting himself in a problematic situation with an ex husband, someone else's baby etc., offering this girl already 2 trips abroad and weekends in luxurious hotels. I have tried to talk to him and make him realise that this "in love" situation goes away pretty soon and that there were so many special values and such compatibility in our relationship that it is ashame to just throw everything away after so many years ... but he just won't listen. He is "drunk" now and "in love" and his logic is gone. He says this relationship he is in now lacks the intimacy and compatibility he had with me but has "strong chemistry". In the meantime, although I still love him with all my heart, at the same time there's a part of me that realises that once trust and respect are gone, there's no going back - even if one day opens his eyes and realises what he has missed. I treated him like gold, put him above everybody and everything, loved him with all my heart, he was my best friend, my lover, the brother I never had .... everything. When he left a part of me died... I was in denial for months, crying and begging and bargaining but the more he saw me like that the further he moved away. I lost 10 kilos in 8 months, I often experience panick attacks and I am still so depressed by what I got in the end of this relationship and how my life has become that I wonder whether I will ever manage to get out of this mess, forget and find peace.

I sense that behind all these, the reason he left was because he is a typical commitment-phobic with major issues he should have solved with the help of a psycologist years ago and that in the small society we live in he had to marry me and have a family with me eventually - you see we both come from very well known families, everybody knew we were a couple for so long, plus he is a very well-known doctor in our town. Now, he's got himself in a situation where there's no need, at least for the time being, for a marriage or a family. His new gf is out of a bad marriage obviously, her maternal insticts have already been satisfied so she doesn't ask for a baby like I did - actually this was our only serious argument, I was so scared at the though of time passing by and our ages as I adore babies and I was diying to experience motherhood and have his baby - and she just wants fun with someone who's got the money to offer it.

I was always aware that I loved him more than he did me, I never lived in a pink cloud or in "la-la land", there were problems obviously - a 6-year relationship not leading to marriage or a family is a big, red flag, but over the years I had realised he had some phobias and psychological problems with these things although he always said he wanted kids and a family. I foolishly thought though that my love and devotion plus the fact that we had become really closed for so many years would make him overcome his fears. I had never, ever imagined not even in my worst nightmares that my relationship with this man would have this horrible end. Even now, after 8 months, the thought of everything that happened is like a thousand knives in my heart, in my soul, in my stomach - everywhere! And besides me, my family suffers as well, as they loved him and believed in him and respected him and are devastated by the fact that he practically disappeared from our life without even contacting my father once to offer an explanation, an excuse, anything.... On New Year's day he was exchanging wishes with my family and a week later he just opened the door,threw everything in the garbage and left.... No responsibilites, no commitments, no respect, nothing ...

I just wish for my old life back ... I just wish this unbearable feeling of rejection and of "less of a woman" would go away .... I just wish he would realise the damage he has done to the person she loved him most and ask for a second chance ...

Daphne

September 28, 2004

This is something I think everyone faces at some point. It's a shame that it seems to happen to a lot of good people

Time heals, I guess. I'm still pretty bitter etc. over mine but then again I think what happened to me is on the extreme end of the scale, girl friend ran off with a [used to be] good friend of mine and married him two months later.

September 28, 2004

Daphne, I'm sorry for the pain you are going through right now. 6.5 years with one person is a long time, but as you said, the red flags should have been raised when he didn't start committing. Maybe he felt cornered, that he HAD to marry, and have kids, and he just wasn't ready. Whatever the case, you need to pull yourself together and take one step after another towards taking care of you. Unfortunately, he sounds like he's moved on with his life. Maybe what you need to do is just give him the space he needs, maybe in time, he'll realize his loss, maybe he won't, but you need to take care of yourself, don't let him know how bad this is for you, it may make him go away further.

Please be kind to yourself.

September 29, 2004

Thanks so much for your kind words.... I am trying my best to move on - actually I have recently updated my cv and sent it to a few reputable companies so I can find another job with more money to allow me rent another apartment away from the neighbourhood. But, somedays, are soooo hard... After being so close with someone for so many years, it's like grieving a death, although I think it is even harder because when someone dies you know he didn't go because he wanted to leave you whereas when he dumps you you have to swallow the cruel but simple reality that he did it by choice...

Thanks again

Hugs

Daphne

September 30, 2004

Hi Daphne

I am also 37 and unmarried. I used to also be good to people I loved, put them above everything else and make them the center of my life. What did I get for it? Nothing. I started to get really depressed about 3 years ago. Worried that I would never be married. The scariness of not having found the right person sometimes kept me up at night... all night long.

Well one day I woke up and said enough is enough. And ever since then knock on wood I haven't had any problems with men. In fact, right now at this moment I have two men who are both crazy about me to the point that I think they will ask me to marry them. How did I turn my life around? Two things... I refused to put the person I was with at the center of my life, which includes not allowing them to cross boundaries that were forbidden. Men now know that I mean business and I wont let them act bad. Second, the old fashioned way of our mothers, in which we did not sleep with men before marriage and held out until we had a firm commitment. Well it may seem ridiculous to a modern woman but guess what it works. I am not saying that I am going to marry either of these guys. But it is refreshing to NOT be treated bad anymore, but to be treated as a queen instead.

I can totally sympathize with what you are going through. But I have to tell you something. Your malaka did you a huge favor.... he left you and thank god... Because if he did not you would still be with that loser today... tomorrow and maybe for the next ten years. You would lose your chance to be married, have children, and make all your earthly dreams come true. Is that something you really need to be sad about?

Now that he left ... you still have time to find someone else and get on with your life and have a baby... and have everything that you want!

I strongly suggest you move out of his neighborhood. Once you have accomplished that task it is probably good for you to get away for a while also. Go somewhere so that you can have fun and meet new people and give time to let your heart heal. I know 8 months seems like a long time...but its not for such a long relationship. It will get better I promise.

Write to me if you need to on the PM.

Regards,

Overseas

September 30, 2004

He says there's chemistry with her, whereas with me this chemistry was never strong enough

at 52 he is infatuated with a girl 20+ years younger

He is "drunk" now and "in love" and his logic is gone. He says this relationship he is in now lacks the intimacy and compatibility he had with me but has "strong chemistry

Daphne, I agree with Overseas; you escaped a bullet. If he'd married you, he'd have left you eventually for someone with whom he had 'chemistry'. Which means he's a very unwise man. Smart folks have figured out that 'chemistry' is a false predictor of compatibility, long-term commitment, or enjoyment in a relationship. Sure, it's fun between the sheets, but without those other factors like intimacy and compatibility, the fun will wear off when the infatuation chemicals do and when that happens, even the between-the-sheets life won't be that much fun anymore.

No matter his other great qualities, his lack of wisdom in matters of love made him a very bad deal. Thank whatever spirits you believe in that he's gone. To cure yourself of him, write down all the unpleasant or bad things about him. When you are tempted to think of him in a glowy light, read your list over and over and remember every unpleasant circumstance. Don't allow yourself to dwell on him as some wonderful partner, because his inability to understand how to be a good partner negates that entirely. Instead, remind yourself of all the negatives. It'll take another few months to get him completely out of your system but you can hasten the proces by not mourning what never was - it was never the perfect relationship because it was with a man who hasn't a clue about what's really valuable in a relationship. Find one who does have a clue in that regard. You deserve nothing less.

September 30, 2004

Thanks moimeme, thanks overseas and everybody else that has replied, for your encouraging words. It's just that after 7 years with someone it's hard to swallow the excuse that the "chemistry had never been strong enough". How could he stay in the relationship for so many years and why it took him so many years to leave? I don't know. Even if the chemistry had never been fully there (besides the great sex, the obvious jealousy, the checking if I am at home or if my car is missing when we would fight and we would stay apart for a couple of days, the phone calls to apologise and ask to be back together again etc.etc.??), what about love and togetherness and common life for so many f***ing years? We had been through almost everything together but still...

Hugs

Daphne

September 30, 2004

People leave after 7, 10, 15, 25 and more years.

How could he stay in the relationship for so many years and why it took him so many years to leave?

Inertia, maybe. Laziness, maybe. Bottom line is that he left is a good enough reason to be glad he's gone. See what you're doing? You're going over the 'proofs' that he loved you. Whether or not he did or thought he did is immaterial now because he left. All you do by going over these 'proofs' is torture yourself more - and for what?

The ultimate proof of whether a person loves you is whether the person is with you. No matter what he did before, none of it has relevance now. You keep trying to make a logical case which, possibly, you think might 'prove' to him that he loved you and still does but the only thing he'll listen to is his own thoughts, which are that the new chick is who he wants.

So give up on going over all the 'proofs'. Cut it out. It does you absolutely no good at all. Take up a new hobby or do anything to occupy your brain with things other than mulling over the relationship that was. You are robbing yourself of your own future by dwelling on what's past.

September 30, 2004

You are absolutely right moimeme - FACTS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!

No point torturing myself over and over again - absolutely no point at all!

Hugs

Daphne

September 30, 2004

Please anybody - overseas2004 was kind enough to ask me to contact her through PM and I would really love to but for some reason I can't. Could you please let me know how to send her a PM or could somebody let her know so she can send me one?

If somebody contacts her, please tell her that I will not be able to get back to her before Monday as I do not have a pc at home and tomorrow I will be out of the office due to a public holiday.

Thanks a lot for your help

Daphne

September 30, 2004

[email protected]

Feel free to write.... I ll try to help...

Stay strong.

September 30, 2004

Originally posted by daphne02071
Before sharing my story with you, let me apologise for my English which is not my native language as I come from Cyprus, a small Greek island in the Mediterranean Sea, being Europe's Eastern end. I am a 37 year-old woman working as a PA to the MD of a travel agency firm. I am in my office right now and since my boss just went out, I had the chance to go through the "LoveShack" message boards, something I have been doing for the last 8 months, ever since my "soulmate" left me after a 6.5 years relationship.

I read everybody's message almost every day and for some reason I had the urge to contact you all today and let you know that I know exactly what you have been going through - the heartache, the dispair, the bitterness, the "why's" and "if's", the crying, the loneliness, the grief, the loss .... everything. After 8 months, my progress is slim. You see, not only do I live in the same neighbour with my ex, but 4 months after he told me that he is leaving because although he loves and treasures our relationship and the values and quality it has he is not in love with me, he is now with someone else. I was trying really hard to pick up the pieces of my heart, besides the feelings of rejection and loss I experienced, the broken dreams and the fears of facing my life without him, but when I found out in late May that he was seeing someone else only 4 months after he left me, I went back to square 1. I found out in a very bad way and I was so shocked I thought I was going to die - I felt and still feel that he raped my soul.

Now, 4 months after reality hit me so hard, I am still trying to gasp some air as I still find myself breathless realising that the man he was the world to me and more could treat me in such a cruel way and at the same time I try to find the strength to get out of the neighbourhood because just the thought that only 50 meters away there's a woman sleeping in the bed I used to sleep in, makes my stomach turning upsight down. As I have already mentioned, I am 37 years old and my ex is 52, a well-known, very reputable doctor. The woman he is now with is 30-32 max, divorsed with a baby. He says there's chemistry with her, whereas with me this chemistry was never strong enough to make him do the necessary steps to marry me and have a family with me. After 6.5 years with me and a divorce before me on his shoulders, at 52 he is infatuated with a girl 20+ years younger than him, getting himself in a problematic situation with an ex husband, someone else's baby etc., offering this girl already 2 trips abroad and weekends in luxurious hotels. I have tried to talk to him and make him realise that this "in love" situation goes away pretty soon and that there were so many special values and such compatibility in our relationship that it is ashame to just throw everything away after so many years ... but he just won't listen. He is "drunk" now and "in love" and his logic is gone. He says this relationship he is in now lacks the intimacy and compatibility he had with me but has "strong chemistry". In the meantime, although I still love him with all my heart, at the same time there's a part of me that realises that once trust and respect are gone, there's no going back - even if one day opens his eyes and realises what he has missed. I treated him like gold, put him above everybody and everything, loved him with all my heart, he was my best friend, my lover, the brother I never had .... everything. When he left a part of me died... I was in denial for months, crying and begging and bargaining but the more he saw me like that the further he moved away. I lost 10 kilos in 8 months, I often experience panick attacks and I am still so depressed by what I got in the end of this relationship and how my life has become that I wonder whether I will ever manage to get out of this mess, forget and find peace.

I sense that behind all these, the reason he left was because he is a typical commitment-phobic with major issues he should have solved with the help of a psycologist years ago and that in the small society we live in he had to marry me and have a family with me eventually - you see we both come from very well known families, everybody knew we were a couple for so long, plus he is a very well-known doctor in our town. Now, he's got himself in a situation where there's no need, at least for the time being, for a marriage or a family. His new gf is out of a bad marriage obviously, her maternal insticts have already been satisfied so she doesn't ask for a baby like I did - actually this was our only serious argument, I was so scared at the though of time passing by and our ages as I adore babies and I was diying to experience motherhood and have his baby - and she just wants fun with someone who's got the money to offer it.

I was always aware that I loved him more than he did me, I never lived in a pink cloud or in "la-la land", there were problems obviously - a 6-year relationship not leading to marriage or a family is a big, red flag, but over the years I had realised he had some phobias and psychological problems with these things although he always said he wanted kids and a family. I foolishly thought though that my love and devotion plus the fact that we had become really closed for so many years would make him overcome his fears. I had never, ever imagined not even in my worst nightmares that my relationship with this man would have this horrible end. Even now, after 8 months, the thought of everything that happened is like a thousand knives in my heart, in my soul, in my stomach - everywhere! And besides me, my family suffers as well, as they loved him and believed in him and respected him and are devastated by the fact that he practically disappeared from our life without even contacting my father once to offer an explanation, an excuse, anything.... On New Year's day he was exchanging wishes with my family and a week later he just opened the door,threw everything in the garbage and left.... No responsibilites, no commitments, no respect, nothing ...

I just wish for my old life back ... I just wish this unbearable feeling of rejection and of "less of a woman" would go away .... I just wish he would realise the damage he has done to the person she loved him most and ask for a second chance ...

Daphne02071 Before sharing my story with you, let me apologise for my English which is not my native language as I come from Cyprus, a small Greek island in the Mediterranean Sea, being Europe's Eastern end. I am a 37 year-old woman working as a PA to the MD of a travel agency firm. I am in my office right now and since my boss just went out, I had the chance to go through the "From Abandonment to Healing" message boards, something I have been doing for the last 8 months, ever since my "soulmate" left me after a 6.5 years relationship.

I read everybody's message almost every day and for some reason I had the urge to contact you all today and let you know that I know exactly what you have been going through - the heartache, the dispair, the bitterness, the "why's" and "if's", the crying, the loneliness, the grief, the loss .... everything. After 8 months, my progress is slim. You see, not only do I live in the same neighbour with my ex, but 4 months after he told me that he is leaving because although he loves and treasures our relationship and the values and quality it has he is not in love with me, he is now with someone else. I was trying really hard to pick up the pieces of my heart, besides the feelings of rejection and loss I experienced, the broken dreams and the fears of facing my life without him, but when I found out in late May that he was seeing someone else only 4 months after he left me, I went back to square 1. I found out in a very bad way and I was so shocked I thought I was going to die - I felt and still feel that he raped my soul.

Now, 4 months after reality hit me so hard, I am still trying to gasp some air as I still find myself breathless realising that the man he was the world to me and more could treat me in such a cruel way and at the same time I try to find the strength to get out of the neighbourhood because just the thought that only 50 meters away there's a woman sleeping in the bed I used to sleep in, makes my stomach turning upsight down. As I have already mentioned, I am 37 years old and my ex is 52, a well-known, very reputable doctor. The woman he is now with is 30-32 max, divorsed with a baby. He says there's chemistry with her, whereas with me this chemistry was never strong enough to make him do the necessary steps to marry me and have a family with me. After 6.5 years with me and a divorce before me on his shoulders, at 52 he is infatuated with a girl 20+ years younger than him, getting himself in a problematic situation with an ex husband, someone else's baby etc., offering this girl already 2 trips abroad and weekends in luxurious hotels. I have tried to talk to him and make him realise that this "in love" situation goes away pretty soon and that there were so many special values and such compatibility in our relationship that it is ashame to just throw everything away after so many years ... but he just won't listen. He is "drunk" now and "in love" and his logic is gone. He says this relationship he is in now lacks the intimacy and compatibility he had with me but has "strong chemistry". In the meantime, although I still love him with all my heart, at the same time there's a part of me that realises that once trust and respect are gone, there's no going back - even if one day opens his eyes and realises what he has missed. I treated him like gold, put him above everybody and everything, loved him with all my heart, he was my best friend, my lover, the brother I never had .... everything. When he left a part of me died... I was in denial for months, crying and begging and bargaining but the more he saw me like that the further he moved away. I lost 10 kilos in 8 months, I often experience panick attacks and I am still so depressed by what I got in the end of this relationship and how my life has become that I wonder whether I will ever manage to get out of this mess, forget and find peace.

I sense that behind all these, the reason he left was because he is a typical commitment-phobic with major issues he should have solved with the help of a psycologist years ago and that in the small society we live in he had to marry me and have a family with me eventually - you see we both come from very well known families, everybody knew we were a couple for so long, plus he is a very well-known doctor in our town. Now, he's got himself in a situation where there's no need, at least for the time being, for a marriage or a family. His new gf is out of a bad marriage obviously, her maternal insticts have already been satisfied so she doesn't ask for a baby like I did - actually this was our only serious argument, I was so scared at the though of time passing by and our ages as I adore babies and I was diying to experience motherhood and have his baby - and she just wants fun with someone who's got the money to offer it.

I was always aware that I loved him more than he did me, I never lived in a pink cloud or in "la-la land", there were problems obviously - a 6-year relationship not leading to marriage or a family is a big, red flag, but over the years I had realised he had some phobias and psychological problems with these things although he always said he wanted kids and a family. I foolishly thought though that my love and devotion plus the fact that we had become really closed for so many years would make him overcome his fears. I had never, ever imagined not even in my worst nightmares that my relationship with this man would have this horrible end. Even now, after 8 months, the thought of everything that happened is like a thousand knives in my heart, in my soul, in my stomach - everywhere! And besides me, my family suffers as well, as they loved him and believed in him and respected him and are devastated by the fact that he practically disappeared from our life without even contacting my father once to offer an explanation, an excuse, anything.... On New Year's day he was exchanging wishes with my family and a week later he just opened the door,threw everything in the garbage and left.... No responsibilites, no commitments, no respect, nothing ...

I just wish for my old life back ... I just wish this unbearable feeling of rejection and of "less of a woman" would go away .... I just wish he would realise the damage he has done to the person she loved him most and ask for a second chance ...

Daphne

Sorry for your pain,but u sure thank "God" that the zero is gone and u can find yourself an hero now. Someone who is going to love u for u and commit only to u.....In due time u will heal and u will laugh on this one,but just do the "NO CONTACT" thing and leave him completely alone.......then he will start to miss u,cause it very hard to be with someone with that amount of years.......and not miss u. Sooner or later he will be crawling back to u,cause the grass is not alway's greener on thee other side....."Be Bless"

October 1, 2004

I think its wrong to tell people that someone will be coming back... You have no idea that this will happen and Daphne should not have any hope. In fact she should stay away from him and not accept him back unless he puts a ring on her finger and sets a date. Even if he did that she should think about it deeply. He left her for some other woman and was a jerk to her. He has shown his true colors. She deserves better.

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