joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I know for me it hard. I'm in a position where i can't move right now. I'm trying to make the most out of it but it's even tougher because of my dating preferences. OLD sucks because of traveling. Any suggestion?
soccerrprp Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 joystickd, I don't understand why you need to start this thread? It sounds like you don't have any choices to make. You can't move. You won't do OLD because of traveling. And you are hindered by your preferences....what do you want people to tell you? When you're ready, move. How far are you from the next largest metro area? Why can't you do OLD? You don't have a car? Are you that far away from any large metro area? If so, and you want to do it so badly, you'll need to decide to make that long trip. 3
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 joystickd, I don't understand why you need to start this thread? It sounds like you don't have any choices to make. You can't move. You won't do OLD because of traveling. And you are hindered by your preferences....what do you want people to tell you? When you're ready, move. How far are you from the next largest metro area? Why can't you do OLD? You don't have a car? Are you that far away from any large metro area? If so, and you want to do it so badly, you'll need to decide to make that long trip. I have a car. My experience on OLD has been women on antipsychotic meds so I'm a little weary about OLD. It's not like I won't do it but just a little cautious about it. I mean you would be too if you talk to someone and they admit to taking Haldol and Seroquel.
TaraMaiden Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I don't care what you do, as long as you don't frighten the horses. 2
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 I don't care what you do, as long as you don't frighten the horses. I have cows lol.
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 The only other thing about OLD is messaging women. I message one and never get a message and I will get a message from a woman I would never date. I usually write back "Sorry not my type". I just need some tips I guess on OLD. I use plenty of fish. They have more women closer to where I live.
soccerrprp Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I have a car. My experience on OLD has been women on antipsychotic meds so I'm a little weary about OLD. It's not like I won't do it but just a little cautious about it. I mean you would be too if you talk to someone and they admit to taking Haldol and Seroquel. joystickd, All I do is OLD and have never met ladies like that. I've had a pleasant degree of success with it. Most women are not like that. Don't give up if it's one of the only options you have remaining.
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 joystickd, All I do is OLD and have never met ladies like that. I've had a pleasant degree of success with it. Most women are not like that. Don't give up if it's one of the only options you have remaining. Well what is your secret to success?
carhill Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Any suggestion? Not really. I've dealt with it for about 25 years and it's time for a permanent move to an area with a more favorable gender balance and women who are unattached for more than ten seconds. For yourself, urban NC might be all you need. I visit the RDU area a lot (have friends there) and find a more favorable ratio of single ladies and have met some real friendly ones. Can't take the humidity though. Good luck.
TaraMaiden Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I have cows lol. You have a field of girlfriends right there..... Docile, giving, you know all of them intimately, and they are undemanding.... Sorted!! 2
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 You have a field of girlfriends right there..... Docile, giving, you know all of them intimately, and they are undemanding.... Sorted!! very funny
soccerrprp Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Well what is your secret to success? Secret? I have none. I do what I do and that seems to work. I'm a communicator and believe that I have much to offer. I'm a good seller of my qualities and I try to be as consistent as possible. I don't know. No secrets.
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Secret? I have none. I do what I do and that seems to work. I'm a communicator and believe that I have much to offer. I'm a good seller of my qualities and I try to be as consistent as possible. I don't know. No secrets. It's hard for me to verbally sell my qualities. I know its easier for me to demonstrate with the job I do my qualities than talk about them. That is my biggest problem.
Imajerk17 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 You have a field of girlfriends right there..... Docile, giving, you know all of them intimately, and they are undemanding.... Sorted!! He wouldn't even need to buy any of the cows. Not if he is getting the milk for free...
ascendotum Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 The same issues you face, the local single women must face also, unless there is a noticable gender imbalance (women leaving but men staying). I realize the number of prospects is much less to choose from though. My impression of country towns/rural is that women are more down to earth & friendly. People don't seem to stay single all that long and so there is not much dating as such, and the singles tend to be quite young or much older. It can be really tough for farmers though, who need to spend so much of their time on their property. "My experience on OLD has been women on antipsychotic meds" . For rural folks, OLD is probably not such a bad thing when it comes to generating options. How do other single blokes in your area get on?
FitChick Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 My experience with country life has been the opposite. People are suspicious of strangers and you could live in a town for ten years and still be called "that new family."
hppr Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 The same issues you face, the local single women must face also, unless there is a noticable gender imbalance (women leaving but men staying). I found that a lot of women left as fast as they could so every party, bar was a sausage fest no matter where you went. The single guys would all be dating the same 3-4 women between them, the hillbilly drama was pretty hilarious since there'd be a girl who was dating (or married) to a string of 5-6 guys who all knew one another sort of thing. I know that happens in cities too, I've seen it, but in the country that was how practically every relationship I knew or heard about from High School onward went. Also my graduating class had 75 people and 49 were guys.
hppr Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 My experience with country life has been the opposite. People are suspicious of strangers and you could live in a town for ten years and still be called "that new family." Or "The Californians" like a buddy of mine who moved to a Midwest state with his wife and child. When I flew into a nearby big city I rented a car and went out there to meet him, nobody knew his name until I said "he came here from California" then it was like a light bulb went on, "oh, they are down Church St they bought the old Baker house". 1
apple OR orange Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 below is your situation, youhave the solution at hand... rock ..... you ..... hardplace If theres no women local, you cant do OLD and you cant move = single So one item has to give, moving would be easier it sounds like for you, however you cant = single.
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Or "The Californians" like a buddy of mine who moved to a Midwest state with his wife and child. When I flew into a nearby big city I rented a car and went out there to meet him, nobody knew his name until I said "he came here from California" then it was like a light bulb went on, "oh, they are down Church St they bought the old Baker house". I was very introverted when I was younger. I was more outgoing in elementary school but some bad experiences with a teacher and some bullying made me kind of want to stay to myself. Plus stuff that happened to me in middle school. It kind of made me a stranger because in high school I didn't go out. I went to games every once and a while but when I got older I meet women where I lived they ask you know this person or that person and I would say no and they would give me funny looks. My only success is women that live outside my county. I do travel and meet some women.
Author joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 below is your situation, youhave the solution at hand... rock ..... you ..... hardplace If theres no women local, you cant do OLD and you cant move = single So one item has to give, moving would be easier it sounds like for you, however you cant = single. My job is outside of the county I'm in so I travel around there and meet some women some days. I can do OLD but its frustrating because I send out a bunch of messages to different women and get nothing.
TaraMaiden Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 My experience with country life has been the opposite. People are suspicious of strangers and you could live in a town for ten years and still be called "that new family." My FiL and his wife have lived in rural France for over 25 years. She actually adopted French nationality to enable her to procure better employment there... Fat chance. After all this time, they're still referred to as "Les Anglais Fous".... (*Those mad English people*....)
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