Do girls want only a manly man?

[ThaWholigan]

Does anyone else sing the 'Three and a Half Men' theme song when they see the title of this?

 

I can't stop.

I thought of this

 

[Pyro]

I thought of this

 

 

He must have hated the gimmick so much.

[Treasa]

I personally like it when a guy can joke about himself and clearly isn't serious.

 

For example, I tell people I have the attention span of a grapefruit. I don't really (well, ok, sometimes), but it's fun to laugh at myself.

[Lani]

Is that a spin off from 'Two and a Half Men'? Not familiar with the show that you speak of.

 

No.

 

 

[denise_xo]

Self deprecating humour is right up my street, as long as it comes from a person that's generally emotionally healthy and it's relaxed self commentary rather than an endless spin of insecurities that the person has no other strategy for dealing with (and that goes for both men and women). But I agree with cutting out the 'If I wasn't such an idiot'-bit. The knowing our audience bit is important, too.

[denise_xo]

For example, I tell people I have the attention span of a grapefruit.

 

Never heard the grapefruit version before.

[Benedictatu]

I married a nerd and I thought he would be safe but he ran off with someone else. You can never know what someone else will find attractive.

[GravityMan]

Self-deprecation is fine if done sporadically and in a humorous, "not meant to be taken too seriously" way. If a person can pull it off well, that could be a source of great laughs. Otherwise, don't do it. I think it's one of those risk/reward things. I don't recommend doing it if you have low self-esteem.

 

I also don't care for the term "manly man".

[Maleficent]

Girls let's suppose you see a guy that is reasonably good looking and in good shape. That is he looks like a man. But he is very open, funny and very self-dreprecating in an honest, healthy way. Could you find this attractive?

 

I have this type of personality. I think it serves me well in general and it is just me.

 

However, I think it may be hurting my chances with the opposite sex. I think I may be inadvertantly painting a picture of myself as weak and insecure. Those who know me get it and know what I am doing. But I think many others, especially girls, see it as a weakness.

 

Should I tone it down and live closer to the vest?

 

Personaly, it anoys me when someone is doing this - even as a joke. It makes me feel like they just want me to tell them they are ok but are trying to make it look like they don't really care.

 

Edit : confidence isn't 'manly'

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[KungFuJoe]

Yeah that's the other side of being self deprecating. A lot of people use it to fish for compliments. Not saying that's what op is doing but it could certainly be seen that way.