Regret.

[melancholia]

I'm 26, and had an intense but wrong relationship end in February. I found an amazing guy in March, and thought it would be an easy rebound where I couldn't get hurt. This guy is genuinely kind, ambitious, smart, gorgeous and affectionate. He's one of the better people I've met. When I met him I thought he was great, but was looking for something to 'fix' how I was feeling coming off of my last relationship. The more I began dating the new guy the more I saw the last one was wrong for me, but I never fully invested in the new one. He ended things a few days ago, in part because as much as we had in common and as much fun as we had, there wasn't the magical spark. I know this is largely because I held back so much in order to avoid getting attached and hurt. He was open and receptive and engaging and kind, and I put in minimum reciprocation. I know how quick the relationship was--only 2 1/2 months--but I'm devastated that I lost out on this incredible potential relationship because I was scared to let him in. We had a great time together and did connect on many levels, but I think my reluctance to meet him halfway doomed us. I sent him a message apologizing and explaining things last night, and he hasn't replied. I think I blew it. It's my fault and I feel awful...I think we could have been something formidable together.

[flitzanu]

I'm 26, and had an intense but wrong relationship end in February. I found an amazing guy in March, and thought it would be an easy rebound where I couldn't get hurt. This guy is genuinely kind, ambitious, smart, gorgeous and affectionate. He's one of the better people I've met. When I met him I thought he was great, but was looking for something to 'fix' how I was feeling coming off of my last relationship. The more I began dating the new guy the more I saw the last one was wrong for me, but I never fully invested in the new one. He ended things a few days ago, in part because as much as we had in common and as much fun as we had, there wasn't the magical spark. I know this is largely because I held back so much in order to avoid getting attached and hurt. He was open and receptive and engaging and kind, and I put in minimum reciprocation. I know how quick the relationship was--only 2 1/2 months--but I'm devastated that I lost out on this incredible potential relationship because I was scared to let him in. We had a great time together and did connect on many levels, but I think my reluctance to meet him halfway doomed us. I sent him a message apologizing and explaining things last night, and he hasn't replied. I think I blew it. It's my fault and I feel awful...I think we could have been something formidable together.

 

you can't beat yourself up over this. just because YOU feel like you lost something big, it doesn't mean he feels the same way. no offense of course, not saying you may not be amazing, but simply that HE didn't feel the spark, and that's why he ended it. he obviously had the feelings like it wasn't working for him and wasn't what he wanted, so he walked away.