sweetjess1951 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 So I am about 2 months out of a 10 month relationship and am ready to start dating again. I go to the gym quite regularly and I've seen this really attractive guy there for some time now. What I've seen, I like. He is extremely easy on the eyes, seems to have a professional job because he comes after work in his "business" clothes and he works out. This past Monday, we began making a lot of eye contact. He would work out a lot on the machines directly in front of me (when he could do the same exercises in the "guy" area) and a couple times would look directly at me when he got up from the machine. The thing that threw me off was, as we were both leaving (although I was a good amount of steps behind him), he didn't stop to hold the door. I wasn't sure if that was something he did on purpose or just wasn't paying attention. My guy friend said guys do not make that much eye contact if they aren't at least a little bit interested. Yesterday, I saw him again. This was a bit surprising because I usually see him maybe twice a week. This time, my roommate was with me and she noticed that he was making a lot of eye contact and making the effort to work out on the machines right in front of us. And the eye contact was even more than Monday. The thing that upsets me, though, is that at one point last night I was at the front desk talking to one of my friends who works there. This older guy that works there as well heard us talking about the guy and asked which one. I pointed him out and went back to my workout with my roommate. As we were stretching to finish up, the guy walked by us into the locker room and the older guy who works at the front desk went into the locker room with him. He came back out and said "His name is Thomas". I felt a bit embarrassed because I don't know if he said something along the lines of "This girl out here..." and if he did what do guys think about that?!? My roommate and I left when he was leaving and he decided to stand outside his car and take his shirt off Haha, I'm not good at this flirting/dating thing and I really don't want to approach him in case it looks desperate. Should I just eye flirt a little more and feel it out. I'm such a chicken and I get nervous/scared to put myself in a situation where I could get rejected. I want him to approach me!!
HuffmanMontana Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 LOL, he took his shirt off outside the gym? Have fun with that guy. Sounds like a total narcissist.
USMCHokie Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 My roommate and I left when he was leaving and he decided to stand outside his car and take his shirt off Moral of the story is that this apparently works...
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Well this definitely wasn't me. I definitely did not take my shirt off after some girl followed me around the gym...
ChessPieceFace Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 he was making a lot of eye contact and making the effort to work out on the machines right in front of us. Creep and/or douche. My roommate and I left when he was leaving and he decided to stand outside his car and take his shirt off Oh gross. And you "loved" that? Have fun with that guy. Keep some ointment handy because I think you're gonna get BURNED.
Imported Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Doesn't everyone take off their shirts to drive around so as to avoid getting tan lines? I'd do it too, if I didn't have UV protective tint on every single window on my car, including the windshield and always drive with all windows up. I hate tan lines!!! They suck! Really though, I could understand taking off the shirt if it was drenched in sweat. I always almost take a shower and change to fresh clothes at the gym since I almost always lap swim after running and lifting, but sometimes I don't swim and occasionally end up wearing the same sweat drenched shirt to my car. I just cover my seat with my towel though. But if I didn't have a big towel, I could see a dry shirtless back being less likely to leave much stink behind on the seat than a sweat drenched shirt.
USMCHokie Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 took his shirt off on purpose? d bag central Note how attractive d bag central really is to OP. Perhaps more of us should take our shirts off on purpose... 1
Emilia Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Doesn't everyone take off their shirts to drive around so as to avoid getting tan lines? I'd do it too, if I didn't have UV protective tint on every single window on my car, including the windshield and always drive with all windows up. I hate tan lines!!! They suck! I sincerely hope that not every guy is this vain
USMCHokie Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I sincerely hope that not every guy is this vain Tan lines are not something to be f*cking around with...
Emilia Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Tan lines are not something to be f*cking around with... I find them impossible to avoid and I refuse spending a minute of my life contemplaiting how to erradicate them
Emilia Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Haha, I'm not good at this flirting/dating thing and I really don't want to approach him in case it looks desperate. Should I just eye flirt a little more and feel it out. I'm such a chicken and I get nervous/scared to put myself in a situation where I could get rejected. I want him to approach me!! I prefer men who talk to me. I mean sure taking their shirt off is fine but I like friendly guys so having some random conversation would mean much more than a semi-naked torso. I know it's not always easy in the gym, men worry about rejection etc etc. It's easier in some places than others.
USMCHokie Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I find them impossible to avoid and I refuse spending a minute of my life contemplaiting how to erradicate them Nekkidness.
Emilia Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Nekkidness. I know. I very rarely sunbathe Can't imagine anything more boring
USMCHokie Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I know. I very rarely sunbathe Can't imagine anything more boring True. I guess lucky for the guys, it's more acceptable to be shirtless in public. It's really the only I go running...just to tan. Otherwise, I don't like getting all sweaty and tired... 1
Feelin Frisky Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 The shirt bit throws me a curve. He introduced himself? Did you not introduce yourself? Did you take your shirt off? Oops, skip that question. Well anyway, next time you see him say "Thomas, isn't it? I'm Rachel Nipple-Ripper or whatever your real name is. If he doesn't initiate conversation just say that you realized you hadn't returned the introduction and assume it's not too late make his acquaintance. That's not bold or risky. Only a true douche would contrive some negative to say to make you feel rejected. He's eyeballing you (the operative word being balling). If they dude make no conversation he may be one of those types who over -compensates for lack of the gift of gab by constantly beautifying himself. Si if he says nothing just say "se ya around, Thomas or at least I hope to". Now that is forward but flattering and if you want him to make a move you have placed the ball in hi court to do so. If he doesn't, he's ghey. But he did introduce himself rather than going out the fire exit. So think positive. And report back.
Emilia Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 True. I guess lucky for the guys, it's more acceptable to be shirtless in public. It's really the only I go running...just to tan. Otherwise, I don't like getting all sweaty and tired... To be honest it's not an issue in the UK unfortunately since we get so little sunshine and we are all so white. When I was in Sri Lanka I had really deep dark tan because of the gypsy genes in my family but falling asleep in the sun a couple of times sorted out any tanline. Unfortunately however, usually it's a non-issue
jmwinters Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 You should make him approach to you. To do that you need to give him some signals such as eye contacts, play with your hair, or even more powerful just look him directly into the eyes and smile. Once he's got the green light, he will find a way to approach you. Create a comfort zone for him, this meaning make it easy for him to talk to you. For example working out alone in an area there is not much people. If he really wants to know you, he will come talk to you.
Author sweetjess1951 Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Wow, I think all but one response was extremely immature. Thanks for the "advice". I'm pretty sure he took his shirt off because it was sweaty. I've left at the same time as him before and he did t do it every time. But again, thanks for all the input:rolleyes:
thr1986 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Act confident and go up and talk to him. TRUST ME THIS WILL WORK! I'm a guy and work out at the gym 5 days a week. I know EXACTLY what your talking about here. He is probably being a wuss and not outgoing enough to strike up a conversation with him. Seriously, try to get him by the water fountain or something and just introduce yourself and you will be golden. Promise.
thr1986 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 not out going enough to strike up a conversation with you**** (I meant)
Author sweetjess1951 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 It feels a little more complicated than going up to him and starting a conversation. This guy seems a bit out of my league. He is a business ,an and from what I've seen, doesn't really screw around. I also freak out thinking about rejection or doing anything to creative a negative opinion of me. For example, on Friday I went to workout. I didn't see him at the gym that time. I met my guy friend for drinks at a local bar and as I was walking inside to use the bathroom, I see the gym guy. I mean really? Out of all the places?!? I go back to the table and tell my guy friend that the guy from the gym was here and he said "you mean the guy who keeps looking over here?". For one, I did t want to look like I was stalking him and two, I didn't want him to think I am dating my guy friend. He was there with a guy but they both had their work clothes on so even if I wanted to talk to him, I didn't want to interrupt any business meeting they may be having. I drive by the gym on my way home and noticed he was at the gym today (yes, I've seen what car he drives when we have left at the same time). He was there a lot earlier than normal. I planned on meeting my friend for a drink then going to the gym. When I got there he was still there. I was wearing my cute work clothes with my hair down and when I walked in, I looked up and saw him looking at me. But when I went real quick to change and came out, he had already left. I feel so ridiculous for creating these negative ideas in my head like how he probably left because I showed up or he may think I'm stalking him because we were at the gym together almost every night together then at the bar.
Author sweetjess1951 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 double standard I really hate What do you mean?
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