hw172 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 So I've been NC for about 1 1/2 months and have been broken up aince New Years. In the last few weeks I have received 2 forms of contact though social media. It has been super minimal. Basically all I've done is accept her requests so I don't seem rude or seem immature. But honestly it's made it a bit tough. It makes me contemplate deleting her or even contacting her saying if she wants to talk then she should call me, not make these minimal effort contacts. Or even say its too hard and then delete her. Anyway, I think both of those would seem childish but it seems like a good idea at the moment. It makes me wonder if she is still with her bf. Should I just not say anything or post anything so I can atleast have my dignity and remain somewhat mysterious? Help please!
Ale khun Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Don't say anything , it's better why?? Well if u post something you are going to wait for her response Sadly sometimes we ask questions waiting to hear what we want and if she says something bad to you you are only going to end up more hurt , you should ignore her that's all , if u show her that you still care for her you are giving her more power , she has a new life and probably new bf . I don't think it's childish to block her i think that u should do whatever is in your hands to feel better . In my case i still avoid all the places I went with my ex , I don't have FB , because there are so many ways to find information about him and I'm sure that's going to hurt me so I avoid everything that brings memories . Sometimes blocking everything ie . Fb, phone , msn, helps you forget .
Author hw172 Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Don't say anything , it's better why?? Well if u post something you are going to wait for her response Sadly sometimes we ask questions waiting to hear what we want and if she says something bad to you you are only going to end up more hurt , you should ignore her that's all , if u show her that you still care for her you are giving her more power , she has a new life and probably new bf . I don't think it's childish to block her i think that u should do whatever is in your hands to feel better . In my case i still avoid all the places I went with my ex , I don't have FB , because there are so many ways to find information about him and I'm sure that's going to hurt me so I avoid everything that brings memories . Sometimes blocking everything ie . Fb, phone , msn, helps you forget . Thanks so much for response. It's just hard because I don want her to think I hate her ya know? I guess it's better to look as if I've moved on and am doing good vs still missing her and appearing weak. Is this a good way to look at it? Thanks again
Ale khun Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Yes you don't want to give more power to her !! It's hard to let go , but it's a process and sometimes it's hard but we all have to go through it . Chin up and smile
aisuru Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Why do you care if she thinks she hates you? Be indifferent... Delete her and move on. You're not ready for this type of contact.
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