Leegh Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Has anyone ever been involved with a bi-polar person? Is there anything about bi-polar people that anyone considering dating one should know about? My intention is not to criticize a bi-polar person, but just to know if and how their personality is different? Thanks for any info.!
TaraMaiden Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Unless they're on medication, and have been accurately diagnosed, and are taking medicines prescribed precisely for their personal condition - you're in for a bumpy, eventful stressful life. Sorry, but you are. PBD means everything is magnified, extreme, huge highs, deep lows.... everything is +100 with them, and it's tough coping with that. They read everything into every little nuance, and take emotions to the edge of beyond.... They expect understanding and acceptance of 'who they are' but usually have a low threshold of how things might be affecting you.... They apologise, are contrite, loving and romantic when they hurt you, and might risk losing you - but this remorse will not, or may not last long. They have short-term memories in that department. Other peoples' mileages may vary. Wait for more input, this is just my experience. 2
Infnitysign Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Make sure they take their drugs, then everything is a-okay.
carhill Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 My best friend, having been married to a BP2 for nearly 30 years, has developed a sense of humor about it and is often known to quip 'life is like a box of chocolates', to plagiarize a line from 'Forest Gump', essentially relating that one never knows what one is going to get from one day to the next. I learned most of my skills and understanding while caring for a psychotic person. BP2, or bi-polar in general, doesn't approach psychosis even remotely, but many of the same coping skillsets apply. The most common question asked between us is 'Is she on her meds?' The main thing I've noted between the genders (the lady's brother is also a medicated BP2) is that the women can be emotionally unstable but generally harmless but the males, whoa, watch out; they can become spontaneously violent without provocation. I've been around enough such males, both BP1/2's and various forms of schizoid disorders, to know. OP, if a man you're considering for dating or a serious relationship is a dx'ed BP'er, I'd think long and hard about the realities. People can put on some pretty convincing behaviors when they want to impress someone; it's when things get 'comfortable' that their natural self comes out. Good luck. 1
startinganew777 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I just posted earlier about seeing someone now for 4 months and how things are going great! BUT he is bipolar. We dated 14 years ago and he wasn't so good about taking his meds. All we did was party so his emotions were all over the place. He ended up in the hospital twice because he was afraid I would leave him, threatened suicide, was very jealous and possessive and very high highs and very low lows. It was horrible and I broke it off with him. Fast forward to just 4 months ago, we reconnect and he is a completely different person. It is like day and night. He is very adamant about taking his meds, he has a 6 year old daughter now to worry about, and he is very, very stable. I am amazed at how mature, caring and stable he has become. His emotions are in check, even more than mine. As long as they are medicated, on the right meds and are faithful about taking them, I think they are fine. When they get off, watch out. I hope I never have to deal with that person he was 14 years ago. It was bad. My friend is also bipolar but she is not on the right combination of meds and can go into manic stages and it is scary. 1
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