Women and texting. Why never text first?

[tuesday1988]

Hey,

 

So there's this girl I'm exchanging texts with.We both like each other. The messages she sends are always encouraging - reasonably long, containing questions, smileys etc. The problem is that she'll NEVER initiate a conversation and most often than not will ignore my last message to leave me hanging.

 

I understand that some women like the 'the chase' but it gets REALLY annoying and VERY confusing. Of course the problem is self-fulfilling - I'll last a few days in silence before cracking and sending her another message, to which she'll reply before ignoring the text I send after that.

 

The obvious way to break the cycle is to just not message her. But it's so hard to do! Any advice (aside from just deleting her number, which I can't do) ??

[Col1]

Call her instead of texting.

[Treasa]

call her instead of texting.

 

thank you.

[tuesday1988]

Actually these texts are just 'rapport building' messages that we send during the day so calling her wouldn't be appropriate!

[Col1]

Rapport building messages, but she's ignoring some of them. Maybe you're smothering her.

[Col1]

I'll last a few days in silence before cracking and sending her another message

It sounds like both of you have different communication needs.

 

How often do you two talk on the phone or in-person?

[Imajerk17]

Maybe she's just not that into you and sees you as a friend?

 

Occam's Razor...

[crude]

The best way as always is the direct approach. Tell her you won't look at her as a desperate, scarlet woman if she texts you first sometimes, and if she's following some advice from a dating book, it's not working. If that's not it, ask what the problem is, because it's bothering you.

[Keenly]

I don't know but I have a girl that's behaving in a similar manner and its getting really irritating. She says she loves talking to me (texting) and that I always make her day, but she never initiates , and her responses are pathetically short and non thought out.

 

 

I'll text her with a joke, which I know for a fact she will laugh at, and then I'll tell her how m y day is going and ask how she's doing.

 

 

I get responses like "that's cool I'm good" its ridiculous. I know she's interested because over the weekend I didn't text her because I just wanted her to show me she was even o retested by making contact. Show me you are interested and I'll handle the rest. Monday morning I get a text that says "where have you been" conversation still goes at the same terrible one to three word answers. Shes beautiful, and we already have a date set up for next weekend, but she still wants me to text her even though its like talking to a brick wall.

 

 

I will.never understand woman "logic".

[USMCHokie]

If they never text first, they're not interested enough in you.

[hppr]

Figure out a date idea and then call her up, it's really the only way to be sure. Texting stuff is okay for a day or two but after that women will start to wonder what you are thinking and why you haven't asked them out yet.

[aussietigerwolf]

i will text first if i like you and want to talk to you.

[phineas]

OP if you are wigging out about a woman never texting first or just leaving you hanging, you don't have enough going on in your life.

 

This is why you should be talking to multiple women. So you don't end up obsessing about one.

 

If she is playing these text games, she knows what she is doing & she knows that a quality man who is in demand will have other women he's talking to & she knows if she leaves you hanging too long you'll get snatched up so when she stops responding, wait for her to get to you & wait before you respond.

 

Or, she just isn't into you.

Edited May 16, 2013 by phineas