gerwyn07 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 entered no contact for a week after being dumped by my girlfriend, i've not said a thing all week to her, and today she messaged me regarding some tickets we had bought as a couple, the shows not for a month, but she wants to know whats happening with it. i just wanted to get an opinion on whys she asking now when she has almost 4 weeks to ask me. Is she using this as an excuse to talk, and find out what i'm up too (she doesn't know a thing about me since we broke up) is this her looking for me to jump to shun and message right back away? i'm just curious. meanwhile i continue with my life
GI_Joy Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 If I were you I wouldn't read into it too much. She probably either a) wants to sell the tickets or b) offer them to someone else who wants the tickets. Either way, the reasoning behind it shouldn't matter to you. Consider it a business transaction. What do you want her to do with it? Did you still want to go with her? Or do you want to continue NC and have her give it away?
Author gerwyn07 Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Ideally i love to go with her, but i don't feel its appropriate to make that move back into her life right now. i totally see what you mean about it being a business transaction, and perhaps i should just keep it as that rather than running to conclusions, i just find it strange that she hadn't mentioned it earlier.
GI_Joy Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Ideally i love to go with her, but i don't feel its appropriate to make that move back into her life right now. i totally see what you mean about it being a business transaction, and perhaps i should just keep it as that rather than running to conclusions, i just find it strange that she hadn't mentioned it earlier. And so the familiar saying goes..."When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me." Keep the communication short and transactional. She may or may not try to start small talk with you but if you're adamant about NC and want to heal from it, I wouldn't engage in her breadcrumbs. Unless of course, she actually wants to have a productive conversation with you about it. Otherwise, it sounds like you've been moving on quite well without talking to her anyway. Good luck, my friend!
Author gerwyn07 Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Good advice, i'd love to get her back if i could, but my primary focus regardless is of making myself the better person in the end. I'm gonna follow those guide lines and just keep it brief, it keeps her thinking. thanks i will, its not been easy but i keep myself motivated.
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 simple. do you have the tickets or does she, and who paid for them? the person paying for the tickets should likely keep them, or the person currently in possession of them...in that order. and no, absolutely do not go to this event with her. id venture her asking is so she can invite the new guy she is seei g, and you dont want to be witness to that.
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