itto ogami Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 if you want to check out my tale of heartache woe, you can. Suffice to say that I have been STEADFAST with NC as I feel it was the only shield and sword I had available, thin as it may feel when the tears are flowing like a broken hose. A month ago I was on the floor (literally) crying in loss. Today I am smiling, laughing, feeling the pull of the future. And after two months, I feel like the chapter has ended. So much so that today I came back to the bar where I met the ex -- and yes, she still works here. Which is why I kept NC with even my favorite local watering hole and meeting place. But I certainly will not come here when she is here, I just wanted to reclaim a place that's important to me. Otherwise, avoiding it feels like I'm still giving energy to her. And honestly, I wanted to see how far i've come, how i'd really feel being back in the place where we first met and had many moments. I feel great. My pals were so happy to see me, I didn't mention anything of the ex tho I knew probly everybody there knows the story. And so just to give some of you suffering a little solace, now that YOU WILL GET OVER IT. And you have to stick to NO CONTACT for as long as you feel you need it. I did the standard "60 days" and i have no intent on seeing or contacting her (I proved that by not breaking NC once). I don't even feel the anger or bitterness over her total disrespect. She's young, I was too old and made my own mistakes. I wish her well and down the road, our paths may cross again. Life goes on. As YOU WILL. Today is the first time I feel GLORIOUSLY FREE in two months. Onward! 7
understanding4you Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 This is great! You are an inspiration to many! I'm happy you are feeling much much BETTER : ) 1
GB25 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Its amazing how the young girls these days have just a complete and total lack of respect and awareness on other's feelings, but when you get involved with a much younger girl I have realized this type of behavior is almost expected. Anyways, congrats on feeling better I went thru something similar to you buddy..
Author itto ogami Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 It certainly was an eye-opener to Generation Why. And I've learned my lesson...and i expect her to use me as an example of how actions have consequences.
Author itto ogami Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 And like clockwork, she just sent a message hoping my gig went well (the one she previously threatened to attend but thankfully didn't)... Onward.
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