MrHX Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 My ex and I broke up close to six months ago. After the break up, we continued to talk and meet up. I understand, it was probably the worst thing I could have done in regards to my personal healing, but I cannot take anything of that back now. During the time we continued to speak with each other, she insisted we keep it a secret, because she did not want her older sister and cousins finding out. Blindly, I accepted this because of my horrible relationship with her some of her female family members. I was okay with this, until it started to affect me emotionally. This arrangement bothered me to the point I expressed how I felt to my ex. Once I did, she asked if we could meet up. The following day, we met up for dinner. After dinner, she asked if we could get ice cream and sit in the park close to her house. Once we were seated in our car, she asked whether we would talk about it or drop it for another day. At this point, I made up my mind I was going to push through the topic regardless of outcome. I told her I wanted a friend or nothing at all. I told her I still had feelings for her and that I couldn't take all this secrecy. At this point, she told me that perhaps we should talk for a couple of weeks or more. She stated, it had to happen at some point. She told she she still cared and that she did not want me out of her life. I did not answer or affirm that I still cared. Instead, I told her I needed to go and everything had already been said. Before I dropped her off, she said she still cared once more, waiting for me to say it in return. I just let her get out of the car and I was on my way. This was last week and we had not spoken to each other. We bumped into each other at church, but no words were exchanged. Recently, I posted a link my company had posted up on their facebook page. It contained a group photo from a conference I attended. Later that evening, she sends me a message. I'm not going to post the original, but it basically stated: You don't have to respond. I saw the picture you put up, and you were right. You do, stand out in the office. Congrats. This coming from the girl who said we shouldn't speak to each other for a while?!? I haven't responded, nor do I intend to. Can anyone translate this from womanese? I feel as if I had already done my part to ease my mind and begin to move on. It just seems like she does not want to let go despite everything she said. I do care for this woman, but I cannot go on further with the games. Do I keep on and keep NC despite this attempt?
california15 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 Yes. It's breadcrumbs. Stick to NC and don't fall for it. I posted this on another thread but I don't mind repeating it: if she doesn't come out and literally say "I want to be with you and am willing to do anything to work on that" then it doesn't matter why she's contacting you and it's all pointless talk that messes with your mind. Hold strong to NC my friend. She could be reaching out to alleviate the guilt she has over the breakup. Reaching out to see if you'll bite at her bait because you're still hung up on her and it'd be an ego boost if you replied. Who knows? Doesn't matter. Don't waste your time trying to figure her out. Instead, be more attentive to what she's NOT saying and leave it at that 1
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