Will we ever be more?

[startinganew777]

I have been "seeing" this guy for just over 4 months now. We dated about 14 years ago and I cut it off and we just reconnected 4 months ago. Both of us are divorced, he has a daughter, his divorce was supposedly horrible. The first night we met up, we both said no more relationships, just fun. Well he was pursuing me pretty hard that night and we hooked up. We have been seeing each other every since and the more I get to know him, the more caring and open he is. I have met his brother and all his friends and we get along great. He took me on a real date 3 months into it, opened the doors for me, acted like a complete gentleman. I then realized I had feelings for him. That this just wasn't about "fun". So of course I bring it up and he says he is not looking for a relationship but has feelings for me and doesn't know what the future holds for us. He says he is still dealing with the pain from his divorce and has trust issues. Said we are still "young" in this relationship and should just be getting to know each other right now.

 

Ok, cool, so I decide to hold on to see what happens. We get even closer, have talked everyday for 4 months, most of it initiated by him and get along great. We are def buddies and can talk for hours on end and we know everything about each other. So last week I go out with him and all his friends for his birthday. His friends call me his girlfriend and he at one point even said he was taken and made sure I heard it. His roommate joked around saying we should get married. We kinda laughed it off and his roommate pulled me aside and asked what was going on with us. I said I really like him but he doesn't want a relationship. His roommate told me that he talks about me all the time, all good things and to just hang in there.

 

He acts like we are in a relationship, talks about future plans, contacts me all the time, but a month ago said he wasn't ready for a relationship. He is such a sweet, caring guy and I am falling for him. I have never got along with a guy this well before. He is also the most affectionate guy I have ever been with. Always has to be touching me somehow and bear hugs me all night long! LOL For his birthday, he was actually affectionate with me in front of his friends which is unusual for him. He always said he was against PDA but was very touchy feely that night.

 

Oh, and neither of us are seeing anyone else. He has told me a couple times he isn't even talking to anyone else and isn't interested in it. I believe him. When he isn't with his daughter or at work, we are together or in constant contact.

 

Should I wait around and see what happens or is this a lost cause?

Edited May 15, 2013 by startinganew777

[MidwestUSA]

It sounds as if everything is going very well. If you are both enjoying yourselves, continue to do so and don't add any pressure by trying to put a label on things. Let nature take its course, it sounds very promising!