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Almost 25 years old, no car, still live at home. Will this make dating hard for me?

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I am 25 years old in August and I have no car or place of my own. I live with my parents and I'm working a sh** dead end job that I don't enjoy. I was considering going back to education to study something, but I have no idea what.

 

I cook for myself, wash up, iron my own clothes, clean up after myself etc, so I pretty much do everything for myself. The only thing I don't have, is a place of my own.

 

Sure, I would like a place of my own, but it's so expensive to rent in my area and I just don't have enough money for this. I don't know how costly it is in the USA for renting an apartment, but here in the UK it's expensive unless you share with people. The problem I have, is that I don't have much of a social circle, so I have few friends, let alone friends who would move out with me.

 

As for the driving/car, this is also very expensive. Lessons are about £22 (about $30-40) a lesson, plus theory test cost (£31), then practical test cost (£60), cost of insurance (around £1500-£2000 a year) and then cost of a car (for a cheap car, £600-£800).

 

As you can see, it's expensive for driving also. Obviously, I cannot explain this all to a girl when I meet her, but does any of this reduce my chances of dating?

 

Also, would any of you girls care if someone my age went back to education? I would probably meet girls if I go back anyway, but I'm just curious in case I wanted to try dating outside of education/University.

 

Thoughts?

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A lot of university students aren't exactly rich. You may fit in there just fine and not be judged for still living at home.

 

Plus you'll gain knowledge so that you won't stay stuck in a dead end job forever.

 

It sounds like a plan to me. :)

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You pretty much describe my life at the moment (except I'm self-employed and probably making less money than you :laugh:). Social circle not too much of a problem for me, but that will change for you once you get to Uni I feel.

 

Honestly, don't worry about dating too much - lots of girls in the same situation. But still, I would do what I'm doing - which is to focus on yourself and your plan. Don't completely rule out dating, but your progression comes first :).

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If I were younger I'd be fine with your situation. It's interesting how many Brits I know who don't have their licenses, whereas here it's generally done sometime during high school. At least, that's how it was for me.

 

I also understand that it costs considerably more to live on your own over there.

 

I wouldn't be turned off if you went back and got more education, as long as you were planning on doing something that paid well with it. Otherwise you're just pissing more money away.

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Where would you take a girl if you wanted to have sex?

 

The only option would be a hotel or her place. I live in the middle of nowhere, so it's a terrible place to get to. The thing is, I know a couple of guys living in my village/town who live with their parents and don't drive. One of them has a long term girlfriend and he's about 28 years old!

 

I think the lack of social life is my main problem right now. If I had a livelier social life, I am sure I would have a girl by now. I don't have too much of a problem with chatting to girls and getting their numbers, but I just feel insecure about my situation I guess and am worried about them knowing about my situation. I guess it kind of affects my confidence somewhat too, especially when you feel you're going nowhere and have little direction in life.

 

It probably sounds stupid and menial, but that's how my mind works :o

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If you can pickup girls despite your situation then your only problem is you are holding yourself back from anything progressing. Only therapy can help with that blockage.

 

This is true. I can get a girl's number and we text back n forth, but then I avoid asking her on a date because I don't want the girl to know about my situation.

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If you're tall and hot, that's all that matters.

 

That's all we women really care about anyway. Oh, even better if you treat us like dirt.

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If you're tall and hot, that's all that matters.

 

That's all we women really care about anyway. Oh, even better if you treat us like dirt.

 

I'd say to just become a male stripper. You'll get paid to have women lick whipped cream off of your nipples! :cool:

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ive seen guys walk to night clubs, money to get in and no drinks then do sex with women ever week.

 

Has nothing to do with cars, money, more to do with "are you the type to get sex" if your not, then your out of luck no matter what you drive.

PogoStick Established Member

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Why the hell is insurance so much? In the US you can get liability only for about $400 USD/year.

 

Anyways here, living with your parents wouldn't matter so much but not having a car is a pain in the ass in most US cities. No girl wants to be your taxi.

 

What about going to a Uni and living on campus?

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StanMusial Established Member

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Why the hell is insurance so much? In the US you can get liability only for about $400 USD/year.

 

Anyways here, living with your parents wouldn't matter so much but not having a car is a pain in the ass in most US cities. No girl wants to be your taxi.

 

What about going to a Uni and living on campus?

 

No kidding. According to OP, automobile insurance for the year is almost twice the cost of a car. How can that be? The UK sounds like a bigger scam than the US.

musemaj11 Established Member

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Yes.

 

A man with low status is like a woman with an ugly face.

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I understand that there are cultural differences here, but there are also those who live in some big cities in the US (New York and LA) who may never learn to drive because they don't have their own cars. However, I think you should do it despite the cost because it will help your self esteem. When you accomplish getting the license, it is a good step towards something positive.

 

Still living at home? Decide if you'd rather struggle financially to pay the bills or be comfortable. No one can make that choice for you, you have to make it yourself.

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Leigh 87 Established Member

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Professional, attractive women with options will not consider you.

 

UNLESS;

 

- you dress well enough and know how to look good even in clothes that are inexpensive. I present myself well with cheap clothes.

 

- You are at University.

 

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Women with degrees and professional careers and are average or better looking and are remotely interesting, will have too many options to consider you, if you come off as " some average guy who does not stand out and lives with his mum with no car and with no career aspirations"

 

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Women with established careers without having a degree will often not consider you either, unless you have a great personality and you have goals to move out of home.

 

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You can not just act like an average guy who lives at home with no car - you have to sort of compensate for your predicament, by presenting yourself better.

 

A guy with a degree or an established and respected career who lives alone and has his shyte together, can still be average looking or less even, and have a fairly average and non remarkable personality.

 

Guys who have their flat/rent with others and have a car and job that allows them freedoms you lack, can get away with being average joes who do not stand out whatsoever. They would get girls, albeit not as many girls as a guy with a great personality who was also attractive.

 

Because of your situation: the only hope you have of finding decent women, is if you have a great personality; nice, caring, genuine, has hobbies and interests, positive, and can find things to laugh about with people.

 

If your average looking, you will seriously need to know what to wear to come across as.. wel, a guy who has his sh8te together and does not live at home with his mum and no car and with a dead end job.

 

You need to PRESENT yourself to the world like " I like myself, I love wearing clothes that look good, and I have goals for the future"

 

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In short: you won't get many women as you are, unless you have a great personality, are above average looking, and present yourself like your a guy who has goals to get out of your situation.

 

A great personality with goals would be enough for me to be interested, if you GENUINELY had goals.

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Veronica2025 Established Member

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Yes.

 

 

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the study idea is a good one. there are people in my class much older then you 50 plus.

You will get a qualification which can boost your life out of the rut you are stuck in.

I recommend studying something you are passionate about and enjoy, even if you wont earn big bucks at he end of the course you will have met new people and achieved something to help you move on from your slump.

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Here's the bad news: women today are on average more successful than men in America. You can debate the reasons why that is, but it's a fact. That's why less women live at home compared with men, more women enrolled in college, women earning higher salaries than men, etc.

 

That's why its so shameful for you that women your age are out on their own with successful careers while you can barely afford to get by each day. To add insult to injury, women STILL will not pursue you as if the gender roles were reversed. Economically, they have, but not romantically.

 

Modern women don't need men anymore. They may want one, but that obviously isn't the same.

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Living with your parents isn't a bad thing and it shouldn't affect your dating with you do it for the right reason.

 

Consider this:

(1) At your age group, people can barely afford luxury. Would you rather be spending all your hard earned money on rent (let alone you need to save up for downpayment for your house)? Or would you feel better saving hell alot more while you can still live with your parents, and have enough money to spend on whatever things you like?

 

(2) Car: Well if you live in the UK you will probably need a car. For where i live, I don't need one. Not like I cannot afford one, I just don't need to, i could have travel every day by Taxi and still spend much less than owning a car. But if you really need a car, then get one.

 

The two questions above, really come down to what you need for yourself. You don't spend everything just to make someone happy. If you do, you will forget what makes you happy at the first place. And even if you have a house and a car, a women can still leave you! At the end, you are the one left with no money, yet she still has because she consumed all of yours. Do what is best for you, not what is best for her. And find the right women!

 

I have been there done that. I live with my parents and don't need a car, but i have CASH and making even more! On the other hand, my friends spent every penny paying off someone's house (rent). I have a bigger plan thats why i make this choice.

 

Women wise, don't worry about that. I don't have a house and a car *well i choose not to have both* but I still have a handful of very quality women who would be very interested if I take them on dates. Guess what, these women have money, have house, successful and absolutely beautiful. So... it doesn't all come down to a house and a damn broken ass car.

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