Liquinn Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Well, I'll be honest here... I'm still a virgin and it's my 21st birthday soon, in a few weeks. Is this a good or a bad thing? I sometimes feel bad about it; what are others opinions? And I've never dated a girl too. Opinions please.
Toddbt12y1 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 No. This isn't a bad thing. Do not let social pressures deem what is good and or bad. You are fine. It isn't a race. 1
TheGuard13 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 It's only a bad thing if you're completely socially inept at 21. Keep making friends, interacting with people, and learning to be a decent human being. I was a virgin until I was 21, and I hadn't ever dated anyone. Now I'm 30 and there's a model interested in me. Everyone matures and learns and grows at their own pace. 2
ThaWholigan Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Don't worry too much. I lost the V last year at 23. Keep it on an even keel, keep progressing.
normal person Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Whether it's good or bad is subjective. Do you feel good or bad about it? There's your answer. If you're religious or have high standards, values, things like that then it might be an accomplishment that you held out. However, I get the impression that you think it might be cause for concern.
hppr Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 As long as you are going out and making friends with people I don't think it's a problem. If you have trouble associating or identifying with women then you ought to work on that. No matter what you aren't abnormal though there are tons of guys out there in their 20s who aren't that experienced.
SimonSerenade Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 Personally i don't think it's a bad thing, my girlfriend was 19, almost 20 when she lost her virginity to me, I think it's a very attractive quality, she said there was moments in her life where she had the opportunity to lose it but never felt comfortable with the guys she was with like she did with me, I wouldn't think about it as a good or bad thing, eventually someone will probably come along in your life and it will be all worth while, the sheer embarrassment or discomfort of being a virgin at 21 is a social thing I think, love yourself and be yourself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
crederer Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) It's not that bad. Get your parents to hire you a hooker for your Bday and then it'll be all good (that's a joke, don't do that). I imagine you're a bit shy. Lose it to someone who deserves it. Don't put out (like I did) to the first random flousy that offers it up. I was 14 and it was my brother's 17 year old girlfriend. That is probably the biggest, maybe even the only true regret I have in my life. Edited May 17, 2013 by crederer More info.
Eve Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 My Husbands youngest boy is nearly 21 and still a virgin. He is proud of it though. He is a fine looking young man and simply too kind and funny for words He has focused on work, holidays and stuff like that and basically wants to wait for someone he is crazy about. His dad was the same though, losing his virginity at a later stage even than 21 to his sons mother. I am the second woman he has been with, not that you could actually tell that. So I think our boy has a deep sense of security about his decision because he is very much like his dad and he does not see his dad as a loser. I know he is pining somewhat now for someone though. Like his dad he just wants to be a great dad and have someone special to share his life with. So sometimes it can just be how a person is wired - and I would say it is better to honour ones core self. Take care, Eve x
DannyMason Posted May 17, 2013 Posted May 17, 2013 I'm 25 and still a virgin. Don't let this happen to you. Seriously. Get on the ball.
Pompeii Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I'd personally think it's a bad thing. It's not necessarily a "bad" thing such as it being morally wrong, but in my opinion (this is MY opinion), I find that losing virginity earlier in life is much better to the development of a healthier human being. Having sex earlier in the teen years demystifies the whole concept of it and makes it not **** with your head as much. I'm a virgin at 19 and I can't stop thinking about how I'll be a virgin for the rest of my life or never find a girl who likes me. Why? Because I haven't had any type of validation for this. Having sex is validation that someone at least finds you attractive enough to do such with you. This is not always the case, but usually between two sober parties, it is. I'm pretty sure there's few feelings that beat having a girl find you attractive so much that she wants to rip your clothes off and do dirty things to you. Maybe it's not that much of a big deal to some but I suppose that this is all relative. All of my friends lost their virginities in high school during their teen years. Most of them said it sucked but it is *now* in college, that they are making up for the bad sex they had. It takes time to get a start and to actually get going. Getting a girlfriend that into you as much as you are into her is very, very hard. A relationship is the safest place to start having sex but not all of us can afford this. Sexual experience can be hard to come by for those who need it. It's sort of like money. The people who have it can never have enough and the people who need it can't seem to get any. So to end my post, no it's not bad. I suppose if you are attractive and just had a string of bad luck, then your time will come. Still, the longer it goes on, the more it just screws with you badly. I feel like a defect because I haven't had sex. I'm only 19 and I know I have a long road ahead of me.
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