OneForOne Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I've been hanging out with this girl for almost two months now and we have been very great time together. So one day I asked her if she wants to be with me together. Immediately she started to smile and was kinda speechless and she said that she needs time think. I waited around week and decided to contact her but she said again that she needs time and it took very long time for her to respond my messages. Now it has been around 1,5 weeks and I don't know what to do. Should I just wait for her to contact me or should I contact her if I don't get any answer for a week? This is really hard and stressful for me because I really like her but I don't know what she wants and I'm afraid that I already messed up everything because she felt like kinda angry when I couple of days ago contacted her like I told above.
Chief Wiggum Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 In those weeks where you've been waiting for an answer from her, have you stopped hanging out with her? Because I think that may have been a mistake. Asking her if she wanted to take it to the next level is fine, but you should have then carried on your relationship as normal while she took the time to decide. Disappearing and only contacting her to get an answer, kinda' makes it look like you're giving her an ultimatum. Maybe that's why she's annoyed. You failed to carry on that two months worth of momentum you built up - momentum which would have helped encourage her to say "yes". 1
Author OneForOne Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 In those weeks where you've been waiting for an answer from her, have you stopped hanging out with her? Because I think that may have been a mistake. Asking her if she wanted to take it to the next level is fine, but you should have then carried on your relationship as normal while she took the time to decide. Disappearing and only contacting her to get an answer, kinda' makes it look like you're giving her an ultimatum. Maybe that's why she's annoyed. You failed to carry on that two months worth of momentum you built up - momentum which would have helped encourage her to say "yes". Well actually I have been in touch her for these weeks and couple of times I've also asked her out. Not every day or every two days but few times a week.
Chief Wiggum Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Well actually I have been in touch her for these weeks and couple of times I've also asked her out. Not every day or every two days but few times a week. But have you actually been hanging out with her in person? I guess what I'm trying to figure out, is what's changed, if anything, from those intial 2 months with her (before you asked the question) to now. What's changed on your part, that is. Because her being angry with you has something to do with how you've behaved after you asked her the question. Because, from your opening post, you mentioned she smiled - which means she liked that you asked her. But what she doesn't like, appears to be what ensued. Maybe it was you constantly asking her again? The way you asked again? Or not doing enough to show you're worth committing to?
Treasa Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I'm going with she doesn't want to be with you and you should find someone who does. 2
candie13 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Give her space. If you pressure her, she won't decide any faster. I actually do think you should back out completely and let her be. Maybe even see other women - not necessarily romantically, but putting yourself out there will do you good, will boost your self esteem. After two months, a woman should know if she wants to be with you or not. She isn't fair on you.
sillyanswer Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 she said that she needs time think. It means no. 1
Author OneForOne Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 After two months, a woman should know if she wants to be with you or not. She isn't fair on you. You might be right but women just does sometimes weird things without any logic
2sunny Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 You might be right but women just does sometimes weird things without any logic There's always logic - when you know the whole story - but you may not yet know the whole story. A person who wants you and ONLY you never hesitates!
candie13 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 You might be right but women just does sometimes weird things without any logic spoken like a true man ! If I may complete your sentence "sometimes women do weird things without any logic.. to a man". if you feel like playing games, go on dates and make sure her friends see you. That usually sparks the interest of a woman ... of course, it's a risky maneuver... but you never know !
KraftDinner Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I'm going with she doesn't want to be with you and you should find someone who does. No question, this 100 per cent. If she had been even the tiniest bit interested, she would have jumped at the opportunity. She likes you a lot as a friend so she couldn't bring herself to say no outright. Not the best but it can feel bad letting a friend down. Are you interested in a friendship only? 1
Mrlonelyone Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Just leave her be and be open to other women. Meanwhile let her "think". If you're free and she comes out of her "thinking" wanting to be with you that way, then great. If not then life will go on.
Imajerk17 Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 One question not asked here but tres important: What happened between you two physically? In the two months you and she were hanging out: Did you even make a move on her OP?
Author OneForOne Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 (edited) One question not asked here but tres important: What happened between you two physically? In the two months you and she were hanging out: Did you even make a move on her OP? We have had sex many times and every time I see her we have been kissing each other and that's why this is very confusing ;o Edited May 15, 2013 by OneForOne
BoneyHadger Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 You might be right but women just does sometimes weird things without any logic If you change perspective and eg. consider their emotions, you might find that in most cases there is actually quite sound logic behind the actions.
Author OneForOne Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 Thanks for your replies, I think I'm going to call her tomorrow and ask her out. If she refuses I won't contact her for awhile - if never
SJC2008 Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 We have had sex many times and every time I see her we have been kissing each other and that's why this is very confusing ;o Sex means nothing unless she likes you and is emotionally available. A friend of mine just got used, the girl was all over him I seen it in person. It didn't matter though because she went back to her ex and it was like he never existed. How long has she been single? That could be a big clue!
Author OneForOne Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 How long has she been single? That could be a big clue! I don't know I haven't asked but I think she has been single 6 months at least
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