defs Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 So basically put my girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months and things have been great until a few days ago.. beforehand she would reply to my texts and silly jokes with 'happy' replies and question that i could easily respond to but now she just answers with stuff like 'haha', 'ok', 'yeah' Occasionally she will still say things like 'I miss you' and what not but does she really mean it? I don't understand what I am doing wrong! Should I back off a bit and ease up on the texting/calling? Help!
BeholdtheMan Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I don't understand what I am doing wrong! Should I back off a bit and ease up on the texting/calling?Ease up on the texts, perhaps even contact her less than she contacts you. See how she responds I hate to break it down to you in such cold terms, but I think it might do you some good: If you're texting all these heartfelt messages to her throughout the day and she responds with a few terse replies every now and then, she's in the driver's seat of the relationship. She's in the position of power. Your non-stop texts tell her that you're a lot more into her than she is into you. You're the one who constantly craves her validation. If you'd prefer to be in the driver's seat or just in a more equal position, ease up on the constant texting. Maybe she'll even start initiating contact more than you. You have to develop a stronger sense of self-respect. No self-respecting man will send 50 texts if he's only getting 5 replies. It makes him look desperate. 6
Treasa Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Ease up on the texts, perhaps even contact her less than she contacts you. See how she responds I hate to break it down to you in such cold terms, but I think it might do you some good: If you're texting all these heartfelt messages to her throughout the day and she responds with a few terse replies every now and then, she's in the driver's seat of the relationship. She's in the position of power. Your non-stop texts tell her that you're a lot more into her than she is into you. You're the one who constantly craves her validation. If you'd prefer to be in the driver's seat or just in a more equal position, ease up on the constant texting. Maybe she'll even start initiating contact more than you. You have to develop a stronger sense of self-respect. No self-respecting man will send 50 texts if he's only getting 5 replies. It makes him look desperate. This person is wise.
Author defs Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 Ease up on the texts, perhaps even contact her less than she contacts you. See how she responds I hate to break it down to you in such cold terms, but I think it might do you some good: If you're texting all these heartfelt messages to her throughout the day and she responds with a few terse replies every now and then, she's in the driver's seat of the relationship. She's in the position of power. Your non-stop texts tell her that you're a lot more into her than she is into you. You're the one who constantly craves her validation. If you'd prefer to be in the driver's seat or just in a more equal position, ease up on the constant texting. Maybe she'll even start initiating contact more than you. You have to develop a stronger sense of self-respect. No self-respecting man will send 50 texts if he's only getting 5 replies. It makes him look desperate. thanks for that! i found out that as i eased up on the texting we had more to talk about in real life as well. cheers!
BeholdtheMan Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 thanks for that! i found out that as i eased up on the texting we had more to talk about in real life as well. cheers!Good for you mate, my work here is done
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