dirtysweet Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 (edited) I find I mostly get hit on by white or latino men, but rarely black men. Does it have to do with signals I'm giving (or not giving) off? I'm generally a very shy person. Edited May 15, 2013 by dirtysweet
apple OR orange Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 are you black? black guys dont hit on black women much
Nyla Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 are you black? black guys dont hit on black women much That is not true at all. Where I live, black men hit on every and anybody. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 are you black? black guys dont hit on black women much Yikes, I don't believe this at all and certain see the opposite. OP, how do you carry yourself? Are you black? Light skinned? Tell us more about yourself. Too little to go on.
Author dirtysweet Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 I'm white. I have no idea what you mean by carry myself.
hppr Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I'm white. I have no idea what you mean by carry myself. If you have a fetish for black guys just go to the clubs wherever the brothers hang out.
hppr Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 That is not true at all. Where I live, black men hit on every and anybody. Same back where I lived in Cali the brothers hit on everything that had a pulse.
PutARingOnIt Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 are you black? black guys dont hit on black women much this is a lie. 2
PutARingOnIt Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I'm white. I have no idea what you mean by carry myself. maybe they don't think you would be into black guys. the next time you see a hot black guy, just smile and say hi.
soccerrprp Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 (edited) I'm white. I have no idea what you mean by carry myself. What kind of personality do you exhibit? Oh, okay, shy. How do you dress? Modest, sexy, business-like. Also, sometimes shy can be interpreted as uninterested. Also important, where are you? Cultural expectations may be different or is that not the issue? Edited May 15, 2013 by soccerrprp
Treasa Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Do you WANT to be with a black guy, or is it your ego that's wounded? Why does it bother you is what I'm getting at, or are you just curious? 2
Author dirtysweet Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Do you WANT to be with a black guy, or is it your ego that's wounded? Why does it bother you is what I'm getting at, or are you just curious? I date all races and yes I'd like to date more black men. I just found it weird. It's not an ego thing.
soccerrprp Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I date all races and yes I'd like to date more black men. I just found it weird. It's not an ego thing. I just have to say that I am SO grateful for the women in this world that see no barrier or obstacle to their dating good men of other ethnic groups. It's funny, but when I date, I don't look at my partners face and say to myself, she's black, or white or hispanic or asian. I simply see a beautiful (as I see it) person! This is wonderful, beautiful world of people of the same race, just different ethnicities, cultures....for all of us to explore, celebrate! Sorry, went on a tangent there.... Again, where are you? And maybe you should flirt a little more to show interest?
hppr Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I date all races and yes I'd like to date more black men. I just found it weird. It's not an ego thing. Do you want a black guy or do you have a thing for the big, black, ghetto bubblehead types? Because the former you can date the same way you date a white guy (or any other decent guy for that matter), the latter you have to figure out how to be kinda trashy whitegirl-wants-a-black-guy sort of thing. In which case all you really need to do is dress skanky and hit up the clubs where the brothers hang out like I said previously. I'm not trying to joke here or be a jerk, this is just how it is.
taiko Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Your location is relevant to the discussion and mayb provide insights for advice. My father grew up under Jim Crow and literally could have been killed for what you seek. I grew up in an era of white flight and aside from a few teachers the only white folk I saw before enlisting in the Army were most fire fighters and half of the cops. How much of the society still exist where you are?
Author dirtysweet Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Do you want a black guy or do you have a thing for the big, black, ghetto bubblehead types? Because the former you can date the same way you date a white guy (or any other decent guy for that matter), the latter you have to figure out how to be kinda trashy whitegirl-wants-a-black-guy sort of thing. In which case all you really need to do is dress skanky and hit up the clubs where the brothers hang out like I said previously. I'm not trying to joke here or be a jerk, this is just how it is. I made a decision while back to date men that have jobs and are in a good career, because for about 10 years I dated only jobless musicians. So I prefer to date career-types who have a degree. I've never noticed what you're talking about, and I presumed all men hated trashy type chicks. Also for everyone I live in Texas (which is not as overly conservative as people think), so there is no shortage of black men in the south. I have black men hit on me on the internet a lot, but if I see a guy in public and make eye contact, they don't do it.
soccerrprp Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 I live in Texas and know that depending on where, it does and could make a difference. I live in the DFW area. Where are you?
Author dirtysweet Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 I live in Texas and know that depending on where, it does and could make a difference. I live in the DFW area. Where are you? I live in houston
Biscous Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Maybe they don't think that you'd be into black men. Funny hearing this from a white woman because many races of men find them desirable. I do notice, as a black man, I get more overt signs of interest from black women more than any other race. White women, I sometimes cannot gauge if it is just flirting, or are they genuinely interested in me, and I'm strongly attracted to white women. My last ex, white, she didn't really give me signals she was really into me until an hour and a half into a discussion we were having. I just had a small window when I met her. I was about to leave a restaurant and I noticed a subtle look and acted on it. Not always will men be able to gauge these signs from women. I miss it, and when we are talking about people of different races we may not be able to pick these signs from each other. Wonder how many opportunities I missed from women I thought were not interested in me but were.
hppr Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I'm genuinely surprised that you're in Houston and can't find a black dude to date. Tons down there, lots of clubs, you should have no problem. Wonder how many opportunities I missed from women I thought were not interested in me but were. That's the story of every guy whether he's short, tall, black, white, brown, etc etc. 1
Author dirtysweet Posted May 16, 2013 Author Posted May 16, 2013 I'm genuinely surprised that you're in Houston and can't find a black dude to date. Tons down there, lots of clubs, you should have no problem. That's the story of every guy whether he's short, tall, black, white, brown, etc etc. I don't go clubbing like I used to but it's a good idea. The places I used to go clubbing were during college in Denton and in Milwaukee, so you saw less black guys around.
Biscous Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 (edited) I don't go clubbing like I used to but it's a good idea. The places I used to go clubbing were during college in Denton and in Milwaukee, so you saw less black guys around. What profession are you in? Also do you get what I mean about my previous post? Maybe you should go to Atlanta if you want black guys to hit on you. Edited May 16, 2013 by Biscous
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