pinkstar Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Well I think you shouldn't have made it a surprise, a kiss means a lot to a woman... I am a girl and I don't like surprises... Once I dated some one and I barely know him, on first date he kissed me good bye and it made me mad, so I told him I don't want to see him again... ( next time when he asked me ) I prefer a guy asks if I'm comfortable or not... My second experience with another guy on the second date, he asked if he could kiss me and I said no, I'm not ready and I didn't like him so I said no and I didn't go out with him... It might be chemistry or it might be because of surprise kiss... I'm not sure why she is not interested
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) But do you think it was the way I kissed her?, I just got close to her and kissed her in the lips for like two seconds and then she said: oh that is cute It had absolutely nothing to do with your technique. It was simply a lack of chemistry. You can't really explain that. As Lani said, it's either there or it isn't. Don't analyze it. Don't worry about it. It happens. It will happen again as you date. Just date someone else. Eventually you'll share chemistry with someone. Edited June 6, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
Author knopfler1 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Could it be the fact that I kissed her by surprise, maybe I shouldn't have kissed her that day
Lani Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Well this is frustrating.. No, Knop. It had nothing to do with the surprise kiss. Let it go.
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) Could it be the fact that I kissed her by surprise, maybe I shouldn't have kissed her that day It was not a "surprise" kiss from your description of events. There was some lead up with hand holding. She gave signs during the lead up of interest, even reciprocated. The next step is a kiss. It was a relatively brief kiss. All perfectly normal. I wouldn't change anything. Unfortunately, there was no chemistry. A kiss is often when you realize there is no chemistry with the other person. It happens. Stop worrying about it. Find someone else to date, and try again. Edited June 6, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
KatZee Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 you are very right, I did nothing wrong. She just didn't felt comfortable with me. I have nothing to blame to myself It has nothing to do with feeling comfortable or uncomfortable. The first kiss usually does cement things for a woman. I was talking to this one guy months ago, and we talked for a good month, and we finally met up, went on one date, it was cool. We met for a second date and he went to kiss me and UGH. It was bad. I pulled the fade out the second I got back into my car. That was pretty much it. If the kiss is awkward, and I feel nothing, then that's it, there's no going further with that person. She probably had a great two dates, and then realized there was no romantic spark there with you physically. It happens.
KatZee Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 What's a guy to do? Ninety percent of women get turned off if you ask if it's all right to kiss. It's real easy. Have a conversation with the girl. Turn towards her so you're looking into her eyes and engaging with her. Have your body facing her and lean into her personal space. If she's into you, she'll allow it. If she's not into you, she'll back up to put that buffer of her personal space between you two. So assuming she doesn't back up and she's smiling and leaning in, the guy can just do something super smooth by leaning in and stealing a quick, light kiss and then pull back. Gauge reaction.
Author knopfler1 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Maybe the fact that she broke 2 months ago with her boy friend whom she lasted 3 years affected on this. maybe she doesn't know what she wants
Lani Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Maybe the fact that she broke 2 months ago with her boy friend whom she lasted 3 years affected on this. maybe she doesn't know what she wants Or maybe she caught wind of the fact you seem to over analyse little things, and didn't want to deal with that. Let it go. Move on.
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