BustedUpInside Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I had to send my ex a message yesterday so that we could clear up the last remaining shared things from our relationship. I felt ok when I wrote the message. It was very neutral and businesslike. He didn't reply for almost the whole day and then his reply was also very formal and businesslike. I am not sure why, but it really hurt my feelings. I guess I was hoping that he would give some sort of acknowledgement that he realized that this was the last time we would need to be in communication and that it might make him sad to to never talk to me again. He has never been the emotive type, thus I wasn't expecting a lot, but the curt reply I received definitely did not meet any of my expectations. I am feeling a little down today. It helps to write here, because all of my friends are either happily married, or have never had a long term relationship and so can't really relate to how it feels like your ex has been taken over by a pod person and so if you can just wait it out they will snap back into the person they used to be. I know that we're over, but it is really hard to adjust to being just me from now on.
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I can relate to this. I had to string myself along for shared expenses, etc. also. It was a nightmare, but finally over, and now I can just focus on me. I will agree that yes there was some unexpected 'finality' to it that hurt for a moment. But now you can go NC, which will help 1
KPChick000 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Sorry It's natural to feel sad and even a little annoyed at his response. But try to look at it as the final push to help you move on. Don't read too much into his response (I know it's hard) and remember the big picture - the relationship is over and you have to look out for yourself now. Stay strong! 1
LoveB86 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Hang on girly. You had been doing so well the past few days, like KPChick said, don't read into. Infact, delete that darn text and soon those last words will make you feel indifferent (it will hurt less and less). Get back to your regular motions, you did this before and I know you will be back forward again. Maybe even 10 steps forward than last week. I don't even know you, but I am rooting for you and want you back to you like in your last thread. Just Hang on my friend! I say this because I know how you feel. You can't say your happy and it's just a mix of emotions.. that's why I tell people that. 1
Treasa Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 So he's never really been emotive and this was cold as well? Girl, you dodged a bullet!! Better this than dealing with this same behavior years from now. Someday you'll be glad he wasn't overly emotional at this point, because it would have made things a lot harder. This way you can just be annoyed at him, should you choose to be. 1
Treasa Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I mean, this sounds like a dude who, if he were to look at your first child together shortly after birth, would say, "Oh." What a dud. 1
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 I mean, this sounds like a dude who, if he were to look at your first child together shortly after birth, would say, "Oh." What a dud. Bwahahahaha! Well, that certainly is accurate and brightened my day 1
Treasa Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 You'll be fine, sweetie. We're all here to support you.
ConfusedT Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Breadcrumbs, they are horrible! But at least you recognize it for what it is! We always hope that the one we love will beg for our forgiveness or shower us with love, but reality is, we have to do that to ourselves and if we find someone that actually regrets losing us or even better someone that never does, then we are truly blessed. Being single only means being lonely in the beginning, once you get through the stages, you'll feel empowered and free.. time! 1
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