alanbean Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 hi there, my long distance gf of 3 years broke up with me around 10 days ago. During the 3 years of dating, she always wanted to marry and kept asking when ill ask her to marry. i guess i was too chicken to ask. I have visited her many times and she has visited me. the plan was for her to move here with me but she recently got a great job. (she had aready quit 2 jobs to visit me before) The break up came unexpected. She just said she wanted to take a break for a week or even a month. I asked her for an explanation but she said there wasn't any. Then she went out with her friends. Anyway i pleaded with her for some reason but she said dont make this hard. So the next day i didnt contact her and she messaged me saying she misses me and still loves me. I said i feel the same about her. Then the next day she was acting cold again and said we shouldnt have contact, Anyway we havent chatted a whole lot since except when we argued 4 days ago and deleted each other on social networks. She then re-added me on skype and even tried to call me. i asked her why she called and she just said "idk". Last night we chatted and i found out she was mad at me because i never stood by my word in asking her to marry me and also that it were selfish to make her quit another job. I apologised for that and said i really regret not asking her to marry and she said "dont have regrets, whats done is done." She doesn't seem to care anymore and i can't understand that. So that leaves us at now. Is there no hope here at all? Or can i somehow win her back. Thanks in advance for all the help.
Author alanbean Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 But over the internet or what? I should take a trip there? I did say to her, well I'll go there and ask you to marry me, she said its too late...
CelticGibson Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 You have to do the honourable thing and propose. She wants this. The question is do you? Are you asking to get her back into the current arrangement? She clearly wants to take it to the next level or it's over. Your choice now... What are you going to do?
Author alanbean Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 But the thing is, when she was acting cold a few days ago and i was upset, i told her i would move there and we could marry. it maybe came across too little too late because she said no, dont do that. (Not forgetting less than one month ago she and i were as in love as ever)
Author alanbean Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Also i found out this information lastnight from her sister. My ex has told her family that we have broken up and she said that she doesn't ever want to date again and that she will always love me.
Chief Wiggum Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Sounds like she's trying to kick your ass into gear. She's taking a no-nonsense approach because, in her eyes, she's wasted enough time already waiting for you. The very question you should ask yourself, is do you actually wanna' get married to her? If you're absolutely sure you do, then take the plunge and go and pop her the question in person. But again, only do this if that's what you want, too. Don't go proposing just as a way of winning her back.
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