MrDrama Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Hey guys hope everyone is doing well today, anyways I mutual friend of my EX and I is celebrating his birthday at a bar coming up this weekend. We have been split apart for about 4 Months now( we were together for 4 years), she left me for another guy at work that will also be as this party. I don't think im ready to go the party because I don't know if I can handle seeing them together in public. Im not sure how im going to react. I just don't want to look like a coward and look like a child because I can't handle seeing them. Just a crappy situation and she is a royal BITCH and is not the same person I was with for 4 years and it hurts. I have also been no contact for 2 Months and my life has done a complete 180 im working out, back in school and buying a new car. My life is good I just dont want this to set me back.
crederer Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Ya, go for sure man. Don't let her keep you from doing stuff. If you think it may be too much to handle then just say you had other plans but just wanted to say happy b day.
Treasa Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 If you think it might affect you negatively, don't go. Take your friend out for a birthday lunch some other time.
BC1980 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 This is a tough one. It is hard to see your ex even if he/she is not dating another person. I just randomly saw my ex this weekend, and it was kind awful. It just brings these memories that I'm trying to suppress. Then again, it's not fair that you have to stay home because of her. It all depends on how negatively it will affect you at this point. Out of sight is out of mind, and it can work wonders to heal a broken heart. With my college boyfriend, it took me a good 6 months to be able to see him without getting upset. It takes people different amounts of time. I would probably go if it were me just because it's not fair that you are supposed to avoid going places the rest of your life. It's up to you in the end.
fancy feast Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Just grab a drink, wish your friend a happy birthday, and say you have to duck out early.
tinker683 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 If you think it might affect you negatively, don't go. Take your friend out for a birthday lunch some other time. I agree with this. No you shouldn't let your ex rule your life but at the same time if its going to be extremely difficult for you then if your friend was really your friend they would understand. 4 months after a 4 year relationship is a still waaaaaay too sooner for anyone to reasonably expect you to be ok with seeing her.
Author MrDrama Posted May 15, 2013 Author Posted May 15, 2013 Thanks guys for your help you guys all have valid points. To be honest I don't think im going to go and just say something came up. It's not that im afraid of her I just don't want to put a step back no contact is the key to moving on. Seeing her with someone else in the public where they can hug/kiss is not going to sit well with me at all so I will pass.
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