Elias18 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Dear people, First of all, english is not my native language so I'm sorry for the bad english. I want to share a story and want to ask some advice. The story in a nutshell, I was dating a girl +/- 3/4 months. It was a nice girl but things didn't work out between us. There were too much differences between us. We loved each other but I knew in my heart this wasn't the right girl for me and things wouldn't work out. I broke up with her and it was very painful for us both, she went NC and we didn't talk for about 2 months. I was devasted, I dumped a girl that I loved very much. In the meantime she went on with her life, but I kept thinking about her, every day 24/7. She became an obsession. Last week I saw her with a new dude and I felt extremely painful, she is over me and is dating someone else. I am on NC know but I keep thinking of her and it doesn't stop. I want to move on, but I keep thinking of the good times and how it could work out after all. I am the dumper, but I think she did a far greater job than me to overcome the breakup. Can someone give me advice to move on and stop obsessing about this girl? It's 3 months ago since our breakup, I should be moving on now !!
headsashed Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 3 months isnt a long time to get over someone so dont beat yourself up over it, we all heal in our own time,some quicker than others. I suggest you occupy yourself to get your mind off your ex,join a sports team or start a new hobby, this will keep your mind busy and will also tire you out. Its good that you are NC, just stick to it, also dont look at her facebook or any social networks as this will halt your healing process.
Author Elias18 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Thank you! My problem is that when I see her that I want to act nice. Buy her a drink or something, but then she is not interested and I feel like a donkey afterwards. She sees I'm not over her and I'm just a joke to her now. That hurts very much, when I see her I f*ck up most of the time.
Author Elias18 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 But then again I obsess about these things, I think how I acted and how I SHOULD act. It's very painful to mess things up. The only thing is to get over her and not acting like a fool when she is around.
Author Elias18 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 *The only thing I want is to get over her
Chief Wiggum Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Easier said than done, but, meeting someone else will help speed up the recovery process. You just have to fill that void he left behind. Anything will work as long as it's positive: - new hobbies - excercise - socialising with friends/family - dating The above can help take your mind off her.
headsashed Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 My advice is to stay away from her, avoid her as much as you can until you feel as though you can be civil and not feel hurt.
Author Elias18 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 The problem is that I can't avoid, sometimes I run in to her. Then it's very difficult to deal with the situation without acting weak. But then again, why do I have so much heartache, she moved on, it's 3 months ago (relationship didn't last long). It's not good for my self-esteem, especially not when she is smiling with a selfullfilling smile when she was with that dude of hers.
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