LadyAnglerTx Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I broke up with my ex 3 years ago. Recently made contact earlier in the year and he asked me to dinner. Met him for dinner - he was cold and unfriendly. Not sure what that was about - I left mad saying I would never see him again. Easter Sunday - get a random text "Happy Easter" from him. Didn't know who it was at first because I deleted his cell phone number. Responded back all happy and excited to hear from him. (What planet was I on? Planet STUPID). Two weeks ago - random text on a Friday morning asking me to go to dinner that Saturday. Oh happy me "Sure! Where! Can't wait!". Still on Planet Stupid. Left Planet Stupid to meet him for dinner. Actually told him I missed him, still loved him, even gave him a card. He smiled, reached across the table and grabbed my hand and said thank you. Then invited me to his house after dinner. We sat on his patio and talked and of course he showed me his brand new Corvette (which I'm sorry - I thought was douchy as he's 55 and so not him - mid life thing). He's driven huge trucks his entire life. Ok so the Corvette didn't impress me - neither did the Red Mustang parked next to it. Yea, he bought a Mustang for his son. Soooo.... as I was leaving his house - he grabs me for the big kiss. As we were kissing he was getting all crazy and hands were flying. I stopped and said I had to leave - wasn't gonna do that right off the bat. (Sorry - I'm repeating this story to make my point). So after that night which I think we might have a shot at reconciling - I text him when I got home thanking him for dinner saying I had a good time. He texted back an abrubt "good nite". After all this I texted him inviting him out the following weekend. He said "Can't this weekend, let's get together soon". Found out thru a mutual source he was with someone all weekend and she was spending the night at his house tonight. Thank god for this spy or I would have continued thinking about him and wasting my time. It stings - we had a history and I know deep down the only intention he had of asking me out to dinner and doing all of that was to set me up to knock me down and get back at me for breaking up with him three years ago. I walked right into his trap. So the moral of the story is. When you break up and have no contact - keep it that way. Bury the dead and be done with it. Going back to an ex time and time again is such a waste of time. I'm the perfect example - I got used, set up and burned badly. It hurts but now I can move on. I know he is with someone else so there is no guessing game left to play. I blocked his cell number from my phone and deleted it, blocked his email in my spam filter. Burning his photos and performing an exorciscm on myself to get rid of him. Hurts like hell but I walked into this trap. Totally humiliated and rejected - he inflicted the pain and then poured acid over it. When you break up with someone - don't go back. It's not worth it.
OwlSoul Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Obviously the person you dated is a scum who cannot control his dick and feels ok about ****ing you up. Obviously, getting back with such a person is a bad idea and waste of the time. But. Not everyone is the same person. 1
Author LadyAnglerTx Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Thank you OwlSoul. I totally agree.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I am sorry you are in so much pain. I would honestly ignore him the next time he messages. He will message and you will have to be strong. You know in your heart you deserve better than this. He cant hurt you if you don't allow it. Thinking of you!!!
Infnitysign Posted May 15, 2013 Posted May 15, 2013 Wow you must have really broke his heart 3 years ago for him to go and plan all of this just to get back at you. What a MAM with a mission!
Author LadyAnglerTx Posted May 18, 2013 Author Posted May 18, 2013 Yep, my ex (after all these years) decided to go out and buy a Corvette AND a red Mustang, re-contact me, invite me to dinner then over to his house to show me those cars, have a drink at his house and reminisce about old times, let me get a little tipsy and tell him I still cared about him and missed the old times, kissed me......... led me on to think we could be friends and maybe start dating again....then.. WHAM! The minute I gave him any indication that I still cared he knew he won and it was time for him to slam me into the ground. Basically it was "A-ha, I'm doing well and see that you still care - nope, too much was said and done in the past". If that was the case why in the past 4 months did you ask me out to dinner twice? Well - he did it for the sole purpose to get me back for dumping him. Revenge.
lesson 1 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 I broke up with my ex 3 years ago. Recently made contact earlier in the year and he asked me to dinner. Met him for dinner - he was cold and unfriendly. Not sure what that was about - I left mad saying I would never see him again. Easter Sunday - get a random text "Happy Easter" from him. Didn't know who it was at first because I deleted his cell phone number. Responded back all happy and excited to hear from him. (What planet was I on? Planet STUPID). Two weeks ago - random text on a Friday morning asking me to go to dinner that Saturday. Oh happy me "Sure! Where! Can't wait!". Still on Planet Stupid. Left Planet Stupid to meet him for dinner. Actually told him I missed him, still loved him, even gave him a card. He smiled, reached across the table and grabbed my hand and said thank you. Then invited me to his house after dinner. We sat on his patio and talked and of course he showed me his brand new Corvette (which I'm sorry - I thought was douchy as he's 55 and so not him - mid life thing). He's driven huge trucks his entire life. Ok so the Corvette didn't impress me - neither did the Red Mustang parked next to it. Yea, he bought a Mustang for his son. Soooo.... as I was leaving his house - he grabs me for the big kiss. As we were kissing he was getting all crazy and hands were flying. I stopped and said I had to leave - wasn't gonna do that right off the bat. (Sorry - I'm repeating this story to make my point). So after that night which I think we might have a shot at reconciling - I text him when I got home thanking him for dinner saying I had a good time. He texted back an abrubt "good nite". After all this I texted him inviting him out the following weekend. He said "Can't this weekend, let's get together soon". Found out thru a mutual source he was with someone all weekend and she was spending the night at his house tonight. Thank god for this spy or I would have continued thinking about him and wasting my time. It stings - we had a history and I know deep down the only intention he had of asking me out to dinner and doing all of that was to set me up to knock me down and get back at me for breaking up with him three years ago. I walked right into his trap. So the moral of the story is. When you break up and have no contact - keep it that way. Bury the dead and be done with it. Going back to an ex time and time again is such a waste of time. I'm the perfect example - I got used, set up and burned badly. It hurts but now I can move on. I know he is with someone else so there is no guessing game left to play. I blocked his cell number from my phone and deleted it, blocked his email in my spam filter. Burning his photos and performing an exorciscm on myself to get rid of him. Hurts like hell but I walked into this trap. Totally humiliated and rejected - he inflicted the pain and then poured acid over it. When you break up with someone - don't go back. It's not worth it. you have to admit it's not the best feeling i am new here just been browsing for few month's getting the feel of the questions here the answers given to the next in line as a broken hearted man you come out of your territory as the established dumper and look for composition the dumpee ?.... none of us will say it or hint it but won't go but in us all here for the reason of been on a leash by our lovers is a side that wishes the same that has been done to you you got a gift of feeling the unconditional feeling of redemption
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