jeni45667 Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I can't stop thinking about a guy who I'm really into. There's really not much I can do except burying these feelings inside at the moment. What can I do to stop thinking about him? Confessing to him is a bad idea because we have a good friendship/mentorship thing going on. I know these feelings will go away with time, but what can I do today to reduce the longing?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Just pretending he's a broke, cheap, useless guy, that's what some women do on here. Girls like broke, cheap, and useless. OP, pretend he's short, ugly, and boring.
todreaminblue Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I can't stop thinking about a guy who I'm really into. There's really not much I can do except burying these feelings inside at the moment. What can I do to stop thinking about him? Confessing to him is a bad idea because we have a good friendship/mentorship thing going on. I know these feelings will go away with time, but what can I do today to reduce the longing? be passionate about something else throw your longing into a channel of something productive......for you, for your family....i can channel longing into dance and music....dance around my room like an idiot.....injure myself...lol...then i dont feel longing as much just sore......i also do gym that helps too releases feel good endorphins which helps me..boxing helps..channel...that s all you have to do ...music too ....i get lost in lyrics....beautiful ones...i also like hymns they are peace inducing....praying is a gift you give to yourself.....hope i helped..deb
Drseussgrrl Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Pretend he's broke, cheap, useless, short, fat, bald, unemployed, won't pay for dates, and hates dogs and children. Cocky and very unfunny. Done and done.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Pretend he's broke, cheap, useless, short, fat, bald, unemployed, won't pay for dates, and hates dogs and children. Cocky and very unfunny. Done and done. Stop confusing her. Girls like thugs so she will be turned on by the bolded. If you added "in jail," then she'd be right back at the start of her dilemma. 1
Capricieux Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Jeni45 - I know what you're going through... just be thankful you didn't make the mistake I made with a man in whom my affections are somewhat parallel to yours. Unfortunately, your thoughts are effortless and reside inside a brain (with a mind of its own). It's going to go where it wants to go because all those biochemicals associated with "love / infatuation:" dopamines, phenylethylamine, monoamines, norepinephrine, and serotonin. Just ONE of these is addicting enough on its own.... but altogether it's overwhelming, and unless you can find something or someone who can trigger similar amounts of the same thing (difficult as the mind still loves to linger with singular association) which is why we feel that THAT person is the one and NO ONE else.. because it tricks the person into thinking that the object of our desires is somehow responsible for inventing / "patenting" these emotions within us.... until we meet another desirable bloke who calls upon our harp strings, yet again and we hastily forget "what's-his-face" that we swore we had undying feelings for all over again. Yes, love is a pimp, drug dealer and prostitute and therapist all rolled into one. It's a humbling process because when it hurts we feel like idiots for selling our vulnerabilities to the "devil / that *******," but when it grows it somehow becomes worth the risk of all that unbearable pain again... which is why I am going to write to "what's-his-face," now... so thanks for making me re-live all this lol.
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