Zain Mastron Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I don't like b*tches, but suprisingly, one of my friends could easily be called one. The thing is, once you get to know her, she is one of the most caring beautiful person on earth. Hmmm... If a girl treated me or anyone else like a bitch, it would be a major turn off. I like caring sensitive girls. I don't want one that is going to push me around. That would suck
Maria46 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 I have had so many people think I was a b**tch. I am very quiet and stand offish until I get to know people. Opinions change as soon as they know me. But I can be a b**tch if I want to be!!
Jilly10340 Posted September 29, 2004 Posted September 29, 2004 Some people mistake quietness for snobbishness, that's why they think you're a b*tch. I'm the same way.
isO Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 It's a funny thing but many people I know (male or female) prefer me when I'm in bitch-goddess mode. Maybe it's because they're weak and they despise seeing their weakness mirrored in other people? It gets to where you're rewarded for wearing a mask, almost... I don't believe that it's exclusively a sexual thing, it's more of an archetypical image thing. Most "bitches" I've met have ended up to be sweet & caring people on the inside.
gersanos Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 As was mentioned earlier, it's about the challenge. When I have hooked up with a b$%^h in the past, it wasn't so much because I really wanted to date her or be with her, it was like a game to me. Thrill of the chase per say. If I got her great, if I didn't then game over. When I look for someone to date I stay away from b&^%hes. I look for someone that is caring, compassionate, etc. The things that many people look for. But, there are a few girls I have dated that were two-face. Seemed like a really great girl at first, then after a while her true colors were revealed. Totally selfish and looking out only for themselves and no one else.
Author snilljente Posted October 7, 2004 Author Posted October 7, 2004 Gersanos..just curious how long you stayed with the b$%ches? I mean if it is mainly about the chase, how long does this last for most guys....and as far as two-faced women, unfortunately that applies to people in general..it is really easy to be nice and sweet for a short period of time, but with time, they can't keep up the act...that's why we need to take things slow and REALLY get to know the person over time and see if their actions CONSISTENTLY back up their words!
gersanos Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 The time frame would be from 2 weeks to a little over a month. It was purely a lust thing. There was no substance there. Different lifestyles, interests, expectations, personalities, etc. There was no way that we were compatible. But feelings would not get involved, at least not on my part. I don't know if they (the b$%^hes) would develop feelings for me once we started hanging out a bit. But usually we both just drifted apart after a while. Just a little short term fling. You are right about the two-face topic that it applies to all people. Sorry that I made it come across wrong. I was just referring to some past experiences. It wasn't so much an act or a front that they were intentionally putting on for me per say. But I can't say for sure. Usually with these girls we did move things pretty fast compared to what the "norm" would be. But, is there a particular pace that a couple should move at? If both parties are mutual in their interest/feelings/desire and continue to move ahead, is that wrong? In my particular cases the feelings and desire to move ahead were mutual. It just felt right. But it may very well be that we took things too fast, and I thought I really knew the other person and was wrong (and who knows, she may have thought the same about me). Those are the experiences were I thought that we had a solid foundation built on our relationship, but it really wasn't the case. It's not like we just crumbled slowly or fell apart, but more like a 20,000 mega-ton nuclear warhead was dropped. Maybe I/her/us were just blinded by the honeymoon period, and once the butterflies settled down, kaboom!
gersanos Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Correction, just wanted to amend what I first wrote. The lust thing came about as a result of the chase. It was a game of challenge to get them. And if indeed I did hook up with them, then that was sort of like the prize for finishing the game of chase. Want what you can't have, but once you get it, it loses all of its shine and luster. There was no real interest there to be with the person. The driver was the challenge. I have heard though, that the men that go and stay with these types of women are the ones that have self-esteem issues and/or insecurities. The types that are doormats and put up with their crap. I'm not totally sure though. I don't understand how anyone can tolerate anybody that treats them with only a modicum of respect and expect them to succumb to their attitiude and expectations.
ScottBW Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I have often wondered the samething but switched around. Most of the girls around here where I live would rather date or marry total pricks, yet the nice guys like me are usually left empty handed. Case in point, I Have 3 Female co-workers right now that I work with on a daily basis, One is married, the other two have been with there boyfriends for 4+ years. The ladies husband is a total a** treats her like garbage etc.. THey ahve 4 kids together. Another one has a boyfriend that has spent more of his time in jail then anything, they have 3 kids. And the last one has cheated, treats her and there daughter horribly, and yet they are trying to another baby. I hear them come to work everyday and complain about it, yet they choose to stay where they are at. I just don't get it.
Author snilljente Posted October 15, 2004 Author Posted October 15, 2004 Scott, I think it's self esteem...people stay with people they feel they deserve...it they are with someone they feel better than, they usually end up breaking up and going for something better, BUT, if they are with someone who they feel may be "better" than them, this is intimidating and the pressure to live up to what they perceive as the other person's expectations can be too much, so it is easier for them to settle and be with a b$%ch or an a@#hole because they feel like that's what they deserve and that the other person isn't "better". If you feel that the other person is better, that breeds alot of fear of abandonment....you go around being afraid they will leave you for something better. Does anyone agree? Opinions?!
Grinning Maniac Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 No, I don't date bitches. Absolutely not. Waste of time. If I'm going to be spending my valuable time with a woman, she'd better act like a decent human being.
Kawalsky Posted October 17, 2004 Posted October 17, 2004 Bitches? No. That term, along with "high-maintenance", are big red warning signs to us guys. Most of us don't want to have anything to do with those kind of women. I know I personally have been in a relationship with a woman that suddenly became bitchy and high-maintenance about a month in, so I ended it. It's as simple as that. Most guys prefer girls that are, well.. Let me throw out some adjectives. Warm, caring, understanding, easy-going, etc. You can't beat that. Women, to us, should be everything daily-life isn't. They're our escape-hatch from the "grind", not an addition to it. Regards, - Kawalsky
Author snilljente Posted October 18, 2004 Author Posted October 18, 2004 Good to hear Kawalsky...so in your opinion, what kind of man WOULD date someone people have called, "ruthless, high maintenance and a bitch"?!!!
zacg Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 alot of the time they dont come on as a bitch, and surprise you to thinking you are special. after the initial shock they start to get bitchy and you stay with them because the sex is hot.
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