snilljente Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I am curious as to why some men prefer to date b$%ches? I have experienced several times in my life a guy that has either gone back to or hooked up with someone people have referred to as a b$%ch......I consider myself a nice person...but am hardly a push over...is there something about these less than sweet women that men prefer.....or it is just that the men have low self esteem and don't feel worthy of someone decent???
ps123 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I cant speak for those other guys, but for me, I could never date a bitchy woman. I prefer someone whos nice, caring, considerate and affectionate.
Jilly10340 Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I've also thought about this quite often. I think that men like B*tch's for the same reason women like "bad boys." They like the challenge or pursuing them and getting them. If you're nice and sweet and normal, there's no challenge there. You're easy to get. With bad boys or b*tch's, you have to work a little more. It's all about the chase....
Wellnowuknow Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Of course they love B*tches.. We treat them right and give it to'em good. real good. b*tch good. Your jealous!
Author snilljente Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 Hummm, interesting....my ex hooked up with someone (while he and I were still together!) who people have referred to as "ruthless and a high maintenance b%^&ch"...strong words in my opinion...I just don't get why he would want this as opposed to someone loyal and not b$%^chy? Maybe she is more exciting.......Other opinions???? Want to hear from the MEN!!!
Moose Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 You may perceive these girls to be bitches, but it doesn't mean that they are. Everyone thought my wife was a bitch when we first married, they know now that she isn't because she's got to know them. And they got to know her. I'm sure that there are some that are truly bitches.....and for those guys maybe it's a dominance thing. I know that if my wife turned out to be that way, I would fight the fire with a larger fire.
Author snilljente Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 Nope, not jealous, I've seen her and definitely not something to be jealous of there.....just curious......he was getting it good and often...just cause someone is nice doesn't mean they don't know how to please a man.....she is the kind of love and leave em is what I have been told......so, in that sense, they are perfect for each other...I don't think he wanted any ties since he is going to JAIL the end of October......
Naive Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I think most of the time when men prefer these other type of women it's because they are not ready to settle down.
Merin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Well, I'm not a male.... but my observations have been this.... Some people (regardless of gender) always go for what they "percieve" to be unattainable. I think B!tch means differnt things to different people..... I really don't believe anyone likes someone who treats them badly.... I think it becomes more a case (or lost cause however you want to look at it ha! ) of when someone gets involved with a B!tch or an A**hole... they want to be the one to change them... "I'm gonna make yo a** love me girl!" LOL sad, but true sometimes.
Author snilljente Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 I don't know her Moose, so they were not perceptions that I have made..they were words that people who know her have used....I think there is some truth about him not wanting to settle down...and her being more of that type....she is 10 years younger...and I am not going to be a bi$%ch just to keep some guy..I have to be myself....and if the guy doesn't want someone loyal, honest and nice...well, he's not who I want to stick around...looking for Mr. Right at this point in my life..the man who wants a family, etc....not a lying jailbird!
FolderWife Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Yes, men prefer women of the B!tchy variety. How do I know this you ask? Because when I were a dating woman, I would be hateful when the relationship first begen (don't know why) but as it progressed, and I fell in love, I would become of the nurturing sort, and get DUMPED! So I was a b!tch up until the day I got married, but as soon as I started being nice to my husband, he became an a**h***. So now, I remain B!tchy, and I have a very loving husband. go figure men.
Author snilljente Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 Monday...I've experienced the same...as soon as they know you really care..they get scared...like maybe they really can't pull this off and live up to the expectations of themselves that they have set up....and they run scared....I did learn from this last experience not to let the person know how much you care..........at least not for a long time....keep them guessing.....and chasing
bulldoggirl Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 I have wondered this same thing many times! One of my closest guy friends married a girl that, while I wouldn't consider her a b*tch, she's VERY demanding & is always on his a$$ about something. When I found out they were getting married, I was shocked! I didn't (and still don't) know how he can stand to spend the rest of his life with her! Since I've gotten to know her, I like her more than I did at the beginning of their relationship, but I can't stand spending long periods of time with her. I have other guy friends though, that say they just want a nice, down to earth girl...not one like that!
tiki Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 yeah, I think sometimes men do prefer bitches.
UCFKevin Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Dahhhhhhhh I don't like bitches. At all. I don't even like associating myself with them, let alone date them.
FolderWife Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 How old are you? How long have you been in your relationship? Have you ever been in a bad relationship? I have my days, where I get sick of some morons crying over the obvious, because some people are just clueless, and I feel like shaking them. But some people really have problems. No good can come from telling a woman who's husband cheated on her with a stripper about how hot strippers are. No good can come from telling a woman who's husband would rather look at porn than have sex with her that she's lousy in the sack. Have you never been cheated on? I already thought that there was something wrong with ME, and that's why my husband didn't want to make love to me. I came on here, and go support, and found ways to help US, and now my husband wants me so much, that I actually turn him down once in a while. I didn't need someone who doesn't know what it's like to be hurt to come on here and "tell me like it is." I was already hurting enough. I was already insecure enough. You just made it worse. It's like you want these people to go kill themselves. Sometimes a harsh word is what someone needs, but not always. I actually like your approach, when it's appropriate. Some people need a wake up call...but not all of them. we aren't stupid. If our husband cheats on us, the first thing we think is that something's wrong with us, so help us to not cry so hard, don't make it worse. P.S. I don't check your posts to see what you said because it's so interesting, I rush to see what you wrote, so I can sugarcoat something you said that would potentially make someone go insane. Telling a woman who's husband cheated on her with a stripper that the stripper is obviously hotter than she is might make her go burn down a strip club!
Author snilljente Posted September 28, 2004 Author Posted September 28, 2004 Monday...who are you responding to...your post seems so out of place for the thread.....
FolderWife Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I was responding to a deleted post....so now I look like an idiot
CurlyIam Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 God, Monday, I thought you were replying to Kevin there!!! I froze for a second ! My bf used to preffer going out with this type of women for they were good looking, were a challenge, the girls he used to date weren't exactly smart and they weren't willing to settle down. So he had variety as far as sex went, a bit of a challenge, no inferiority complexes and no emotional burden. What's a guy in his 20's to ask for more, after one relationship turn sour when he was younger? As for goodie goodie girls versus bad girls... I think each person have both of this aspects in them. the fact that they appear mostly good or mostly bad is, I think, a matter of circumstances. Then there's the way people are perceived, which is a whole other story. I'm a mostly goodie goodie girl, but I don't care anymore. I simply try to have fun and discover interesting people.
EC Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I can be a btch ( i know how to spell b*tch but I hate typing this thing*) lol ) at times but thats only when my bf and I are role playing in the bedroom..wait... jkjkjk lol I can be a b*tch at times and only when necessary because people mistake my friendliness for weakness and I am far from weak..but I never really gain anything out of being btch. I don't think guys like b*tches..probably conceited guys that like to conquer and like to be able to say yeah she's a Btch but I got her u know? And I agree with someone else who posted but I'm too lazy to scroll down and see who it was but they said that guys that are not looking for something serious are the ones with btches because they are not looking to settle down just looking for a good time...
Jilly10340 Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 I would say that i'm generally a nice, kind hearted person. Some people mistake this for weak and easily taken advantage of. It's only when they treat me like crap and I stick up for myself that they take me seriously. I do have a temper and a mean streak when i want it there, but I only let it out when completely necessary.
PR Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Originally posted by Merin2 Well, I'm not a male.... but my observations have been this.... Some people (regardless of gender) always go for what they "percieve" to be unattainable. I think B!tch means differnt things to different people..... I really don't believe anyone likes someone who treats them badly.... I think it becomes more a case (or lost cause however you want to look at it ha! ) of when someone gets involved with a B!tch or an A**hole... they want to be the one to change them... "I'm gonna make yo a** love me girl!" LOL sad, but true sometimes. You are exactly right, Merin2. That was me, and I look back and say, "What the hell was I thinking?" I wanted to be the one to make her change, to rescue her, but you know, it backfired. Never got sex out of it, either. There are some women who want to be rescued. If you like to play the knight in shining armor role (which is fine), seek out those women, and have fun with!
Fritz Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 Originally posted by Jilly10340 I've also thought about this quite often. I think that men like B*tch's for the same reason women like "bad boys." They like the challenge or pursuing them and getting them. If you're nice and sweet and normal, there's no challenge there. You're easy to get. With bad boys or b*tch's, you have to work a little more. It's all about the chase.... I agree. Some folks are just plain stupid when it comes to dating.
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