joystickd Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 This is a respect issue(I know, respect is dead these days). Respect the fact that she's taken. I work by plenty of fine girls, that I'd like. Most are taken, enough said. Would you like for someone to steal your girl from you? I'm not going to encourage you to be selfish, and do bad. No, I will encourage you not to do something bad: don't do it. It's just a boyfriend it would be different if they were married. I say don't do it unless 100% sure she is into you like she says it out of her own mouth. You have a girl out here every Tom, Dick, and Harry is not going to respect the fact that's your girlfriend so why would you when it comes to their girlfriend. It's not stealing if she chooses to have something with you.
Woggle Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 SMH at all the people encouraging him to go for it. You wouldn't like if you were her boyfriend. 2
nerd Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I think for any relationship there's a little equation in the back of our minds that compares the appeal of seeing a new person vs the value of the relationship. There are enough stories of people who are essentially in dead relationships waiting for someone to get them out of it, people who think they are happy in a relationship but realize that the new person is what they really want, etc. So on one level I think, "just go for it". On another level, I have no desire to break up a married couple, and little desire to be the other man in a relationship, so I'd rather the girl break it off with her b/f very early on. Or be in a real open relationship. One annoying thing is that a lot of girls will claim to have a boyfriend just to 'nicely' express a lack of interest. So I really have no idea if they really have one or if they're just saying it. And there are enough stories of girls who 'acquiesced' to a date after persistent requests and ended up happily with their new partner that it's frustrating in terms of knowing whether you're just annoying her or on the way to one of those stories.
NYWoman Posted May 16, 2013 Posted May 16, 2013 I will not deny that I was a looker. Begining at about age 14 I already had older guys hitting on me. I didn't begin dating until after I turned 16, and from that point on it seems I always had a boy friend or two, as if I stayed at home on a weekend night, it was by my choice. That being said, once a new guy came into my life, he had to have the balls to pursue me, even though I already had a boy friend. If he would have waited until I was without a male interest in my life, he would still be waiting Up and until a man puts a ring on the girls finger both she and he are both available to the public at large.
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