mysticalstar Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Hello Everyone! I need your advice! About a month ago I started dating a guy. It wasn't anything serious. He ended up going out on me once and i gave him a second chance. When he did it to me again, I broke things off. That lasted about a week and in that week he was seeing someone else and I also went out with a guy. Well we decided to get back together because we both still had strong feelings for one another. He promised me that he would never do it again because he wanted to be with just me. I really like this guy but there is one slight problem. One of his buddies told me the other day that he has strong feelings for me. I never thought his friend felt like that but when he told me I became interested right away because I have always been attracted to him. The only thing is they are friends and I think I would really hurt the one i'm with feelings because he really likes me. I dont want to ruin their friendship either. I'm very confused because the one i'm with right now I really like too but I have a hard time trusting him. I also like his friend a lot because we have a lot of attraction towards each other. What do you think I should do? I really want to hang out with my guys friend but I just don't know. Please reply and let me know what you think! thanks:)
bulldoggirl Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Oh wow, that's a tough one....since you said that you have a hard time trusting your current bf, I would break up with him, and try going out with the other guy and just see how it goes....but first I would talk to the other guy & see how he feels about the fact that the 2 of them are friends. I was in a similar situation shortly after I got married...I realized that I was attracted to one of my husbands friends, and I think is attracted to me as well, but we know that that's a line that CANNOT be crossed...the number 1 reason being that I'm married, but also because of their friendship. You are lucky enough to not be married, so just try to enjoy yourself (without hurting anyone of course!) and do what you think is best for YOU! And one more thing....without trust, there IS no relationship.
girlie123 Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 hey mysticalstar, i am in the EXACT same situation as you, except i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. we broke up once and got back together. his former roommate has liked me for 2 years and recently told me!!! i liked him before i started dating my boyfriend, and i would love to date him (we have been involved before). my current relationship is a little suffocating, and i think i might be too young to be so "hardcore" about someone. i wish there were a simple, painless way to date casually without hurting my boyfriend. you're lucky you've only been with your boyfriend for a month because it makes it so much easier to move on. it's a lot harder when 2 years with someone are at stake part of me (and probably most of me) says that you should try dating the other guy, especially if you don't trust your boyfriend. you will never be happy with someone you don't trust. if you are attracted to this other guy and he cares for you, try it out. i wish i could take my own advice!!! doing what's best for You is always the issue, but even if it's best for me, it's hurting the person i love. good luck!
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