El Brujo Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I still maintain my profile on a couple of OLDSs, even though I'm about going to 99% meetups and only about 1% still checking up on OLD, mostly to check my inboxes (which are usually full of invites to dull parties at local bars). Well, on OKC I learned that 1 woman who I think is pretty attractive and NOT shallow has viewed me, and even though I keep my heart on a VERY short leash, I've been feeling kind of interested in getting to know her. (Sorry, guys... no pump-&-dump with this one. Hit your BACK button.) OTOH I believe the chances are about 95% "she" is probably just another fake profile, because I've seen her on another OLDS, and I haven't yet compared "her" 2 profiles to see if they're slavishly exact copies, which would be a dead giveaway of a cut-and-paste job. So... I decided to compromise. I want to message her, but only to invite her to a meetup when I find one in my area. If she shows up, great. If not, my suspicions were confirmed, and I won't get my heart broken. Generally though, since I lurked on that OLDS webmasters' board, I've adopted an attitude of "fake until proven otherwise"...
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I think you should hold off on the marriage proposal until after she responds to your first message. 2
Author El Brujo Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 I didn't send her any message yet. She looked me up out of the blue. Talk about a cold approach!
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I didn't send her any message yet. She looked me up out of the blue. Talk about a cold approach! I meant to say stop getting so emotionally invested in a girl that you haven't even spoken to yet. 1
pyramid Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I didn't send her any message yet. She looked me up out of the blue. Talk about a cold approach! Just because someone views you doesn't mean they are interested. What am I missing? Also - I am active on several OLD sites and I copy and paste my profile text among them. I'm most definitely not fake! 2
FitChick Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 (edited) Just because someone views you doesn't mean they are interested. What am I missing? That's why I often do not login -- so I can view a man's profile anonymously. If I find him attractive, I login so he can see that I looked. If he's interested he will contact first. On some websites you have to create a fake profile so you can look at someone's anonymously. Make the fake one totally unattractive in every way and no photo so they won't be tempted. I often open a profile to get a closer look because the thumbnail isn't clear or it's a dark photo or it looks like someone I know. Doesn't always mean I am attracted. Edited May 14, 2013 by FitChick
Disillusioned Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 (edited) Either way, it shouldn't make much difference, my sorcerer friend. Because, if you are going to meetups, why are you wasting your time with online dating? Edited May 14, 2013 by Disillusioned
Estate Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I still maintain my profile on a couple of OLDSs, even though I'm about going to 99% meetups and only about 1% still checking up on OLD, mostly to check my inboxes (which are usually full of invites to dull parties at local bars). Well, on OKC I learned that 1 woman who I think is pretty attractive and NOT shallow has viewed me, and even though I keep my heart on a VERY short leash, I've been feeling kind of interested in getting to know her. (Sorry, guys... no pump-&-dump with this one. Hit your BACK button.) OTOH I believe the chances are about 95% "she" is probably just another fake profile, because I've seen her on another OLDS, and I haven't yet compared "her" 2 profiles to see if they're slavishly exact copies, which would be a dead giveaway of a cut-and-paste job. So... I decided to compromise. I want to message her, but only to invite her to a meetup when I find one in my area. If she shows up, great. If not, my suspicions were confirmed, and I won't get my heart broken. Generally though, since I lurked on that OLDS webmasters' board, I've adopted an attitude of "fake until proven otherwise"... So.... a girl randomly clicks on your profile out of boredom and now you've basically laid out the next 60 years of your life with her? No message, no contact, no number, no date... nothing. Insane in thy membrain. 1
Estate Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 I didn't send her any message yet. She looked me up out of the blue. Talk about a cold approach! this is just too hilarious to be real.
ChessPieceFace Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 this is just too hilarious to be real. So you're saying the OP's message was cut and pasted from another dating advice forum? I guess we have to assume that until proven otherwise. 1
sillyanswer Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 So... I decided to compromise. I want to message her, but only to invite her to a meetup when I find one in my area. If she shows up, great. If not, my suspicions were confirmed, and I won't get my heart broken. Not accepting an invite to a meetup means it's a fake profile? What if she wanted to go on a date?
Author El Brujo Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Man oh man... you folks really beieve I want to lay it on the line for "her"! Ha ha, you guys crack me up. For the umpteenth time: fakes don't go to meetups.
Estate Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 So you're saying the OP's message was cut and pasted from another dating advice forum? I guess we have to assume that until proven otherwise. What the **** are you on about? I'm saying this situation is too ridiculously stupid for this to actually be real. Otherwise the OP needs help.
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