1908 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Long story short: foolishly broke up with gf 3 months ago. Last couple of weeks started to really regret my decision. Got in contact with her and said I missed her last week. Today, we talked a bit more and I asked if I could phone her and talk for 5 minutes. Her reply "If it's about us, I don't think that's really necessary" Begged her to reconsider a few more times but she didn't budge. Maybe she's a user on this site? She practices the edicts handed out pretty good haha. Don't really know what to do know.... Just push on through the pain like she once did I guess. She says she's in a happy place with her life and forgives me for what I did. Never been in this situation but I assume I've lost her forever?
Author 1908 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Update: Yup, definitely over now. Had a civilized conversation through text. But in the end, she is moving on with her life and she advised me to do the same. So I told her to not contact me anymore regarding anything. Time to heal myself. Kinda hurts but not as much as I expected it too considering the time we put into the relationship (almost 4 years) Maybe it's a sign that we were never meant to be together?
thefooloftheyear Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Hey, I guess you had nothing to lose....she was already gone.. I actually give your ex a lot of credit. I know you dont want to hear this, but I bet it took a lot of strength on her part. Most of the dumpees you read about on here would drag their nuts across 100 yds of broken glass for another chance. You likely broke her heart and she protected it from further hurt. I suppose the lesson learned here is dont give up on someone unless you are prepared to never get them back. Best you can do now is leave her alone. TFY 6
Author 1908 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Yeah pretty much. I did break her heart unfortunately. I've been down that road myself so I know how it is. You don't suddenly forgive someone for that. Even if she says she did I have my doubts... But regardless, it's over. Time to go full NC and start living my life again. The next one is somewhere out there and I won't get her pining over an ex.
crederer Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Just curious, why did you end it? Want to hear from a dumpers perspective as they are rare on this site.
Author 1908 Posted May 14, 2013 Author Posted May 14, 2013 Just curious, why did you end it? Want to hear from a dumpers perspective as they are rare on this site. GIGS. Homesickness and a stressful night-shift job also played their part. We were a typical normal couple. Arguments here and there like every couple but nothing devastating. There was no cheating, substance abuse or physical and mental abuse on either of our parts. We were both very supportive of each other the entire time we were together. But one mistake is all it takes I've learned. Anyways, a slight update. She sent me a fairly long text this morning. More or less saying reconciliation is not going to happen amongst other things. Surprisingly, it doesn't hurt all that much nor am I bitter as I didn't have much hope of it going in. I didn't reply to the text as there's really no point in doing so.
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