fortyninethousand322 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I have a bit of an "issue" I guess. Involving a (female) friend I've known for many many years. To get it out early, yes, she is attractive and no I'm not attracted to her. I have never wanted to date her (though I think in high school she wanted to date me). Ever since we graduated high school, the two of us would get together for coffee and lunch, talk, catch up, encourage each other in our small business pursuits, etc. The scheduling was always tough because we had different schedules (and she does a lot of traveling). Recently however she's been avoiding me. At least that's what I think. I texted her back in November asking her how she was doing, etc. She texted back and said we should get together, etc. When I text back asking her if she's free on x day she never replies. Same thing happened a month later, and again in February and March. Now, I don't know. If she's busy, shouldn't she just say "hey I'm busy" or something like that? I also want to be crystal clear: I am only interested in her as a friend. I have never wanted anything more and I highly doubt that I ever will. She had a boyfriend last I checked and things were doing well for her in that department. So, what's the deal? This is how women usually act when they think I want to date them. But I don't think I've ever given her that impression. She's usually the one who invites me out or asks me to go hiking, running or mountain climbing whatever. So what gives?
tman666 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Maybe she has a new boyfriend/social network that is taking up more of her focus. Still not real cool of her to ignore you though. Maybe try again for a time or two and after that, forget about her until she contacts you. 3
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 Maybe she wants/wanted to date you? I think she did in high school, like 9 years ago. We've been cool since then though, so I don't know what the deal is.
cocorico Posted May 14, 2013 Posted May 14, 2013 Why not ask her? Tell her you've been trying to find a time you can both get together, unsuccessfully, and you're not clear if she's still up for it or if she has other priorities. Let her know that if she wants to get together, she's free to contact you with suggestions of when and where, but until then, you'll back off and leave her to get in touch. If you hear back from her, you'll have your answer. Likewise if you don't. 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 So I texted her the other day asking if she was free for lunch. No reply back. Should I just call her?
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