LilySun Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I've started reading this book. Alot of it makes sense, but its written by a woman and not a man. Anyway, it might help me because I tend to be too nice, or too passive, etc. I wondered about other opinions on this author's perspective. I also wonder if any men have read it...
BluEyeL Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 The author says she interviewed men to write this book. It's a funny book and it does make sense.
Author LilySun Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 I've read it. I agree with most of it. Not all. Which parts did you disagree with?
soccerrprp Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I've read it. I agree with most of it. Not all. Hmmm. Curious. What didn't you agree with? I don't think I've ever wanted a "b*tch." In fact, I never have had an attraction. What did you find hard to swallow? 1
Treasa Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 She uses the word "bitch" in a way other than what most people think. I disagree with the part about how to handle men's egos. I mean, I get that a lot of men have squishy little egos that need to be pampered, but I sure as **** am not going to avert my eyes and shudder if I see a spider. I pick them up and take them outside or to the basement. I also don't call my mom and act all impressed because he ****ing replaces a blown fuse or knows how to flip the switches on a circuit breaker. Do you know how much I'd be laughed at in my family?? My grandma is 80 and is remodeling her kitchen by herself. As in, with a power saw! I can do my own ****. The only thing I'd LIKE from a man is to reach things I can't reach because I'm only 5'2". I'd never be with someone who has that sensitive of an ego anyway. 3
StanMusial Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I've started reading this book. Alot of it makes sense, but its written by a woman and not a man. Anyway, it might help me because I tend to be too nice, or too passive, etc. I wondered about other opinions on this author's perspective. I also wonder if any men have read it... I would rather read the phone book front to back including the yellow pages and advertisements. 1
BluEyeL Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Yes, the book first tells you to have a spine when dating, then to go out of your way to protect the man's ego after you are in a relationship, make him think he's the smartest, the biggest, the most wonderful LOL . But it is written with humor and has a lot of truth in parts of it. The word "bitch" is not used like people understand it. 1
Treasa Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 What I really like about the book is that it doesn't tell you to PRETEND to have a life...it tells you to get a life. 3
Author LilySun Posted May 13, 2013 Author Posted May 13, 2013 My impression for the book's idea is how to find the good medium between being needy and being independant. Seems like I am too much of either of them sometimes. But it does make me ask, so one day I'm supposed to be a "b*tch" and the next I'm supposed to kiss his feet, in a sense? I guess the point is we just shouldn't be too much of either.
BluEyeL Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 B*tch is not a b*tch, just a nice girl that has boundaries.
Treasa Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Actually, the book does advise being independent. One of the main lessons is that you don't give...and give...and give. You don't give yourself away. I'm pretty sure it doesn't advise kissing anyone's feet EVER. If a man doesn't treat you like a prize, you don't give him a moment of your time. If a man treats you well, then you reciprocate. But you put yourself first. I treat everyone with civility and respect. But the true Traci lovin' is only for those who deserve it. 4
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