Broo Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Let's say you ask a woman out for a weekday date. She then gives you the "Call back to verify" or "Text me / Remind me", and you want to gauge her level of interest which is the "take away" Of course you don't want to go out with someone knowing they're just planning to go out, just for the sake of going out. These are some examples of "take aways" I've seen. 1) "When I make plans, I make them to be there. If you can’t make plans with me Tuesday, then let’s just make it another night." 2) "I want to take you out but I am only going to take you out if we can make definite plans. If you can’t, then let’s just do it some other time." Any other suggestions on how to say this, without sounding too cocky?
Infnitysign Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 It's not the amount of words you use, but the words you didn't use. Use body language or the tone of your voice and show interest and then don't show interest. Best mind *****ing your date will every have and then indulge that you have full control of your own timing and that they will accommodate to your plan.
Gottabestrong Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Huh? I am not sure I understand what the issue is. Are you upset she asked you to reconfirm your plans the day before? I do that, and it is not because I don't want to go out with a guy, or am likely to forget about plans, but I think it is polite to reconfirm plans a day before if you have made plans a few days in advance and not talked about them again since then. A simple 'I look forward to seeing you tomorrow' will do nicely. If it is early in the dating process (first few dates) I don't know the guy well enough yet to know if he is likely to forget about dates and I'd rather not be stood up. Also, a message the day before saying that he looks forward to meeting me makes me look forward to the date even more. 2
Forever Learning Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Huh? I am not sure I understand what the issue is. Are you upset she asked you to reconfirm your plans the day before? I do that, and it is not because I don't want to go out with a guy, or am likely to forget about plans, but I think it is polite to reconfirm plans a day before if you have made plans a few days in advance and not talked about them again since then. A simple 'I look forward to seeing you tomorrow' will do nicely. If it is early in the dating process (first few dates) I don't know the guy well enough yet to know if he is likely to forget about dates and I'd rather not be stood up. Also, a message the day before saying that he looks forward to meeting me makes me look forward to the date even more. This is solid advice. Don't play games. Just be polite and reconfirm. And then be punctual and have fun. Very easy stuff. Good luck! 1
todreaminblue Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 If i am serious about a guy i confirm........the night before...if i dont care, i dont confirm.......i confirm to make sure nothing has happened that might change the plans because life happens and i accept that situatiosn crop up that may make it impossible.........but i confirm because i get excited and i dont want to get disappointed the day of the date.......and wreck my day.......i avoid that by confirming.....i am a big kids when i am serious about someone and i reign it in the night before...if they confirm with me.....this sounds daggy.....lol....i allow myself to bounce around.....the last time ...i went out and it wasnt a date just spending time with soemone special who doesnt know how i feel......i didnt sleep.....shhhhhhhh..yep i am a dag..lol....smilin..btw i had the best day......it was perfect.......deb
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