Crux- Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Does anyone feel all screwed up inside? I feel so up and down since my relationship ended. One minute Great couldn't be better, so glade I found out about her.. The next extremely betrayed and used by her, then angry at myself for letting her get so close.. The next feeling sorry for her, then feeling extremely sad and missing her, missing dreams that were destroyed, feelings that you can never get back. Moments that you count yourself luckily to have. I wish this ride would stop so that I can get off and never go back again. Just shut down completely and have no feeling. All this up and down BS is really pissing me off, Here I go again Can someone tell the contender to stop!!!!
EC Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 lol Thats normal... I call it the roller coaster ride...it not only goes up and down but I go through loops and upside down..lol After my 1 yr relationship I was a mess. It was I hate him/I love him/i hate him hope he dies/I'm better than him he'll miss me eventually/I really f*cking hate him.... Lol it gets better though..but NC helps because your thoughts start getting clearer and you start learning what you want and getting your life back. Untill then you can't tell the contender or conductor or w/e you would call him to stop the ride. You need this ride. You learn from this rollercoaster ride actually and it makes your next relationship 10x better.
Author Crux- Posted September 27, 2004 Author Posted September 27, 2004 Right, now the next relationship is extemely far from my mind. The no-contact part is hard but in my case (girlfriend was sleeping with the neighbour). Not a real issue. I just hate the missing of her (someone I though I was sharing my life with) and to think that 7yrs (on and off) of my life was wasted with this troubled women. I had relationships before but never this painful, your best friends betrays you, lies to you, makes you feel guilty while their sleeping around and your away or waiting at home looking after her kids. It is sick... I'll stop whining.. Just how could someone do that and put their kids through that? How do you cope with the lose and not become Jaded? I couldn't even think of letting in some that close again, (except lifetime friends)*&*^* thats what I though she was.... What did you do to get over this? I am 29 feeling like I am 16 all over again..
Butchey Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 Crux, I've been there. 13 years was erased in one day. The anger will lessen after some time passes. It's different for everyone. The thing you need to work on is your own wellbeing and self-worth. Bad things do happen to good people so don't blame yourself. Hang in there, it get's better. Sometimes you just feel like chucking it all because nothing makes sense. But that is the time you need to look at it and learn from it.
backspn Posted September 27, 2004 Posted September 27, 2004 You do get jaded but you have to get through it. After we broke up I was a shell of a man...I had no confidence. You'll get it back but it will take a while. The longer you are with someone...the longer it takes.
Author Crux- Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 What should I do? It seems that I can not get over this girl..(troubled or not). I am an attractive guy and have never really had problems finding girls that were interested in me..This weekend a girl asked me out on a date, I have never met her before so she doesn't know about my ex-gf. The though of dating made me sick..I just cannot imagine being with someone else. What should I do? I changed my telephone # to keep my sanity. That way I am not expecting a call from her or her family; My friends are sick of me whining about how betrayed I feel. ( I can see it in their eyes) and they don't understand why I can not move on.. My parents told me to get over it and I stopped talking to her brother who basically said the same thing.. I feel like I cannot move...fear stricken like a deer staring at the headlights of an on coming car. The problem is that I really love this girl but she doesn't love me back, In fact I really don't think she really knows what love is...(I know that my love for her will destroy me..because she is hell bent on destroying herself)..She has an extremely troubled past. I know I cannot start dating but how else can I get over this? Will dating help me move on?
simplybrill Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Dating WILL help you move on, because it will get your mind off of the EX. Hell just hanging out with people of the opposite sex helps with that too. I've found I'm going through the rollercoaster myself now, the ups....the downs...the "why the hell did I get on this ride anyways" feeling...
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