ConfusedT Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Jus keep breaking our own hearts over and over and over again. I don't want him back, but I want to hear him say im sorry, i was wrong, but instead its the same excuses and I cannot continue even listening at this point.. bc its never going to happen!! Obviously LC is not the right option for me, even though it has to be. I figure I do not NEED to talk to him until next month to be honest, SO, I am going to try to go NC all the way until I have to get money from him next month- regardless of what he texts me. Even though I broke up with him, even though I walked away, even though he abused me, the toxicity of the relationship has me sitting here sad and miserable. So dumpees, the dumpers do go through some of the same stages you do, so even if we act "perfect" in public, that might not be how we are really feeling..... i dont understand this..
Blckrooster46 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 I didn't abuse my gf I treated her great in the last month I got stressed with school work and money and i started dumb fights but I really treated like a queen before any of that. Then she broke up with me out of the blue, that is what it felt like at least, so I am dying every day and I haven't heard a word from her but I know she been online shopping a lot which is what she does when she is depressed. So I guess all I can say is why wouldnt you or her just want to be happy again. If she hadn't jumped to breaking up with me she would have realized that I had planned to take her to the baltimore aquarium for her birthday and spend the day together. Ahhh I just don't get it. She always cried and said I was going to break up with her over stupid stuff. So why do you just want to be over him?
316 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 So dumpees, the dumpers do go through some of the same stages you do, so even if we act "perfect" in public, that might not be how we are really feeling..... This cannot be stressed enough! I feel like most people on here try to demonize dumpers too harshly but sometimes dumpers take the break up just as hard as the dumpees but you'd never know it. This is another reason why Facebook is so misleading... You can be depressed in bed for 10 hours straight but all you gotta do is go out for a few hours with your "buds" and take a few pics at some bars or whatever and you look like the happiest person alive. You really don't know what's going on in a person's life unless if you're literally walking in their shoes on a daily basis. 3
1908 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 This cannot be stressed enough! I feel like most people on here try to demonize dumpers too harshly but sometimes dumpers take the break up just as hard as the dumpees but you'd never know it. This is another reason why Facebook is so misleading... You can be depressed in bed for 10 hours straight but all you gotta do is go out for a few hours with your "buds" and take a few pics at some bars or whatever and you look like the happiest person alive. You really don't know what's going on in a person's life unless if you're literally walking in their shoes on a daily basis. Seems like it from what I've read. I was the dumper in my past relationship and it eats me up on a daily basis. I didn't cheat on her, didn't physically or mentally abuse her, didn't have drug or alcohol problems, etc etc... We were great together and no one saw it coming in when I ended it. I made a mistake. Nothing more, nothing less. I wish I could turn back time and undo it but it doesn't work like that unfortunately.
Amelie1980 Posted May 13, 2013 Posted May 13, 2013 Seems like it from what I've read. I was the dumper in my past relationship and it eats me up on a daily basis. I didn't cheat on her, didn't physically or mentally abuse her, didn't have drug or alcohol problems, etc etc... We were great together and no one saw it coming in when I ended it. I made a mistake. Nothing more, nothing less. I wish I could turn back time and undo it but it doesn't work like that unfortunately. Have you ever tried to undo it?
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